youngster Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Well I signed up for a service, paid for a month and I'm KNOCKING it. None of my matches suit me even a little bit. Not even remotely enough to want to chat let alone go out on a date. I've always been a skeptic of the whole OLD world and my coworkers recent nightmare of a relationship made it even worse, but I figured Id give it a shot. Anyone in the LS community have any success/horror stories for OLD experiences?
oaks Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Anyone in the LS community have any success/horror stories for OLD experiences? Yes. The search function should pull up hundreds of success/horror stories, many combining both qualities at the same time! I had a date last night with someone I met on an OLD site. I had a good time, and she didn't seem to be surprisingly different from her profile, so I'll call that a success. She even agreed to a second date, but previous experience tells me that doesn't always mean that I'll get a second date as people don't like saying "no" in person.
january2011 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Been in an LDR for over a year with someone I met on OKCupid. And we have met, in-person, just in case you're wondering. I'm not saying that OLD works for everyone, but it's certainly changed the mind of this former skeptic.
CarrieT Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 It only takes just one... I easily went on over 40 OLD dates but met the one that made it all worth while. Been together six months and are already discussing long-term plans. After both of us having failed long-term commitments, we know what we are looking for and are quite happy with how it is going forward.
Andy_K Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Over the years I'm probably on well over 30 online dates by now and still not found the right one, but the searching is still kinda fun
verhrzn Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Haaaaaate Match. com. I paid their freaking subscription for 6 months; barely got a message a month. (And sent maybe like 1 a week, without response.) So I discontinued their service. Now all of a sudden, I'm getting at least one email A DAY. But I can't read the email OR see who sent it until I re-subscribe. Talk about a scam... OKCupid is pretty nice (and free!), but most of the guys I chatted with either: keep emailing me with no talk to a meet-up, or just wanted a casual fling. So, *sigh*.
Professor X Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Now all of a sudden, I'm getting at least one email A DAY. But I can't read the email OR see who sent it until I re-subscribe. You can unsubscribe... (from their newsletter / offering).
Art_Critic Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 We give all our power over to women if we do OLD. That really depends on what your offering them, you have to be dateable in order for it to work.. emotionally and physically as well as not married. I met my wife on Match and I didn't feel like I gave up any power over to her by contacting her.. I also did OLD for many years prior and had many relationships that lasted over a year. IMO.. OLD is just another way to meet someone..and OLD is real life dating today.. You get out of it what you put in it... Without it I wouldn't have met my beautiful wife and I wouldn't have an adorable little 4 year old today 1
Disillusioned Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Forget OLD. I'm hedging my bets that in a couple of years, Aiko-type bots will become available.
Saxis Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I haven't been on many actual dates from online, but the few I did were all over the board. My very first experience was awful! She used very old pictures and looked nothing like them (not terrible, but I wouldn't have recognized her from the pictures alone), then wanted to get married on the second date. Another started out as just friendly chatting with no intentions of dating because of distance. We eventually initiated a few dates anyway and we had potential, but the scheduling and distance finally won out as we suspected. The most recent one happened after I had pretty much given up. My account on OKC had been disabled for a couple months, and for whatever reason I decided to take one last look. Low and behold, one new match in my area. I sent the message, we've been together four months now and it's by far the best relationship either of us has ever been in. It's nice to be able to filter prospects based on interests and goals before you even get involved at all. Women definitely are at an advantage, but as Art says, you get out of it what you put in.
Eddie Edirol Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Haaaaaate Match. com. I paid their freaking subscription for 6 months; barely got a message a month. (And sent maybe like 1 a week, without response.) So I discontinued their service. Now all of a sudden, I'm getting at least one email A DAY. But I can't read the email OR see who sent it until I re-subscribe. Talk about a scam... OKCupid is pretty nice (and free!), but most of the guys I chatted with either: keep emailing me with no talk to a meet-up, or just wanted a casual fling. So, *sigh*. Oh you gotta love how the sites send fake people looking for you while just to re-sub. Takes their credit away, as theres so many phony profiles.
Art_Critic Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I sent the message, we've been together four months now and it's by far the best relationship either of us has ever been in. No shiot.. congrats Saxis 1
fishtaco Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Tried it, and I'm knocking it too. Real life approach is much easier and have much higher chance of success. OLD should be used at best, to supplement RL dating. But there are individuals that seem to be having success. If you're not, then you know which side you're on. And my advice is don't bother.
somedude81 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Every now and then I flirt with the idea of doing OLD. I've got a profile up on OKC for years that's about half finished, with pictures up. And I've never received a message. Though not surprising since I'm a guy and all. One of these days I'll finish my profile and start messaging girls. One of these days...
Ross MwcFan Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I've joined a few dating sites in the past. I never message women first though for some reason. I'd just wait and see if anyone messages me, and sometimes they did.
ThaWholigan Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I'm back on OKCupid recently (I even saw my old crush on there, exchanged pleasantries and carried on). I'm not going to knock it because it can work, it's just difficult because it's mostly men having trouble attracting women in real life, whereas there are a sizable portion of women on there are just looking for more options because they're not happy with the ones they have. I've actually been messaged quite a bit on both OKC and POF, but few of them really go far. Speaking of which, I just found the perfect girl, gorgeous and 5 foot 11, I'm messaging right now
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