janbaz Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I (26 years of age) never dated that girl (24) and was a nice guy to him. She was my first. She played a lot of games). I got immense crush on her. Last contact by her was in Sep11. Then it was 2 months of my NC to her. From September 11 its been 6 months. My crush was immece emotional. And she was a hard to get. And played games. Used to tell me that we are in but never give me time. And I always used to complain. Ahh well. She is gone. We work on the same place. I used to avoid making eye contact to her. Two days back I tried to see her, but she passed forcing not to see me (I feel). I am taking things very normal. And i am very much ok. I got a girl that loves and care me a lot (she is honest with me). And I am happy with her. I want to know am I get over to her?
Philosoraptor Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 To answer your question: The test I usually give is to imagine this person doing all of the things you shared or wanted to share with them, with someone else. If that doesn't turn your stomach a bit then you are in good shape. If you're happy with the person you are currently with why the question about someone you never had? Sounds like a bruised ego, or I'm reading this wrong. 1
Nohbody Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I think the pain will be replaced by pure bliss at being alive for a few days. Then the pain won't come back. Then you know you are over them. Or at least... that's kind of what I'm going through right now. Not sure. Good luck to you. 1
Author janbaz Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 To answer your question: The test I usually give is to imagine this person doing all of the things you shared or wanted to share with them, with someone else. If that doesn't turn your stomach a bit then you are in good shape. If you're happy with the person you are currently with why the question about someone you never had? Sounds like a bruised ego, or I'm reading this wrong. Yes. That will not cause me anything. I will not consider me looser. Being not talking to her for 6 months. I believe I am trying to bring control on my emotions. That I don't pop to her in text or emails. thanks for advice.
january2011 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 When you stop asking yourself if you're over her. You just know that you are and don't need to question yourself. It's irrelevant. However, if you must ask yourself and she figures in any of your decision-making, especially with regard to your current relationship, then you are not over her.
Author janbaz Posted April 6, 2012 Author Posted April 6, 2012 (edited) My current relationship is LDR. We are talking on phones/web chat. On the other hand me and ex works in same office. Her voice strike my ear so often. And some time takes me to those crush days. Some time while dining in cafe, I found her just back to me. Encountering her in corridors. It's so hard. And my stages are fluctuating. Some time I feel I am accepting it. But some day when I found her arround, I got the grief of denial. It's so terrible. I am a confident person with a pleasant attitude, for me it's not hard to talk to any girl. But I must accept with her I can not create that vibe. To enter in their friends section and to come up in daily conversations. I am socially good person. But my tries with her ends up with disappointment. Some time, I feel I should try to talk to her to say hello. But... it's complex. I just wish my states of acceptance dont fluctuate. Edit: The reason of our breakup was, she was dating another guy in office. And at the same time telling me that we are also in. But for me she was playing and i was given time when she got angry with that guy. This thing makes me very angry. And I become sad because I had feelings for her. Even when that guy left country, she didnt come to me. But I go to her. But things remains the same. She started flirting another guy in office. Edited April 6, 2012 by janbaz added the reason of breakup (being apart)
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