redrose123 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 How am I just supposed to stop loving someone? I miss him so much. This isn't fair. I keep thinking how some other girl is going to get to live the life I wanted one day today sucks 1
Nextlane Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Keep yourself busy and give it time. You will eventually get over it. lol
brneyedgrl Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I know exactly how you feel, to a T. You love and give and invest and when it's over you're left feeling empty and angry, thinking of the next woman who will get everything you worked so hard for. It will take time. Give yourself time. Mourn, pamper yourself, take up a new hobby, get lost in a book... life has a way of bringing you exactly what you need at the exact time you need it. You will survive, just be kind to yourself.
Mr Scorpio Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Perhaps try to focus on the distinction between loving your ex and being in love with your ex. In a year, there still may be qualities about your ex that you love, the reasons that you fell in love with him in the first place. However, that isn't the essence of love. That isn't what makes up the burning, butterflies in your stomach, can't stand to be without them feelings that are hard to articulate. Given enough time, you might still love your ex, but it is very likely that you won't be in love with him.
Nohbody Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 The hardest part is that you have to make a choice to let go. Really let go. Give up all hope. And when hope is gone...
goldengirl11 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 The hardest part is that you have to make a choice to let go. Really let go. Give up all hope. And when hope is gone... What is the end of the sentence?
perryb13 Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Our brains have a very rude tendency to bring back memories that really claw at you emotionally, especially ones where you can't help but imagine your ex with someone else and them having a great time. The best thing to do is to try your hardest to keep your mind off of your ex. It's hard to do if you do nothing but sit around, so go out with some friends, focus on work/school, talk to someone. Getting these things out to someone that is willing to listen and comfort you is a great way to keep those nagging thoughts from bouncing around your head. My problem is that I was really close friends with my girlfriend before we dated, so she would normally be my go-to person for dealing with stress from school, etc. I actually talked to my parents about it too. The best friends are the ones that are willing to listen to you vent because they know you're having a hard time.
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