momto3boys Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 My ex and i split up, went no contact, he wanted to work things out so we did back around thanksgiving. a few weeks ago he got kicked out the army and randomly ended things with me. he has emailed me telling me he is over me, hasnt loved me in 7 months, etc. Then i go no contact become very cold and distant to him, i finally filed for child support and made an appointment to file for a limited divorce, i told him this. Then he started acted sad and said he left because he cant support us anymore (i was a stay at home mom while he has been in the army). Then he said he isnt moving back up here, hes staying down there (we are 2 states away), then he said he might come back up here. He doesnt know. Then he said yesterday he wanted me to send him naked pictures and said "when i come up there to visit you think nothings gonna happen?" i said no theyre not. Then when i made a comment about him saying he wanted naked pics, he said "nevermind" and has acted weird, then he said he doesnt want to lead me on. sometimes when we talk he acts like he misses me and wants to be with me, and gets hurt when i block him, etc.But then when we talk he tells me he is over me, etc. im not sure what to think about this, i do believe he is done, but i also think he has a lot going on with being kicked out of the army.
macmillerpwnz Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Sounds like he doesn't know what he wants? Do you want him back?
PWSX3 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Sounds like he has a lot of personal issues to work on, the biggest is growing up. Not sure how someone gets kicked out of the army, I would say that would be a big blow to his ego. 1
Author momto3boys Posted April 6, 2012 Author Posted April 6, 2012 he got kicked out of the army from failing a drug test. im not sure if i wanna be with him, he has had a lot of issues since coming home from his deployment a year ago. I have walked on egg shells for a year, but i dont really want to be divorced, i believe in sticking with someone for better or worse. But he doesnt want to be with me he is saying so im not sure what to think or feel.
Owl Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 he got kicked out of the army from failing a drug test. im not sure if i wanna be with him, he has had a lot of issues since coming home from his deployment a year ago. I have walked on egg shells for a year, but i dont really want to be divorced, i believe in sticking with someone for better or worse. But he doesnt want to be with me he is saying so im not sure what to think or feel. He didn't get kicked out for failing a SINGLE drug test. It doesn't work that way...or it didn't 10 years ago at least. He'd have been referred to the ADAPC program...and would have had to failed that by failing subsequent drug tests as well. That's a HUGE indicator of a lot of his problems right there. Sounds to me like you need to stick to the divorce plan, and go strictly NC with the exception of REQUIRED communication for the care of the children, as needed.
Author momto3boys Posted April 6, 2012 Author Posted April 6, 2012 im not sure how the army works, he said he failed a drug test from oct and he was in asap (army substance abuse program) and he said hes getting an honorable discharge since he failed a drug test and then went to asap. im not sure how the army works, wish i knew!
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