maverick77 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I have a simple question - does it have to be OW OR your married wife? Didnt most famous men in history have an OW? Additionally, no ancient civilization operated that way Roman, Greek, Indian....all were famous for their.......you know what I mean.... Wasnt it religion that pushed for one man-one woman model? Your thoughts?
Owl Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I have a simple question - does it have to be one OR the other when you have an OW/OM? No ancient civilization operated that way Roman, Greek, Indian....all famous for their.......you know what I mean.... Wasnt it religion that pushed for one man-one woman rule? Your thoughts? My thoughts are that it needs to be whatever you and whomever else you have in your life agree upon. If you marry with the expectation of a one-on-one relationship being set between the two of you...you can't arbitrarily change it at a later date. Well, you can, but IMHO it certainly isn't moral nor is it in any way fair to the other person who is with you under the bases of that same expectation. On the other hand...if you both enter into the relationship TRULY with the expectation that it's not 'monogamous'...it's not fair for the other partner to expect it to change to a monogamous relationship solely on their desire for it. If there's a change in the relationship AFTER it's initial negotiation...it needs to be JOINTLY re-negotiated or ended as a result of differing expectations. Does it HAVE TO BE 'one on one'? Nope, as long as everyone involved is in agreement at the beginning, and no one changes expectations on their own along the way. 11
happyme Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Agree totally with Owl here, who are we to decide for everyone or anyone else? Each to their own I say, as long as all involved are happily in agreement and nobody is being hurt, then it's up to them.
East7 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 IMHO Anyone is free to break a relationship that doesn't make him happy BUT No one should commit if he doesn't believe in monogamy in first place. Cake-eating (cheating) is the most selfish and dishonest choice.
findingnemo Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I have a simple question - does it have to be OW OR your married wife? Didnt most famous men in history have an OW? Additionally, no ancient civilization operated that way Roman, Greek, Indian....all were famous for their.......you know what I mean.... Wasnt it religion that pushed for one man-one woman model? Your thoughts? That's an interesting question. In Africa, it was colonization and the introduction of Christianity that led to the one man - one woman model. In my country's constitution you can marry in Church (one man - one woman) or in the mosque (man allowed up to 4 Ws with the express approval of the other Ws). You can also have a customary M in which a man can have anywhere from 1 to however many Ws he wants. If you marry in Church you commit to the one man - one woman model and it is illegal to get another W through customary M. You basically have to choose what you want and stick with it. Modern Africans don't really do polygamy very much. The men have discovered that it can be expensive to maintain several families and most of them are Christians anyway. There's a woman named Emily Horne who married 5 men and never divorced any of them! I think she went to jail for bigamy in the UK. Funny woman.
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