irc333 Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 I know there are some people here that always has this "If she hasn't put out or let you touch her by X date, then she FZ'ed you or to 'move on'" I sometimes don't necessarily agree with that, because EVERYONE is different, and some of these rules just don't apply to these individuals. Some people just have different means of familiarizing themselves with others, and to be frank.....sometimes these don't fall into regular dating methods. I.e. - some people prefer to get to know each other at group outings, no pressure, no sitting across from each other at a table, one -on - one cold turkey get together. The idea of fellowship with other friends, where people meet, get introduced to one another, and meetup up, then date, then get married and so on. This one woman I met online, she kind of blew me off when we were making plans to go out. I sent he an email asking, "What happened to you?" She calls me instead, and we get to talking, and she's telling me she was unsure about meeting me on a regular date, however, she says I make her laugh, and I seem safe, because all the other guys she's met online, had made her seriously uncomfortable and had said or did things quite immoral. She did say she has serious trust issues, but I make her laugh, and had been the only guy to make her comfortable in a LONG time, and for some reason, doesn't want to ruin it with any kind of intimacy......at least not now. She's mostly been on first dates with these guys, so it's not like she's given her body to them, only to be screwed over....she actually avoids them...and might have come to the conclusion I'm a really great guy she enjoys hanging out with. So it might turn into something, but I'm not going to force it on her. She wanted me to attending an outing with her this morning, but it was a bit of a last min. , I had plans...and she said that she wishes I really could go with her. But I just couldn't but I'll probably see her at other group events. So we had "the talk" but, it seems she has intimacy and trust issues, that's the only thing. And I have seem to have grown on her a certain way. Any feedback on this situation? Seems like she really wants me in her life (not sure in what way....yet). She even got a bit emotional.
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 She has intimacy and trust issues. It'll come back to bite you in the butt. Trust me. Ditch her.
RedRobin Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Most decent women would have 'trust' issues if they spend enough time doing online dating. Most of the men there are looking for quick sex, not a relationship. She actually probably has no trust 'issues'... sounds like she has healthy boundaries... If she has any 'issues' at all, it would be blaming herself for some of the men there having no couth.
Author irc333 Posted April 7, 2012 Author Posted April 7, 2012 Most decent women would have 'trust' issues if they spend enough time doing online dating. Most of the men there are looking for quick sex, not a relationship. She actually probably has no trust 'issues'... sounds like she has healthy boundaries... If she has any 'issues' at all, it would be blaming herself for some of the men there having no couth. True....she's run into some real losers lately, fortunately for me, I am the only guy that actually makes her feel comfortable to be around me.
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