gotye Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 my parents accept any guy I date as long as he isn't abusive in anyway they are really cool about it. My last bf was twice my age and my mom was understandably uncomfortable with it but accepted it is my life and as long as I work hard and graduate on time I can make my own choices romantically.
january2011 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 As far as I know, my family have never liked any of my partners/dates. But that's okay, they're not the ones dating him. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I'm pretty picky about who I have a relationship with, and as far as dates I won't bring people around my family that I'm just dating...not really my style. Luckily pretty much everyone I've had a serious relationship with my family accepted pretty quickly and grew close to, I'm not very close to my family and a lot of it is out of town, although I spend holidays and such with them. Often times they grew closer to my immediate family than I am, because I'm kind of a hard ass and not the best at expressing myself to my family...there's a rough history. With the exception of one person whom I felt my mom judged too harshly, thinking I was just with her for her looks, which there was so much more to her than that...yet later found out it was more from personal issues with it's own roots rather than her. But still she got a long well with my family. I think your family and friends have a pretty good idea of what kind of person you are and who would work best with you, so even though I'm not very close to them they still know me well so I take their advice or listen to their opinion even If I don't like it...If they were really opposed I would strongly consider it, luckily It's never come to that and I seem to pick good women to have relationships with, they usually compliment me and make up for where I lack, even though they've been different on the outside I guess you could say...different ethnicity, background, lifestyle, I guess my family tends to be pretty open, but they'll tell me their opinion regardless, but they don't judge too often based on superficial things...as I've gotten older I think my mom would want someone that would be more promising to settle down with however....but let's not get into that!
RiverRunning Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 My family loved my ex-boyfriend. Aside from the (one major) problem we had initially with his ex, our relationship was decent. Sex was lackluster. But he was also funny, kind, generous, soft-spoken, helpful, intelligent, you get the idea. He took care of me in all ways and expected very little in return. He was great with kids (my pseudo-nephew keeps asking about him. We met up earlier this week to talk over some things but I'm not sure yet if we will ever get back together. I'm content with things as they are for now). Both sides of the family were happy with that relationship. When his sister announced that she was pregnant recently (and this was AFTER my break-up), his mom texted me to tell me the news...and also to say: "I really wish (my son) would marry you." That was also part of the problem we faced but I don't think she realizes that's not actually why we broke up. I think she thinks that if he showed up with a ring, we'd get back together. That whole issue was SOME of the trouble, but not all of it. My parents hated my first ex-boyfriend, good ol' Greg. Greg was such trash. We were 19 - 20, met in a college class during my freshman year. I pretty much fell at the Altar of Greg and praised that guy like no tomorrow. I remember being SO THRILLED because, shortly before we started going out, he bought me a movie ticket. Thanks for the $5, pal. I had no idea he'd frontload the first month of the relationship and then never buy me anything or take me anywhere after that. He was a manipulative, childish crybaby jerk who wanted his way all the time. He would insult me - complain about how I wasn't 'spontaneous' enough (yet he wasn't spontaneous either. I guess I was just supposed to crap out money and have an infinite supply of ideas of things to do with him). He had no responsibility...he was very immature. It should've been telling that he had friends who were just starting out in high school when we were in college. They were at roughly the same maturity level. He accused me of having an affair with my gay friend...and he had known about my friend way before we started dating. He was even jealous of my year-old cousin. The guy was way too controlling, possessive and clingy. My parents HATED him. I will never forget, after I had been dating him for about two months, my car broke down. At the time, his car was still running (not for long, though - it eventually broke down and for a year I drove him EVERYWHERE. He would blow all of his money, never offer me gas money - not eve to take him to school or to work). I asked if he would drive me and my friend to the theater, as the three of us were going to see a movie. Suddenly, he clammed up and said he couldn't drive. His reason? He felt my friend wouldn't be 'comfortable.' At the time, since he'd told me he was OK with my best friend being a gay guy, it didn't dawn on me that he was jealous. Mom picked up on it, though. In an explosive confrontation later that night, she told me that I needed to dump him. I wish I had heeded her advice. I stayed for another year! But he was the only guy who had ever really shown me any interest and I was scared to death that if I left him, I would be single for the rest of my life. It was obvious that everyone hated him, even if they didn't say it. Just the glances they would give. How if we walked into the room, everyone would get dead silent. Geez, I hate my ex-boyfriend. I even hated him when I was with him! So, out of two boyfriends, everyone among my family and friends hated the first. Some felt my last boyfriend was abrasive but generally liked him. My parents were staunch supporters and were sad to see us break-up.
setsenia Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 (edited) my parents accept any guy I date as long as he isn't abusive in anyway they are really cool about it. My last bf was twice my age and my mom was understandably uncomfortable with it but accepted it is my life and as long as I work hard and graduate on time I can make my own choices romantically. Must be nice. My dad doesn't care for me or my brother's partners based on looks and education. If you're not a hot model (six pack if you're a man and under 120lbs if you're a woman) with a huge degree and six figure income, he won't like you. Thankfully the rest of my family accepts my husband. Edited April 6, 2012 by setsenia
TaraMaiden Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 My mum dislikes my husband. I'm 55 and it still grates.....
RiverRunning Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I suspect my first boyfriend's parents were not fond of me. His mom was like 5'1" and probably close to 100 pounds - she was very tiny. Meanwhile, I'm 5'8" and at the time I dated him, obese. He packed on about 50 pounds during our relationship and I put on about 20. Suddenly, he was pressuring me to lose weight and to diet. His dad was the "jock" type - very immature, never grew up, needed a trophy girlfriend. I suspect he made a comment to my then-boyfriend about my weight, which prompted the weight loss pressures. So - I guess they probably didn't like me based on looks either. But I do know they apparently really liked my personality. Probably realized I had a lot more going than their own son did!
Author gotye Posted April 6, 2012 Author Posted April 6, 2012 You live with your mom? no, but i am still a student and a dependent is living with your mom during your student life wrong or something?
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