He cheated on me with an ex, and now she's denying it.

[neveragain2493]

This story is probably hard to understand, especially the part where I take my boyfriend back. Anyways, I'll try to get to the point.

 

My boyfriend cheated on me in May 2011 with his ex girlfriend while I was on a cruise. He met up with her on the beach, spent the night at her condo, and touched her (but they didn't have sex). I didn't find out until November, and we broke up shortly, but I decided to give him another chance. We went through a very tough time from then until about the time 2012 started. Now, however, he's proven to me that he can be faithful, and we worked it out. Our relationship couldn't be better (as of now, we're going on 2 and a half years).

 

Unfortunately, my boyfriend's best friends also hang out with his ex girlfriend and her current boyfriend. This past weekend, we hung out with his friends, and his ex came up in conversation. I mentioned something about what happened last summer, and his friends were in shock. Apparently, my boyfriend's ex and her boyfriend were together at the time he cheated on me; therefore, she also cheated on her boyfriend.

 

Naturally, his friends told her boyfriend. Saturday night, he called me and asked me about what happened. I told him the truth because he deserves to know. Shortly after, both him and my boyfriend's ex were calling my boyfriend and I, and we were arguing about what happened.

 

His ex denied absolutely everything and called us psycho, saying we were making things up. I asked, if we were making it up, why'd we break up over it? She then said that my boyfriend "just needed an excuse to break up with me." My boyfriend was able to name out every detail, like the friend she was with and the alcohol she was drinking. It was ridiculous how blatantly she denied it all. She asked me how I was so cool about it, and I told her it was because I found out in November and had a pretty high maturity level to be able to forgive him. At the end of the conversation, I told her that I was proud of my boyfriend for owning up to his mistakes, and she should do the same. If she's going to straight up lie, then that was a personal problem. I hung up the phone, and they didn't call back.

 

In short, her boyfriend believe that we were making everything up, even though there are so many people who will vouch for how bad our relationship got after it happened. My boyfriend doesn't make things up, especially something that would give him such a bad reputation. Now, his friends think he's a liar, and it's just ridiculous. It eats me up inside because I hate being made out to be a liar. What do I do?

[veggirl]

What in the what?

 

Why do your BFs friends think he MADE UP CHEATING? That is ridiculous.

 

Your BF has game. Cheats, and then you say you're proud of him. Cheats, and people think he made it up. Wow!

 

Anyway, you should ignore the ex, her BF, and the "friends" who think their friend is a liar.

[The dot]

I have a simple policy here. If someone cheats on me once, I'm out. No questions, no explanations, no apologies and definitely no second chances.

 

Basically, if someone cheats on you once, that usually means that they have some need that (in their mind) you aren't fulfilling. The thing is, they're going to go out and get that need met eventually, with or without you. If you catch them once, they'll just do it more discretely next time, but they'll still do it (in most cases).

 

You really should have just left him the first time you caught him cheating. It's that simple. Now you're having arguments with his friend over what did or didn't happen that night, and who's lying. Is it worth it? If cheating bothers you that much, you're better off alone.