darkmoon Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 never in winter too cold, summer about three times a week which my friend says is alot, but in a nice way - how many times for you?
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Do you mean go out as in do anything? Or go out as in to a club/bar? If you mean club/bar rarely, as it's not my thing. I would say once every few months (IF that). If you mean out generally that can vary. Sometimes i'm in a sociable mood, most of the time I like my own company. Also suffer from anxiety so that holds me back.
TaraMaiden Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 We go shopping for essentials. does that count? Otherwise... nope. Last May. and that was because we got married.... I wouldn't like to hazard a guess as to when, before that....
NailBiter Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 (edited) Depends on the time of year. 2-3 nights per week in the summer, once every couple of weeks in the winter. It used to be much more often when I was with my ex. Edited April 6, 2012 by NailBiter
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 We go shopping for essentials. does that count? Otherwise... nope. Last May. and that was because we got married.... I wouldn't like to hazard a guess as to when, before that.... Really? How comes? If you don't mind me asking.
ThaWholigan Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 about once a month probably??? And yes, being broke does kinda **** that up for me.
Ross MwcFan Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I used to go out every night from being a kid until my late teens. How different things are now.
USMCHokie Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Not enough times...I make up for it by going to Vegas every weekend with reckless abandon. I really would like to be more social during the week though, as it seems to foster a more casual environment to meet people (i.e., women). Unfortunately my schedule and area dont really allow for that...
january2011 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Hardly ever unless you count evening classes. I think I was a lot more sociable when I was single. But I was also mugged over a year and a half ago and I'm a little leery about coming home too late. Though if it's really late, I'll take a taxi. That adds up though, so I don't do it too often.
KathyM Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I always make it a habit to go on a date night once a week with my husband, in order to keep the connection strong, no matter how busy we both are.
TaraMaiden Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 We both stay in and do that. Just as easy.... and cheaper....
KathyM Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 We both stay in and do that. Just as easy.... and cheaper.... No reason you can't have both--the night out and the nights in. To make a stronger connection.
TaraMaiden Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 but i've already said we can't do that..... never mind......
KathyM Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 but i've already said we can't do that..... never mind...... Going out doesn't have to cost a lot of money, or even any money, for that matter. Some things are free. Free concerts, free evening strolls in town, free trips to the beach, lots of free or inexpensive things people could do when they go out on a date. I do think it's important to get out of the house as a couple--away from the routine, and enjoy each other's company in an activity that you both enjoy. Once a week, if not more often. The healthiest relationships I know of do have this aspect as part of their relationship, and I do think it is important. That is also what a lot of marriage and relationship therapists recommend--a date night or daytime outting together doing an activity that you both enjoy together. Helps to build a strong bond with each other.
TaraMaiden Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 OK, i'm not going to go into stuff on public forum. suffice to say I really hope nobody finds themselves in the same situation my H and i find ourselves now - and have known for the last 8 years. I won't say destitute, but it's pretty close....
Els Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 I'm sorry to hear that, Tara. How about a walk in the park or something? Should be spring where you are now, right? Bf and I go out fairly often, probably 3-4 times/week on average, although frankly my definition of 'out' is pretty much anything except essential stuff and groceries. So I include coffee, strolls, dinner, or whatever. Bars/clubbing? I can count the number of times on my digits, I think, but I really don't care for it.
TaraMaiden Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 I'm sorry to hear that, Tara. How about a walk in the park or something? Should be spring where you are now, right? that's sweet of you Elswyth... actually, we live 'out in the sticks', and this is my favourite time of year.... i garner an enormous amount of joy at watching the spring wake everything up.... and as some wise soul once said - 'you have to be alive, to complain!' so honest, I don't complain, but it's trying at times..... this is my favourite poem.... Bars/clubbing? I can count the number of times on my digits, I think, but I really don't care for it. I now have visions of men going round with bars, clubbing wenches over the head and dragging them back by the hair to their caves.... Ah, my courting days seem so far away....! maybe that's why this thread arose.... 2
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