jamie1987 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Ok when after a breakup should u start dating i really miss my ex we have been broke up for a month and she made it hell for me i was in tears for 3 weeks and she did not care less we have a daughter together and i was dropped like a piece of **** she stood on. She has made everyone hate me like her family and friends by saying i would not leave her alone and i was pestering her. But this week i really am starting to despise her and hate her for what she has put me through i don't like feeling this way because we were so happy together we had our ups and downs but the problem was she never tried to fix our relationship she always walked away and i was the one chasing her trying to fix it, i mean we were just about to move into our new house and book our family holiday and we had an argument and she told me she was sick of the arguments and that she does not love me any more. So im thinking i should date and try and meet someone else and then i will be completely over her for good what do you think?
Stilnaught Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 You go out to meet someone. You meet someone. You have good times with her. You have worse time with her, or just get used to her. And then you'll get bitten in the *ss by your mind, because it has never been at peace with your situation. Let the situation die down, take care of yourself, and don't get yourself in more problems by pulling outsiders into it by rebounding on new women. There is but one failproof weapon to battle feelings with: time. And fill that time by taking care of yourself and having fun. Put your mind on other things. Now you're 100 percent focussed on this issue, which will never lead to good decisions, especially with the overflow of emotions. 1
N0where Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 (edited) Totally agree with Stilnaught. You need to re-prioritize. Focus on your daughter no.1 and yourself no.2. It is NOT your job to make her happy. You have probably smothered her in the past, because her actions made you insecure, and you though "if you just loved her more" everything would work out. Unfortunately that is not how it works. Read here about the 180.. take some pointers. Do not be her doormat she will never respect you for it. If she doesn't respect you she won't love you. You can probably save your relationship (if you want to), and I would think its worth a try if you have a daughter together. If you chase, she will run. STOP chasing, don't tell her you love her, don't text her, don't FB or email her, go LC, and try to focus on your daughter and yourself, and 95% of the time she will come crawling back to you. Respect your self and re-claim your masculinity (it what attracted her in the first place). You can then think about if you are even wanting to get back together with her. Also, if you have a daughter and live with this woman, you should seriously consult a lawyer, you don't want to get screwed because you thought "you could work it out." Be civil, don't tell he about the lawyer, but be prepared in case she is NOT civil. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/separation-divorce/314882-180a Edited April 7, 2012 by N0where
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