Body Type Selection on Dating Sites

[gotye]

dude, when I look at guy's profile first I look at is height and body type

 

i definitely will be like "oooh?;P" if a guy puts his bodytype as skinny or thin because i like thin guys and I don't want a manly guy... so if a guy who looks thin in pictures posts he is athletic/fit/muscular as his bodytype I know he considers himself pretty manly

 

also a lot of times fat guys post themselves as average/athletic and so that bodytype description makes me skeptical

 

how much do you read into that stuff?

 

I am a female who put herself at 5'6" and bodytype thin (I usually weight around 105-110), what would you read about that?

Edited April 7, 2012 by gotye

[mesmerized]

That you're 5'6" and thin? I look at the pictures and the description. Once this guy who looked 5'5" at most put 6'2" in his height section. Yeah RIGHT! So of course I didn't believe him. Or sometimes chubby or thin guys put athletic. If I can't tell from the pictures what body type they have then I pay attention to their description.

 

Personally, I only respond to athletic/manly guys. I can't be attracted to guys with thin, chubby or sometimes even the average build.

[mesmerized]

Well, that narrow's it down.

 

I know right? it sucks! Average with some muscles is ok. Chubby or thin is a big no no. When I touch a guy's arms, I wanna feel some muscles in my hands, not a chunk of fat or bones....

[gotye]

I will tell you this, if a woman only puts a head shot on her profile, odds are I will run for the hills.

 

You have heard of the myspace angles, right?

 

i have a low angle shot of my full body

it looks rly thin, i would post it but i am scared of losing anonness

[gotye]

That you're 5'6" and thin? I look at the pictures and the description. Once this guy who looked 5'5" at most put 6'2" in his height section. Yeah RIGHT! So of course I didn't believe him. Or sometimes chubby or thin guys put athletic. If I can't tell from the pictures what body type they have then I pay attention to their description.

 

Personally, I only respond to athletic/manly guys. I can't be attracted to guys with thin, chubby or sometimes even the average build.

ya, i met this guy who said it was 5'8"

when we met he asked if i was wearing heels or something

i was like an inch taller

 

but btw i am 5'6" almost 5'7" but I look really tall because of my bodytype (ppl think I am like a lot taller than average which is amusing)

[gotye]

I know right? it sucks! Average with some muscles is ok. Chubby or thin is a big no no. When I touch a guy's arms, I wanna feel some muscles in my hands, not a chunk of fat or bones....

haha

one guy i went on a date with when i felt his arms they were soft and i was like; awww ya ;P

we should def go manhunting together, we'll take opposite men. I want the effeminate soft ones, u take the manly hard ones

[mesmerized]

haha

one guy i went on a date with when i felt his arms they were soft and i was like; awww ya ;P

we should def go manhunting together, we'll take opposite men. I want the effeminate soft ones, u take the manly hard ones

 

Why do you like thin men? I mean why????? lol

 

Do you mind if I ask how is your sex drive?

[Jane2011]

I'm a person who, when I was on OkCupid, had mostly head shots and still got plenty of responses. I certainly had posted no full-body photos of myself, but I guess the fact that some of my photos were (roughly) from the waist-up were good enough to get the sense that my "thin" body type description was not a lie.

 

Also, I have a very un-desperate attitude when I'm on dating sites. Most of the men on there I don't want, anyway, so I don't sweat what the majority are thinking of me. If they see mostly head shots and think "ah, she's probably fat," I couldn't care less. I'm 5'0" and 103 lbs, so they''re wrong if they think I'm fat, but whatever.

 

About men. I'm not attracted to chubby men. I'll go "a few extra pounds" if that somehow manifests in a way that isn't an overall chubby look. But guys I've dated usually have a fit/athletic body. Last guy was pretty thin but with a wiry, toned muscles thing going on.

[gotye]

I'm a person who, when I was on OkCupid, had mostly head shots and still got plenty of responses. I certainly had posted no full-body photos of myself, but I guess the fact that some of my photos were (roughly) from the waist-up were good enough to get the sense that my "thin" body type description was not a lie.

 

Also, I have a very un-desperate attitude when I'm on dating sites. Most of the men on there I don't want, anyway, so I don't sweat what the majority are thinking of me. If they see mostly head shots and think "ah, she's probably fat," I couldn't care less. I'm 5'0" and 103 lbs, so they''re wrong if they think I'm fat, but whatever.

 

About men. I'm not attracted to chubby men. I'll go "a few extra pounds" if that somehow manifests in a way that isn't an overall chubby look. But guys I've dated usually have a fit/athletic body. Last guy was pretty thin but with a wiry, toned muscles thing going on.

 

but tbh when someone puts "a few extra pounds:" it means really fat and not like 10 lbs overweight

[january2011]

how much do you read into that stuff?

 

Not that much. Those categories on dating sites are just guides and there's also the consideration that people can be somewhat hopeful (read: delusional) about assessing their own body type. Pictures do a better job, if they are recent - which can only be verified in a face-to-face meeting.

[gotye]

Why do you like thin men? I mean why????? lol

 

Do you mind if I ask how is your sex drive?

 

naw it's cool

my sex drive is low

i have tried with different types of men, and what i get from most is thin men who aren't boney as frick

so like looks lean, but feels soft

 

and skinny men need loving too y'know we can't all want the perfectly lean n fit alpha male

 

though sometimes i do want a threesome with one

[Jane2011]

but tbh when someone puts "a few extra pounds:" it means really fat and not like 10 lbs overweight

 

Oh, I definitely agree with that (on dating sites). I likely wouldn't go for a guy who, on a dating site, puts "a few extra pounds."

 

I was speaking of guys in general. A guy I met in real life who had "a few extra pounds" (and it was really just that), I'd be fine with as long as he doesn't appear chubby.

[gotye]

Oh, I definitely agree with that (on dating sites). I likely wouldn't go for a guy who, on a dating site, puts "a few extra pounds."

 

I was speaking of guys in general. A guy I met in real life who had "a few extra pounds" (and it was really just that), I'd be fine with as long as he doesn't appear chubby.

 

ya agreed

i generally love a lanky lookin guy, but if a guys personality is so great and if he isnt like totally fat n gross, maybe even 10 lbs overweight, i would consider him genuinely...

[NeoGen85]

Haha. I'm one of those thin men. I'm 5' 9" I've never been over 145. Naturally I have a ectomorph body type. It use to bother me a lot simply because as I got older I felt like I wasn't looking my age. I will admit that I do not like working out on a regular schedule even though it would be great for me.

 

A lot of thin men(and women) normally do not have a good diet and eat too much junk food. That's never been my case. My dad had the same body type as myself and he also had a hard time gaining weight. But when he started working out he blew up(slowly). For me, I just don't have the patience.

 

I've always been big in hip-hop culture and dance so aesthetics has naturally made me toned. In the mirror I look at myself and I definitely like what I see. And I can visualize myself being bigger. But than when I think of having to eat twice as much(protein), and lifting I have a Patrice O'Neal moment; "You're telling me I have to wake up and do this again"?

 

Most women who are very active like to go rock climbing, run marathon's, jump out of planes..quite frankly all that's too much for me. Some of it is dangerous too and I think being black is enough thrill already.

[ascendotum]

I know right? it sucks! Average with some muscles is ok. Chubby or thin is a big no no. When I touch a guy's arms, I wanna feel some muscles in my hands, not a chunk of fat or bones....

 

Mesmerised or any other women who read this post..I'm curious as to what your take is then on a guy having physique like Bruce Lee (at his most lean) like in the last and 2nd last pics on this page. Skinny but muscely.

 

Bruce Lee- Thoughts, Video, and Pictures

 

Body type selection on OLD sites is very rubbery in interpretation when it comes to the individual's profiles. A photo (recent hopefully) carried more weight for me as to reality.

[phineas]

If they put down slender or thin I expect them to be petite.

If they put down athletic & toned I expect them to look like they lift weights.

More on the leaner side, firm, no cellulite and a jaw line.

 

 

also, based on the women who view my profile I assume they are only searching by body type, like my picture & click on my profile.

Then they see i'm only 5'8" or don't have a salary listed & move on.

 

I say this because I rarely meet a woman's height or salary preferences on match.

Edited April 7, 2012 by phineas

[gotye]

Mesmerised or any other women who read this post..I'm curious as to what your take is then on a guy having physique like Bruce Lee (at his most lean) like in the last and 2nd last pics on this page. Skinny but muscely.

 

Bruce Lee- Thoughts, Video, and Pictures

 

Body type selection on OLD sites is very rubbery in interpretation when it comes to the individual's profiles. A photo (recent hopefully) carried more weight for me as to reality.

 

i once hooked up with this really lean muscular asian guy... hated it

[Pierre]

dude, when I look at guy's profile first I look at is height and body type

 

i definitely will be like "oooh?;P" if a guy puts his bodytype as skinny or thin because i like thin guys and I don't want a manly guy... so if a guy who looks thin in pictures posts he is athletic/fit/muscular as his bodytype I know he considers himself pretty manly

 

also a lot of times fat guys post themselves as average/athletic and so that bodytype description makes me skeptical

 

how much do you read into that stuff?

 

I am a female who put herself at 5'6" and bodytype thin (I usually weight around 105-110), what would you read about that?

 

 

Why not date someone you have seen in person?

 

Why date someone based on some sort of biography? Dating in this manner has got to be highly frustrating since you are bound to find imperfections 9/10 times.

 

I like an hourglass body in a female. 5'6, 110 says nothing about the body type.

 

I have to assume that anyone that goes to a dating site has difficulty finding a date in the traditional manner. Therefore, dating sites are likely full of strange folks. Most average normal people can date in a more traditional manner by asking out people they know from work, school, neighborhood, etc.

[gotye]

Why not date someone you have seen in person?

 

Why date someone based on some sort of biography? Dating in this manner has got to be highly frustrating since you are bound to find imperfections 9/10 times.

 

I like an hourglass body in a female. 5'6, 110 says nothing about the body type.

 

I have to assume that anyone that goes to a dating site has difficulty finding a date in the traditional manner. Therefore, dating sites are likely full of strange folks. Most average normal people can date in a more traditional manner by asking out people they know from work, school, neighborhood, etc.

well, mainly i read into what they chose as their bodytype as what kind of person they are

 

also a lot of respectable ppl use online dating, it's easier than in real life. All my other relationships have formed from real life meetings, but right now don't feel like going out and finding men

[jennisfora]

i like online dating because where I live, most people I meet on the street are much older than me. i live in a retirement town. Although some of these elderly gents would love to date me, I am not into them. I prefer 30 to 40 year olds.

[lso802]

Therefore, dating sites are likely full of strange folks. Most average normal people can date in a more traditional manner by asking out people they know from work, school, neighborhood, etc.

 

I don't date people I go to work or school with. Not even interested in the people in my neighborhood. Should things go awry, it will be awkward for a very long time.

 

I usually try to meet people ASAP from online dating sites instead of getting to know them online anyway. I don't care what they have to say about themselves online. I want to see how they are in person. Actually had a girl a few days ago try to pull the let's chat for a while shtick and then maybe meet up later. So I told her whenever she's up for meeting up, contact me then.

[Pierre]

I don't date people I go to work or school with. Not even interested in the people in my neighborhood. Should things go awry, it will be awkward for a very long time.

 

I usually try to meet people ASAP from online dating sites instead of getting to know them online anyway. I don't care what they have to say about themselves online. I want to see how they are in person. Actually had a girl a few days ago try to pull the let's chat for a while shtick and then maybe meet up later. So I told her whenever she's up for meeting up, contact me then.

 

Dating unknown people and hoping to win the lottery has got to be awkward.

 

I rather date someone I have met IRL.

[gotye]

Dating unknown people and hoping to win the lottery has got to be awkward.

 

I rather date someone I have met IRL.

 

that's why you meet the person online irl?

[jennisfora]

yeah, best case scenario you meet up in person as soon as possible. the longer it remains online only, the more likely you are to fall for something that isn't real. I had a long distance quasi-relationship once, online, and it was frustrating, and dysfunctional, so now i have it set to only get people who live in the area, like within 10 miles. I do not want to do long distance, ever ever again. lol.

[Professor X]

Dating unknown people and hoping to win the lottery has got to be awkward.

 

I rather date someone I have met IRL.

 

And meeting someone in RL makes him... known? You still don't know even 1/100 of his personality and I don't care how much of a people reader you think you are.

 

As long as you keep the online phase short, I don't see any harm in OLD, not that I have ever done it myself, but my friend did and it worked great for him.