singlelife Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 My friends date a few and they say one day they're all on you then they next they act like they don't know you. Then they're on you again. So was hoping to get some clarity.
wwwjd Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 (edited) Society shuns getting serious at younger ages, which goes directly against natures design, thus causing confused flip flopping for a while. It sucks, but that is the laws that lawyers created to profit from the most, so there it is. They are left dangling and confused for a while before getting into a solid relationship, instead of falling head over heels early, marrying and being happy. So, expeiment in college, get more f-ed up in the head and settle down later. Edited April 6, 2012 by wwwjd missed a crucial word
Author singlelife Posted April 6, 2012 Author Posted April 6, 2012 Society shuns getting serious at younger ages, which goes directly against natures design, thus causing confused flip flopping for a while. It sucks, but that is the laws that lawyers created to profit from the most, so there it is. They are left dangling and confused for a while before getting into a solid relationship, instead of falling head over heels early, marrying and being happy. So, expeiment in college, get more f-ed up in the head and settle down later. So women want to settle down but are encouraged not to? Interesting.
threebyfate Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Should children get serious since fun is unnecessary? Back in the 1800s, children were seen but not heard and extremely useful for chimney sweeping.
wwwjd Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 (edited) So women want to settle down but are encouraged not to? Interesting. Don't you think if people got more serious earlier and GREW together into love and life, they'd be more stable, less empty, lost, less sleeping around, cheating, playing the field, breaking too many hearts? I do. I can't speak for other countries but here in America, we cram sex into our childrens brains 24/7 in the media BEFORE they are old enough to have it, and they have it anyway because they can* and we call it TEEN PREGNANCY instead of NORMAL (*nature decides this age, not lawyers), but lawyers peg 18 on everything... then when they hit 18 they are told to get drunk and cut loose - experiment in college all you can, then a decade later when they are a used up, jaded and depressed they get married (their little girl fantasy since they got their first Ken and Barbie dolls) after having been around the block so many times they are dizzy from it. Ever heard a married woman say "Boy I am so glad I am not out there anymore!" Because they are finally where they always wanted to be and don't have to keep going through all that torture of finding a mate.... that could have been skipped much earlier in life by bonding with someone. Yet when they are young girls and starting to play games, they play "House" where they are a mom managing the nest and the neighbor boy is fantasized as the provider father figure. Never once heard of a little girl playing "drunk college ho finding herself in trying to avoid pregnancy" because that is not what they are naturally driven to want or do. If they are not naturally driven to this, why are there so many married people in the world? It is what their natural instinct is to do: find a man and settle down. All this "get out there and mess about, trading up" etc is commercialism profiting off misdirection. But all this is nearly impossible to prove or see with our society designed the way it is. So, I've seen this wishy washy in women all my life and behind it was what they REALLY want: to just find a good man and settle down. Women will tell you directly, vocally this is not true, but you got to dive down deeper into their id that they might not be capable of accepting: their real truth. If it wasn't true, why are they bothering with "relationships" at all? Why not just skip ALL relationship attachments, flirting, communication etc with the opposite sex and get strait to their biologically driven need for procreation? Why not, because they want to be IN a relationship with a man. But the cards are all shuffled now and there is almost no direct path and our early friendship bonds, that nature intended to be lifelong, are cut off and redirected into "you need to experience everything to be happy" programming. Who does this programming and why? Money. The system is more profitable to the most this way. I can't tell you everyone getting married younger would work because there is no way our system would allow that to happen. And trying it now within our system fails because the system is designed against that. Yeah, it sounds like some crazy fantasy world (because we are all brought up to think the same way in our system) but OUR system goes against natures design. If it did not, there would never be even ONE "teen pregnancy" in existance. So, we clearly have something setup wrong. Women go through wishy washy when they could easily skip that part. Depression and mental anxieties are at record highs for populations.... coincidentally, so are the sales of anti-depressants... say, don't drug companies make MONEY off the drugs they legally sell to people? .... hmmmmmmm, interesting.... Edited April 7, 2012 by wwwjd 1
wwwjd Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Then there is modern man's consistant failure at their role which ALLOWS the woman's wishy washy to exist in the first place, but that is a whole huge other topic.
mesmerized Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 (edited) meh, more than half of these people who get married (early or later in life) end up unhappy or divorced anyway. If marriage was just such a great "natural" thing this wouldn't happen. And I don't believe it happened less in the past because people for whatever reason were happier in marriages. It happened less because it was frowned upon and women were helpless without a man so they had to stay. I should know as I know countless women in this situation. Edited April 7, 2012 by mesmerized 1
wwwjd Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 more than half of these people who get married (early or later in life) end up unhappy or divorced anyway. If marriage was just such a great "natural" thing this wouldn't happen. or maybe this happens because our current system is not structured around supporting happy relationships? dont forget, "Family Law" practice is a BILLION DOLLAR PROFITABLE industry, not the best way to keep relationships stable. They don't make money off stability. And are women happier now while always looking to trade up and break their own hearts and others on the way, rather than GROW into solid love relationship? (not fall into it like some believe happens) I don't see it.
udolipixie Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 From my experiences/observations young people tend to be wishy washy.
Author singlelife Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 From my experiences/observations young people tend to be wishy washy. yeah, it's not a like you don't like you thing. they're just wishy washy.
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