brandon98103 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 There is a girl I met 10 months ago, her sister is friends with my sister. I get on well with all her family especially her sister and her mum. We grew close straight away really and she was having relationship problems at the time. We started having a thing, and we both liked each other, but as usual for me I missed all the signs :S :L She ended up going out with someone else, for this I turned into the best friend figure. I told her how I felt literally hours after she started going out with him, I didn’t know that had happened. Her response with this is that she had mixed feelings, I know for a fact I am very important to her, and I think I am just about the closest person to her. She calls me in the early hours of the morning, crying and I am the one she comes to, she talks all her problems through with me. Because of this boyfriend what I was then experiencing was unrequited love :/ It is the worst feeling you can ever have, it is hard to describe, I don’t know if you have felt it or not, but it is not nice at all. She split up with him, but her and I had drifted a bit at that time, someone else has taken that place. I forgot to say, she doesn’t have a great history, she has had some really nasty boyfriends, that have got her into some bad things such as smoking, and loosing her v when she was just turning 15. This has left her as quite a delicate girl. But I have got back close to her again. My feelings for her always flick between love and agape love (best friend love) and I think I am trying to force myself into wanting to be friends due to the unrequited love leading to a drop in confidence in that sort of area. Recently she has had some bad things happen in her life and has been taking a lot of my time up either calling her or being with her. But today I spent a lot of time with her, I just find her soo easy to talk to, about everything and anything, she is really cuddly loyal, and really I think she is everything I want in a girl. Recently she has been choosing me over her boyfriend with who to talk to and spend time with. That may be because he is busy and working but I generally get the impression she is getting annoyed with him and that she prefers spending time with me. Our friendship is always easy going and today, it got quite flirty I have to say, but when we were just snuggling up, ‘revising’ haha I could see she was loving every second of it. And then I got some deep eye contact with her, and well her pupils were soo dilated, and just the ways she was looking at me I can’t get out of my head even hours after I just remember that one look. I know there was something special, or something more there. There has to be, I can’t really describe that look, but to me I saw it as love. She trusts me with everything, literally. Remember she currently has a Boy Friend, it is just on a rough patch for a while. We are really, really, really close, but i just don’t know what to do or go about it. She loved today and plans on spending the whole of next week with me. Which is good, because she aced her stats exam and is good at French (both I need help with) and is struggling in maths and science it is like fate, if you believe in that :L I know it is hard to make comments based on just text, and I am probably not showing the full story as it would just take too long, and I have probably missed a few things out, but thanks a lot
JoeyArnold Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I told her how I felt literally hours after she started going out with him. Her response with this is that she had mixed feelings. I think I am trying to force myself into wanting to be friends due to the unrequited love. Her pupils were soo dilated. Agreed. I'm in a similar situation. I have mixed feelings about these kinds of things. You have a choice between patience or in being in a hurry. If you try to force things then you might have to move on if she doesn't choose to be more than just friends with you. I met a girl in person August 2010. We live around 500 miles apart. We talk about an hour each week. She says I am one of her closest friends. I may have missed the early signs like you did, too. After she told me about a guy she likes two months ago, I eventually decided to tell her that I like her. So, we still talk to this day but she hasn't really told me whether she likes me back or not. But I told her that I want what is best for her, even if it's not me & that I will always be there for her, that she can call any time still. In conclusion, I have many mixed feelings about these kinds of things. I'm contemplating visiting her.
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