blindesided Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Ugh!!! I cant go anywhere without reminders of my ex!!!! Every song on the radio - place I pass... an event happened at work with an indside joke that onnly him & I would know....I think of him. My phone accidentally called him - I dont know how - he wasnt even the last # I called - maybe his message was a bunch of garbled noise since I didnt even know it dialed him. I was mortified - I have tried to live by the NC rule - it has helped so much! The last dagger to my heart - I ran into a bunch of his friends today at a event downtown - of all the thousands of people there - I run into them!!!!! Come on - Karma or Destiny or whatever - please you are not making this easy for me at all & I really am trying!!!!!
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 I know. It sucks. The best we can do is cringe when that happens and look away or change the station or whatever it takes to get distracted. Hang in there. That's what they keep telling me, so I am going to pass it on.
jennisfora Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Blind, I feel ya. the other day a person who is a client of my ex's mom's dog grooming business came into my workplace and innocently asked how my boys were, meaning the ex and my son, and i had to tell her that he left me, she was like, awh, that's so sad. you looked like the perfect little family. after i left work, i cried in my car, it was like he just left me all over again.
Itsonlyme66 Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 So hard when friends who only knew us as a long term couple run into me and ask "how's J?" and I have to explain it. over and over again. we're no longer together. He left. blah blah. it hurts me so much to relive it and then to see their pity. I hate it. The radio is another crappy reminder. Together 6 years we had so many songs we both loved. Bob Seger came on the radio the other day - his favorite - and I almost smacked the radio channel away. It was like I had seen his truck or something. It really hit home and it literally was like a sharp pain hearing the song. I can't tell you how hard this is, or how much it hurts, because you already know.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Ugh!!! I cant go anywhere without reminders of my ex!!!! Every song on the radio - place I pass... an event happened at work with an indside joke that onnly him & I would know....I think of him. My phone accidentally called him - I dont know how - he wasnt even the last # I called - maybe his message was a bunch of garbled noise since I didnt even know it dialed him. I was mortified - I have tried to live by the NC rule - it has helped so much! The last dagger to my heart - I ran into a bunch of his friends today at a event downtown - of all the thousands of people there - I run into them!!!!! Come on - Karma or Destiny or whatever - please you are not making this easy for me at all & I really am trying!!!!! Totally get this, my friend. Rest assured that this is only temporary.I used to let my imagination get away with me and imagine him and the new g/f together going to all the places he and I went to and it drove me batty. Keep NC, it's the thing that will make you stronger. Nothing to be mortified about; you couldn't help but run into those people; it's not like you were seeking them out and you have as much right to be at that event as everyone else. Delete his number from your phone so there are no more butt dialing accidents;) You can do this. I am virtually picking you up by your bra straps and pointing you in a positive direction. As for songs, I always tell people to try to listen to things that don't have anything to do with the ex. Classical, jazz, bubblegum pop from the 70s....Anything that will take your mind away from the sad stuff. Keep on keeping on; you can do this:)
Author blindesided Posted April 7, 2012 Author Posted April 7, 2012 Thanks guys - I know you all know what I'm going through - it helps to know that I am not alone. Yep phone # was deleted after the accidental call. I wasnt mortified to run into his friends - it was good to see them - Its just when I think I am taking a step forward to get over him - its two steps back (like seeing his friends - the reminder of him kind of smacks you in the face) I guess I should be thankful he wasnt there - that wouldve really done me in - lol 1
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Thanks guys - I know you all know what I'm going through - it helps to know that I am not alone. Yep phone # was deleted after the accidental call. I wasnt mortified to run into his friends - it was good to see them - Its just when I think I am taking a step forward to get over him - its two steps back (like seeing his friends - the reminder of him kind of smacks you in the face) I guess I should be thankful he wasnt there - that wouldve really done me in - lol You just reminded me of something positive; my ex didn't have any friends! So at least I don't worry about running into any. 1
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