Author SadGrl Posted April 6, 2012 Author Posted April 6, 2012 I don't know what you mean, woman.....
CarrieT Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Why do you believe that being single equates to being a loser at all? Many people are single by choice. Being a relationship does not necessarily equate to being perfect; look at all the screwed up relationships that exist. Try being the best person you can be, regardless of your relationship status. That is the difference between being a winner and loser. 3
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 People can view being single as either cool or loser-ish. You can be a crazy, cat lady or a bachelorette. You can be a loser in your basement or you can be a young single guy having fun. It's all relative.
Author SadGrl Posted April 6, 2012 Author Posted April 6, 2012 Most if not all women think that if a Man is single...he must be a loser....no one wants to jump on a dry d*ck....girls love jumping on the wet ones....
lso802 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 the loser is someone who stays in an unhappy relationship just to be in one. 2
Anela Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 the loser is someone who stays in an unhappy relationship just to be in one. Agreed. (Actually, that just makes me feel sad - the idea of it.) And I've always been a crazy pet lady, no matter my age or status.
somedude81 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Why do you believe that being single equates to being a loser at all? Many people are single by choice. There is nothing wrong with being single by choice. But being unwilling single...
Anela Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 There is nothing wrong with being single by choice. But being unwilling single... ...still doesn't make you a loser.
somedude81 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 ...still doesn't make you a loser. I have to disagree. For me, getting into a relationship would be Winning™ Conversely, if you aren't Winning™, then you're losing.
Anela Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I have to disagree. For me, getting into a relationship would be Winning™ Conversely, if you aren't Winning™, then you're losing. I don't see it that way, but I have felt that way in the past.
somedude81 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 It think it really depends on how important getting into a relationship is to that person. If they don't think it's that important or that not being able to get in one doesn't say anything bad about them, they they won't think they are a loser. But if a relationship is something you desperately want and continually fail at being able to get in one, I don't know any other way to see it.
Stilnaught Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I have to disagree. For me, getting into a relationship would be Winning™ Conversely, if you aren't Winning™, then you're losing. But then, what if you're on the road to Winning™? Just on the same level as someone who is nowhere near that? Life ain't black & white. You don't win when you feel like it. You win because you try to win. And working on a win is good enough for the Winning™ class for me. (this post is full of win ...) 1
Anela Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 It think it really depends on how important getting into a relationship is to that person. If they don't think it's that important or that not being able to get in one doesn't say anything bad about them, they they won't think they are a loser. But if a relationship is something you desperately want and continually fail at being able to get in one, I don't know any other way to see it. I don't see other single people as being "losers". I really don't. I never wanted my self-esteem to hinge on things like this, and it annoyed me that I reached that point (and it still hurts, on some level). 1
RiverRunning Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 If we're talking stereotypically? Seems to me that as long as the guy isn't a troll, he's perceived as being single by choice. He's "above" the dating game. If he's hideous or he's got some other huge issue, I believe he's more likely to be perceived as a loser. This is different for women. If you're single, you're likely perceived as one of two things: a.) too ugly/fat/something else negative to get a boyfriend or b.) Too "stuck-up" to be in a relationship. Why? I think it goes back to the long roots of men pursuing women and women being pursued. If you're single as a woman, the perception is that no one is pursuing you. If you're a single man, it's probably taken more often as, "He's just not interested in any of the pickings he has." In any case, being single doesn't make you a loser. But for the purposes of this thread, I am pointing out the common perceptions people likely have. I know that if a guy isn't dating in my circle, for whatever reason, it goes down the same way - it's a 'good' thing especially if by choice. If a woman claims she has no interest in dating, no one believes her and automatically assumes she can't get anyone. 2
gibson Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 (edited) Neither! People that get their self-worth, self-esteem, identity, self-importance, validation, approval, etc. from being in a relationship are not healthy and they are the ones that are TROUBLE! Edited April 6, 2012 by gibson
dasein Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Don't know who -is- more of a loser, neither IMO, but do know men are treated worse by the opposite sex when they are totally single for awhile than women are. Many women find "taken" men or recently taken men more attractive, and single men who have been single for awhile much less attractive. Many women judge men very harshly on lack of experience, men don't judge women similarly, adding to the single man stigma. Men don't really care how long a woman he finds interesting has been single or if she lacks experience. 1
johan Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I'd say the man, I think. Men are more likely to be losers regardless of their relationship status. And I think LS has plenty of proof that single guys are more likely to act like losers. Even if they aren't technically.
kaylan Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 to borrow a funny line I learned from phineas: Yall bakers toasting in a roll bread. 1
johan Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 to borrow a funny line I learned from phineas: Yall bakers toasting in a roll bread. That makes a lot of sense.
serial muse Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 to borrow a funny line I learned from phineas: Yall bakers toasting in a roll bread. I laughed out loud at this until I realized I don't know what it means. 3
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