jetsinboxes Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I was with my ex girlfriend for a little over 2 years. We had a long distance relationship. We met working for the same software company in Austin while I would commute from San Antonio. Things were going great until June 2011. Starting in June of 2011 we had three breakups all which had the same exact theme. I struggled with including her in my family. My ex had very strong beliefs that family was important and wanted to be involved with mine. I hesitated for quite some time as my brother has a disability that I did not want to necessarily scare her off with. Out of these three break ups she came back to me twice herself asking to fix things. The other time I initiated the contact as I truly wanted us to work out. So we got back together end of November 2011 and everything was fine in December 2011. I even introduced her to my family which she indicated excitement over. January 4th came and she sends a simple text saying that she feels like we’re not meant to be and that she doesn’t want me to contact her anymore. This came as a shock to me as we had dinner a couple nights before this message and nothing negative had been discussed. On top of this days before she met my family and loved them. She had sent similar messages in the past but we were able to reconcile from. So I gave her two weeks to think things over and I messaged her with no response back. I waited one more month only to find that she started dating a new guy from a friend who was still friends with her on Facebook. I immediately contacted her and she says that she indeed has moved on and that she’s in love and knew it the moment she met him. I asked if this guy with whom she’d only been with for a month and a half at the time had asked her to marry him and she said no. I continue to press for more info as I felt like there had to be more to this, and the only other reason she would give was that I never told her I loved her. At that point I didn’t know what to say because how can you answer to something like that? I showed her that I loved her and we even talked about it yet we were both to scared to ever make the move. I’m completely at a loss. I feel like I’m not being given a straight answer from my ex whether I deserve one or not at this point. It doesn’t make sense that she loved me only to fall out of love at the drop of a hat and to go be with another man who was able to swoop her off her feet during a vulnerable time. This new guy has a crappy sales job, is already divorced, and even has a kid. My ex and I discussed frequently how we would both love to have our own child which this behavior seems to contradict. Is there anything I can do besides let another man simply have what was to be a perfect woman? I sound like such a fool for still having such strong feelings for a woman that continues to make me feel like I’m not good enough for her. My ex and I frequently talked about marriage, kids, having a home ect so I am having a difficult time seeing where things went wrong or if I can salvage this given that it’s been three months with this new guy and she insists she doesn’t want to lose the new guy……
lizardking8610 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 MOVE ON! I know it will be tough but in all honesty you dont want to deal with this girl in the future. Someone who doesnt even have the respect to answer your straight forward questions is obviously confused, immature and hate to say it Untrustworthy Read the link in my signature to help you get started Also read past threads on this forum and you will learn what the next right step is. The question is, are you going to take it?
Nohbody Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 There's probably nothing you can do, if someone doesn't want you in their life... give it to them. It's their loss.
lilyblue Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 It seems odd that after two years you were still hesitant to introduce her to your family an neither of you had said "I love you". That is a long time to be together without that level of comfort and gives the impression that maybe the relationship wasn't as strong as you seem to think. 2
Author jetsinboxes Posted April 6, 2012 Author Posted April 6, 2012 @lilyblue as tough as it is to hear that you're probably right. :-/ I definitely screwed this one up. Thanks for the responses.
gibson Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 (edited) Doing Nothing... Is something. My advice... Read what I (homebrew/gibson) wrote in the thread below: Click Me if you want to bring out the very best in you and give your Ex the best chance to get you back (Yes, you read that correctly... I said to give your Ex the best chance to get you back)! Edited April 6, 2012 by gibson
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