confusedangel312 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 hey everyone, just thought id update you all on whats been going on w/me and my ex. after we last had contact in feb and i decided no to getting back together i went on with life. he is now living 10mins walk from me, and contacted me saying he wants to see me, and he loves me etc.. i was skeptical, but said sure ill see you- i wanted to find out what his agenda was. within 10mins he was acting as if nothing had happened and was trying to hold me, and kiss me- i rejected him nicely.. later on, i asked why he wants me back and does he love me. he tells me, i care about you, miss you and love you but im not passionately in love with you but want to be. his reaction later on in the evening when i said im not sleeping w/you IF ( i had no real intentions of getting back i just wanted to see for myself if hed actually changed or got worse-again) we got back together sealed his fate. he tried saying no i didnt say i love you, i said i care about you and it went down hill from there, so i realized he only wants me bc he cant have me. he was also questioning me about if ive been seeing anyone as if its a bad thing i moved on. his drug problem is also still there, and worse from what i can gather, so im glad i went with my gut and said no. on a good note, i have a date with someone this week
Philosoraptor Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 This is sadly the motivation for many people who come back. Even though they weren't fully happy with the past relationship, the familiarity is very appealing and can be hard to let go of. You did right to reject his advances and snap his head the right way. So many people jump right on but when the motivation isn't caused by serious self work the result usually ends up the same fate as the previous relationship had.
Author confusedangel312 Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 it already was heading that way within 24hrs. he was calling me obsessive bc hed said he would be by the following day to see me, and i said i was disappointed bc he changed his mind(really, i wasnt just wanted him to show his true colours so i could feel confident in my decision). so, today he texted me, asking to be friends and see what happens. which to me, translates lets be friends and ill see if i can weasel my way back into your bed.. why would he even bother telling me he loves me but isnt in love with me? youd think after 9 months, and if he genuinely wanted me and loved me, hed have done something, anything to get me back but didnt. i dont understand men like that..
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