wwwjd Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 (edited) Let's here them! This one time, I was taking my GIRLFRIEND to a live band show at this very large indoor bar. We had seats in at the very front tables so we could get hit by their sweat. After about a half hour of waiting for the show and our general chit chat, she decided to hit the girls room. I stay around chillaxing for a while, holding the table, not really worried because she can handle herself, and we get along great and all that. But it was going on 15 - 20 minutes, and so I started to become concerned. I looked over and she was up at the bar talking and laughing with some guy. That's ok, it was probably an old friend or work associate or something, and I trust her and didn't need to "mark my territory" or any of that because we've been dating successfully for 6 months or so. After many more minutes pass, I look over and catch her eye, and she smiles and waves. I smiled back and gave her the visual shrug "what gives?" hand gesture. We had the prime table up front and I didn't go over because then someone would grab it immediately. She kinda nodded and started walking my way with the guy following. They come over and she introduces "Brad" and asks him to sit down with us. That's cool. Well, it is all a blur in my memory now, but I asked how she knew him and she told me she had just met him at the bar. YOINK?? This guy was hitting on MY date, MY GIRLFRIEND right in front of me. AND SHE WAS FINE WITH IT!!! There was no misreading this. She looks great, is very personable, had hit it off with a guy at the bar getting a drink, WHILE SHE WAS THERE WITH ME. That was the most absurd date of my lifetime. WITH a "stable" girlfriend too. NEXT! Edited April 6, 2012 by wwwjd 1
Author wwwjd Posted April 7, 2012 Author Posted April 7, 2012 an ex now yes. this was quite a while ago. but it still stuns me thinking why someone would ever do that. her OR him even. No one else has interesting stories?
january2011 Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 I don't think I'd class that as shocking, rude and tactless, but perhaps not shocking. I was expecting an anecdote along the lines of taking someone to a dissection or a dog-fighting match or some such, something gruesome like that.
somedude81 Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 That was pretty stupid of her. What do you do in that situation? Break up with her then and there? Seems pretty pointless to try and continue the relationship if she pulls crap like that.
Author wwwjd Posted April 7, 2012 Author Posted April 7, 2012 heheheh well, I guess in my lil world, I found it pretty shocking/amazing/stupid. Delt: we talked about it later and in typical naive girl fashion she had NO IDEA the guy was hitting on her. She just found it to be friendly banter. Falls in line with guys/gals not able to be friends thing where the girl doesn't acknowledge how that fails. She was husband/provider hunting big time and I wasn't stepping up (thanks to things like that happening) so we split up some time later. Come on! I wanna hear other's crazy, goofed up stories from out there
dasein Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Have dated several over the years who while we weren't exclusive, would call me up to come over for NSA after they have been on a date with some other dude that night, eating and drinking on his dime. If he had any idea what was going on just an hour after their date, there's no way in hell he'd be paying for her meals and drink. After this started happening, it got me thinking. In all likelihood, many of them have done the exact same thing to me, acting like vestal virgins on their date with me, the "nesting candidate," then juiced up by good wine, a meal and generally horny, they call "boytoy" over for fun. I went to stay with a buddy of mine for a week who lives in a college town and is good with women. He had a nonstop stream of women in and out of there, all walks of life, while I was there, several of them having been DROPPED OFF BY THEIR HUSBANDS AND BFs, and thinking they were dropping their wife off at her GF's house, when in actuality, they were dropping her off to suck my friend's d-ck!! He wasn't even screwing them, they were just coming to give BJs, probably out of resentment for their husbands and BFs. I learned a TON about women during that visit. So no, no more nice early dates that I pay for, and no more exclusive relationships until I am absolutely sure she is not the type to do this kind of thing. I was shocked and amazed to see the types of women and the raw numbers engaging in this kind of behavior. Suggest all men do the same when deciding whether to pay for dates and get exclusive or not.
PlumPrincess Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Have dated several over the years who while we weren't exclusive, would call me up to come over for NSA after they have been on a date with some other dude that night, eating and drinking on his dime. If he had any idea what was going on just an hour after their date, there's no way in hell he'd be paying for her meals and drink. After this started happening, it got me thinking. In all likelihood, many of them have done the exact same thing to me, acting like vestal virgins on their date with me, the "nesting candidate," then juiced up by good wine, a meal and generally horny, they call "boytoy" over for fun. I went to stay with a buddy of mine for a week who lives in a college town and is good with women. He had a nonstop stream of women in and out of there, all walks of life, while I was there, several of them having been DROPPED OFF BY THEIR HUSBANDS AND BFs, and thinking they were dropping their wife off at her GF's house, when in actuality, they were dropping her off to suck my friend's d-ck!! He wasn't even screwing them, they were just coming to give BJs, probably out of resentment for their husbands and BFs. I learned a TON about women during that visit. So no, no more nice early dates that I pay for, and no more exclusive relationships until I am absolutely sure she is not the type to do this kind of thing. I was shocked and amazed to see the types of women and the raw numbers engaging in this kind of behavior. Suggest all men do the same when deciding whether to pay for dates and get exclusive or not. That's really low behavior. You really have to check your people picker. I'm pretty sure most women I know don't do that. And I think most guys I know don't do that either. Ok, I guess, these guy would find me too boring anyway. Oh, now I got it, your friend's lose and indiscriminate behavior attracted the kind of women he wanted and who would support and tolerate his behavior.
Author wwwjd Posted April 7, 2012 Author Posted April 7, 2012 yeah that story doesn't help the overall perspective of woman. but, it does happen, that is out there, and they do exist. Still, I've met enough good ones, and some AMAZING hearts of gold, to know not ALL woman are like that. Just college women. HA! Just kidding. There truly are great girls that are out there still in the mix. Most of the time, they are simply not as obvious or easy.
somedude81 Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Have dated several over the years who while we weren't exclusive, would call me up to come over for NSA after they have been on a date with some other dude that night, eating and drinking on his dime. If he had any idea what was going on just an hour after their date, there's no way in hell he'd be paying for her meals and drink. After this started happening, it got me thinking. In all likelihood, many of them have done the exact same thing to me, acting like vestal virgins on their date with me, the "nesting candidate," then juiced up by good wine, a meal and generally horny, they call "boytoy" over for fun. I went to stay with a buddy of mine for a week who lives in a college town and is good with women. He had a nonstop stream of women in and out of there, all walks of life, while I was there, several of them having been DROPPED OFF BY THEIR HUSBANDS AND BFs, and thinking they were dropping their wife off at her GF's house, when in actuality, they were dropping her off to suck my friend's d-ck!! He wasn't even screwing them, they were just coming to give BJs, probably out of resentment for their husbands and BFs. I learned a TON about women during that visit. So no, no more nice early dates that I pay for, and no more exclusive relationships until I am absolutely sure she is not the type to do this kind of thing. I was shocked and amazed to see the types of women and the raw numbers engaging in this kind of behavior. Suggest all men do the same when deciding whether to pay for dates and get exclusive or not. Damn, that is disgusting.
Professor X Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Oh, now I got it, your friend's lose and indiscriminate behavior attracted the kind of women he wanted and who would support and tolerate his behavior. I highly doubt it has anything to do with his friends personality. He probably looks good and doesn't mind messing around with multiple women, that's about it in regards to his personality.
dasein Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 That's really low behavior. It's pretty common actually. It's the other side of the coin that you never see in the SATC type shows, they always do a good job of "separating" the male love interests as opposed to portraying it as it really happens IRL where Mr. Big gets a kiss from a mouth that just sucked off one of the other ones an hour before. That plot element didn't make it into the show somehow LOL. And to clarify, it's not the behavior itself that is repulsive, it's the inconsistency in accepting courtship largesse and painting oneself one way to one man or group of men, while simultaneously acting a different way with other men. What reasonable person would want to make a lifetime commitment to someone like that? Women are no better, not one bit, than men in their sexual behavior today, worse even in the greater ease they have in getting sex. Men who treat women as "ladies" before a LONG time spent making sure that's what they are actually dealing with are making a gigantic mistake today.
dasein Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 (edited) I highly doubt it has anything to do with his friends personality. He probably looks good and doesn't mind messing around with multiple women, that's about it in regards to his personality. He does look good, and yeah that's mostly all there is to his appeal. I have two other friends who used to do the exact same thing before settling down with many attached and married women. I never spent time staying with them to see the raw numbers or their routine, just heard about the details from them. Neither was as good looking but one had the gift of gab and the other gave off a very wealthy, aristocratic air that women ate up even though he wasn't rich at all. Another interesting story involved this "aristocrat" friend. He started banging a girl who it turned out was engaged to a friend of my family. She hid the engagement entirely from aristocrat, despite that the friend of the family had bought her a car, paid her rent, her tuition, and most importantly, she had given him no idea whatsoever that she wasn't 100% devoted to him, the engagement and wedding were her idea. Behind his back, she would tell my friend that she couldn't stand to be with him, was doing it for the money, cringed whenever he touched her, same old same old. Once my friend figured out that she was engaged and to whom, he cut ties with her. She kept trying to get with my friend and couldn't understand why they couldn't carry on in the same way even after she was married. It was a rare case of seeing both sides of these types of deals. Everyone, male and female, should be very careful whom they date and marry today, and go slow like molasses until you are sure what you are dealing with. Edited April 7, 2012 by dasein
ThaWholigan Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Have dated several over the years who while we weren't exclusive, would call me up to come over for NSA after they have been on a date with some other dude that night, eating and drinking on his dime. If he had any idea what was going on just an hour after their date, there's no way in hell he'd be paying for her meals and drink. After this started happening, it got me thinking. In all likelihood, many of them have done the exact same thing to me, acting like vestal virgins on their date with me, the "nesting candidate," then juiced up by good wine, a meal and generally horny, they call "boytoy" over for fun. I went to stay with a buddy of mine for a week who lives in a college town and is good with women. He had a nonstop stream of women in and out of there, all walks of life, while I was there, several of them having been DROPPED OFF BY THEIR HUSBANDS AND BFs, and thinking they were dropping their wife off at her GF's house, when in actuality, they were dropping her off to suck my friend's d-ck!! He wasn't even screwing them, they were just coming to give BJs, probably out of resentment for their husbands and BFs. I learned a TON about women during that visit. So no, no more nice early dates that I pay for, and no more exclusive relationships until I am absolutely sure she is not the type to do this kind of thing. I was shocked and amazed to see the types of women and the raw numbers engaging in this kind of behavior. Suggest all men do the same when deciding whether to pay for dates and get exclusive or not. . I know so many stories like this, it shouldn't even be funny but it is. This is certainly not uncommon, trust me. I've been around a lot of people, and I've seen this stuff happen a lot in my young age. It's just my fortunate luck that I don't tend to put my emotions on the line, it's the only way that will work for me.
Author wwwjd Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 and go slow like molasses until you are sure what you are dealing with. And where on this planet do I find people as accepting of this technique as I am?
PlumPrincess Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 He does look good, and yeah that's mostly all there is to his appeal. I have two other friends who used to do the exact same thing before settling down with many attached and married women. I never spent time staying with them to see the raw numbers or their routine, just heard about the details from them. Neither was as good looking but one had the gift of gab and the other gave off a very wealthy, aristocratic air that women ate up even though he wasn't rich at all. Another interesting story involved this "aristocrat" friend. He started banging a girl who it turned out was engaged to a friend of my family. She hid the engagement entirely from aristocrat, despite that the friend of the family had bought her a car, paid her rent, her tuition, and most importantly, she had given him no idea whatsoever that she wasn't 100% devoted to him, the engagement and wedding were her idea. Behind his back, she would tell my friend that she couldn't stand to be with him, was doing it for the money, cringed whenever he touched her, same old same old. Once my friend figured out that she was engaged and to whom, he cut ties with her. She kept trying to get with my friend and couldn't understand why they couldn't carry on in the same way even after she was married. It was a rare case of seeing both sides of these types of deals. Everyone, male and female, should be very careful whom they date and marry today, and go slow like molasses until you are sure what you are dealing with. In what rotten place do you live???
dasein Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 In what rotten place do you live??? People are rotten, not places, and in the U.S. today, they are rotten all over.
ThaWholigan Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 People are rotten, not places, and in the U.S. today, they are rotten all over. ^^^This London's a big place too, lots of rotten people here aswell . I keep trying to say to people that although there are a lot of people who don't engage in this stuff, there are equal amounts of people who do.
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