somedude81 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I laughed out loud at this until I realized I don't know what it means. Now that made me laugh
Anela Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I laughed out loud at this until I realized I don't know what it means. I don't know either. Glad I'm not the only one. 1
DontWorryBHappy Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 It think it really depends on how important getting into a relationship is to that person. If they don't think it's that important or that not being able to get in one doesn't say anything bad about them, they they won't think they are a loser. But if a relationship is something you desperately want and continually fail at being able to get in one, I don't know any other way to see it. This kind of attitude is one reason why I don't really feel like dating. I would never want to be with a guy who "wants a relationship" to the point where he would consider himself a loser if he didn't have one. I would not even want a guy who is actively looking for a partner. If I ever do get in another relationship, I'd want it to be with someone who wasn't looking for someone. A guy who was simply out living his life, having a good time, and perhaps being OPEN to a relationship if the RIGHT girl caught his eye and heart. But the type of guy who goes around approaching women trying to get dates, or feels BAD about not being in a relationship....... no. 1
ThatDudeXO Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Dumbest topic ever followed by the dumbest replies ever. How on earth can being single make you a loser in any way? How stupid is this logic? The whole point of being in relationships is to spend your free time romancing with someone you are compatible with and you love dearly, that is it. It seems like someone of you guys get in relationships just so you aren't lonely, feed your broken ego or to compensate for you what you lack (money, strength etc etc) The real losers are the ones who think you HAVE to be in a relationship and you're a loser if you aren't. Being in a healthy, meaningful relationship means you've had the luxury of meeting someone who is right for you, it doesn't make you a loser if you haven't found that person. The people I despise the most are the needy, life sucking idiots who feel like they have to be in a relationship to be compete or to feel good about themselves. Single or in a relationship, who gives a flying *****. ...... However I will say this; you are a single loser if you were in a happy relationship and you broke up because you cheated or abused your partner. Ha.
somedude81 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 This kind of attitude is one reason why I don't really feel like dating. I would never want to be with a guy who "wants a relationship" to the point where he would consider himself a loser if he didn't have one. I would not even want a guy who is actively looking for a partner. If I ever do get in another relationship, I'd want it to be with someone who wasn't looking for someone. A guy who was simply out living his life, having a good time, and perhaps being OPEN to a relationship if the RIGHT girl caught his eye and heart. But the type of guy who goes around approaching women trying to get dates, or feels BAD about not being in a relationship....... no. If a guy did that, he could end up being single his entire life. That's how women date, not men.
zengirl Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 The notion of winning and losing is the whole problem. Neither getting, nor maintaining relationships is about winning or losing. I don't think single people are losers, no matter why they're single, unless they whine about it all the time and continuously refuse to change the circumstances that are keeping them from being happy. But coupled people can totally be losers by that standard, too. A loser is someone who doesn't have the chutzpah and character to go after what they want, even in the face of adversity or failure, and is only happy when he/she is "winning" on such a shallow level as the discussions in this thread. As to who I feel more "sorry for," I don't think gender would matter. I feel more sorry for the person with the better character who puts more towards getting what they want, even though they keep getting knocked down. I've seen more women in that position in my life, but it's likely because I have more close friendships with women than men.
grkBoy Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I agree on the notions that "not having someone" doesn't equate you to being a "loser". I think it's pathetic that many still think that way. I see guys who go nuts to get a girlfriend, believing they are "not a loser" for getting a girl to date him...but yet they fail to look at their own personality, lifestyle, lack of ambition in life, and other shortcomings as why they are losers. Same with women. They think getting married instantly makes them "not losers", but fail to see their own personalities, attitudes, and how they carry themselves can put them in the "loser" column.
phineas Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I agree on the notions that "not having someone" doesn't equate you to being a "loser". I think it's pathetic that many still think that way. I see guys who go nuts to get a girlfriend, believing they are "not a loser" for getting a girl to date him...but yet they fail to look at their own personality, lifestyle, lack of ambition in life, and other shortcomings as why they are losers. Same with women. They think getting married instantly makes them "not losers", but fail to see their own personalities, attitudes, and how they carry themselves can put them in the "loser" column. Not to mention those people usually settle for true losers that just drag them down & make the miserable. 1
SoleMate Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Most if not all women think that if a Man is single...he must be a loser....no one wants to jump on a dry d*ck....girls love jumping on the wet ones.... Where exactly did you make this scientific observation? The county mental hospital?
KR10N Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Why is being single such a bad thing? Many people are single by choice. I am and I prefer to be single. Being in a relationship just means that I have to put forth most of my time and energy to make my s/o happy. God forbid once I do get into a relationship and I find a guy that's clingy. Makes me tremble, uhuhhhh.
Nextlane Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 the loser is someone who stays in an unhappy relationship just to be in one. I agree to this.
GravityMan Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Being single or taken is merely a status bullet point. That in itself has no relevance to whether someone is a loser or not. Whether the single person is a loser or not depends on why the person is single.
threebyfate Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Desperation marks loserhood with a capital "L" seared into forehead. The stench of desperation is the reek of human flesh, burning beneath the branding iron. So don't be a Loser!
mesmerized Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 People tend to feel more bad for a single girl than a single guy. So maybe in the eyes of the public, a single girl is more of a loser.
somedude81 Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 People tend to feel more bad for a single girl than a single guy. So maybe in the eyes of the public, a single girl is more of a loser. No, people feeling worse for a single girl does not mean they think she's a loser. They actually feel bad for her and want to help her. Nobody cares about the single man. Society says, he needs to be a man and get a girl. If he can't then he's a loser.
mesmerized Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 No, people feeling worse for a single girl does not mean they think she's a loser. They actually feel bad for her and want to help her. Nobody cares about the single man. Society says, he needs to be a man and get a girl. If he can't then he's a loser. I haven't noticed such mentality. I've been single for quite a while and nobody tried to help me.
somedude81 Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 I haven't noticed such mentality. I've been single for quite a while and nobody tried to help me. So nobody has given you tips, or advice, tired to introduce you to people or just try to make you feel better?
Jane2011 Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 I don't envy all people in relationships. My sister's been in a relationship for sixteen years, married for thirteen. I know she has what she wants, and I envy her that she has what she wants. (And at the same time, love that she does; love her...love her lots.) But in the same time period she's had one man, I've had nine pretty darn good lovers. I don't feel too bad about that. If we keep at the same rate, she'll continue to have that one man, while in the next decade, I'll have ten more hot lovers in my life. I know at the end of my life I'd be considered a whore, but so what? Sex with attractive men isn't going to upset me. Also, I generally envy a woman who's in a relationship if I think her boyfriend or husband is attractive. If I don't, the envy is relatively little. Single people aren't losers, at any rate. 1
mesmerized Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 So nobody has given you tips, or advice, tired to introduce you to people or just try to make you feel better? No lol Maybe I got an advice or two from some people I talk to on internet but that's about it I think.
mesmerized Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 I don't envy all people in relationships. My sister's been in a relationship for sixteen years, married for thirteen. I know she has what she wants, and I envy her that she has what she wants. (And at the same time, love that she does; love her...love her lots.) But in the same time period she's had one man, I've had nine pretty darn good lovers. I don't feel too bad about that. If we keep at the same rate, she'll continue to have that one man, while in the next decade, I'll have ten more hot lovers in my life. I know at the end of my life I'd be considered a whore, but so what? Sex with attractive men isn't going to upset me. Also, I generally envy a woman who's in a relationship if I think her boyfriend or husband is attractive. If I don't, the envy is relatively little. Single people aren't losers, at any rate. damn, I need to have more friends like you! May God send our way more attractive men. 1
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