Is it wrong of me to give up on him after not hearing from him for 3 days?

[happiness0421]

I recently dated a guy for about 2 weeks. It was a normal dating experience: started off with emails, then phone calls, then 2-3 dinner dates, then a few nights at his house/my house. He always reached out after each get-together to schedule another time to meet, or just say hi. We slept together on the 5th and 6th dates. The last night we hung out, I slept over at his place. The next morning, he walked me out, gave me a kiss goodbye and said, "I'll talk to you soon". After that, I did not hear from him for 2 days. On the third day, I reached out to him via text, and we had a normal conversation but there was no mention of him wanting to see me/hang out with me again. I left it at that, and have not heard from him once in 3 days.

 

Is it wrong of me to assume that he's done with this? Since the beginning of our dating relationship, he always made it clear that he wanted to see me. I just felt like something shifted the last time we hung out. I'm ready to give up on him, and I don't want to seem clingy/needy by continuing to reach out to him.

 

 

Any thoughts? Thanks!

[veggirl]

2 weeks and 2-3 dinner dates plus a few sleepovers? Goodness! You jumped in way too quickly, he is either taking a step back and re-assessing (I mean sounds like insta-relationship with the pace you guys had, not good!) or things just fizzled on his end. I'd guess the latter. Yes I would write him off and in the future maybe approach things a bit more slowly?

[Pierre]

2 weeks and 2-3 dinner dates plus a few sleepovers? Goodness! You jumped in way too quickly, he is either taking a step back and re-assessing (I mean sounds like insta-relationship with the pace you guys had, not good!) or things just fizzled on his end. I'd guess the latter. Yes I would write him off and in the future maybe approach things a bit more slowly?

 

 

Too much too soon is often not a good idea. Slow dating is much better.

 

I suggest OP to have sex after she is in a committed relationship. Sooner than that does not work well.

[happiness0421]

Welllllll I'd be lying if I said I wasn't partly in it just for the sex! It had been a long time and I was just ready for it. But I agree with both of you, it did move veeerrrry quickly!

[Nikki Sahagin]

One thing I'm surprised at is people chastising the ladies for having sex too soon. I had sex really soon with both of my ex boyfriends and both relationships lasted a long time and did lead to relationships - not being ignored.

 

I don't think sex is the issue.

 

If a guy is really into you, it doesn't matter how fast you have sex with him - he will still want you.

 

If he isn't that into you, you can have sex with him and he will disapear.

 

Honestly, I can't say that having sex early is always a problem - sometimes yes, most of the time, I would actually disagree.

[veggirl]

One thing I'm surprised at is people chastising the ladies for having sex too soon. I had sex really soon with both of my ex boyfriends and both relationships lasted a long time and did lead to relationships - not being ignored.

 

I don't think sex is the issue.

 

If a guy is really into you, it doesn't matter how fast you have sex with him - he will still want you.

 

If he isn't that into you, you can have sex with him and he will disapear.

 

Honestly, I can't say that having sex early is always a problem - sometimes yes, most of the time, I would actually disagree.

 

I think it's best to err on the side of not having sex quickly, but I wasn't necessarily refering to sex in this case--it's the quick sex, and the insta-relationship type of seeing one another every day etc.

[Nikki Sahagin]

I get what you mean veggirl but sometimes the sex (or pre-sex) i.e the kissing and cuddling unlocks a lot of passion, interest, infatuation which leads to prolongued interest. But I guess it depends on the level of chemistry and the intentions of both people.

[Pierre]

One thing I'm surprised at is people chastising the ladies for having sex too soon. I had sex really soon with both of my ex boyfriends and both relationships lasted a long time

 

Personal anecdotes are never a good way to prove a point.

 

From my observations here and elsewhere it seems that many women that have sex right away get hurt. You were an exception to the rule. I am glad for you.

[Cypress25]

I don't think sex is the issue.

 

If a guy is really into you, it doesn't matter how fast you have sex with him - he will still want you.

 

If he isn't that into you, you can have sex with him and he will disapear.

 

It's not that having sex too soon will cause the guy to lose interest. It's that having sex too soon could cause the woman to get hurt. Waiting for sex isn't about keeping the guy around, it's about the woman protecting her feelings.

 

Personally, I get more attached to a guy after I have sex with him. If he dumps me before sex, it's disappointing but no big deal. If he dumps me after sex, it's incredibly hurtful and I'll cry about it for days. That's when I start feeling used. If a guy is going to dump me, I'd rather he do it without using me first.