Nikki Sahagin Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Okay so I've recently returned from 3 months of travelling around Thailand. During the last month I met a Thai guy. I wasn't planning on meeting anyone over there but from day 1, on my side at least, we had a strong chemistry and I knew I was interested in. We worked together every day, but he was always very shy and kept to himself with everybody. Over time, we began to speak more. His English was not amazing but passable. As soon as I told him I was going home, he asked me to stay in Thailand and not to go. He asked me to come back, and I am going back in August to the same part of Thailand, which means I will see him again. Shortly after we spent about an hour kissing. I gave him my number and email and he again reiterated that he wanted me to come back and see him. Now since i've been which has been about three weeks, I have initiated every call. He has text me 2-3 times. Now I know WHY he doesn't call, or at least I think I do. He doesn't have the area code for my phone number. I initially couldn't get through to his number until I found the Thai code. So i've been calling him once a week just to see how he is etc etc. But i'm starting to get a bit aggg that he isn't the one calling me and he also hasn't text in a while. I still maintain we had strong chemistry and I believe he was interested or he wouldn't have bothered asking me to go back and see him, or asking if I had a boyfriend etc. I believe the behaviour of an uninterested man would be to not care/bother to ask you back and to have no interest in whether or not you're seeing anyone. Of course, people can say things they don't mean but I don't want to be cynical about that. Part of me wonders if any cultural differences can be factored in. Baring in mind this guy is quite poor and probably not amazingly educated. Nonetheless I do like him a lot as he seems a good and kind person. Part of me is aware that I need to be careful due to my financial advantages in life, but when I go back, it's not like i'm going to spend money on him and be his suga mumma. Do you think: * He isn't interested and it was just some fun * He can't really afford texting/calling (he is not financially well off and has a family to support) I still think a guy that's really into you would text a bit more, though maybe the language barrier prevents that too. I'm going back to see him in August anyway so I can size up the situation then, but i'm feeling a bit apprehensive now and just wanted some opinions from the LS guys and girls!
HeartShineGirl Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Okay so I've recently returned from 3 months of travelling around Thailand. During the last month I met a Thai guy. I wasn't planning on meeting anyone over there but from day 1, on my side at least, we had a strong chemistry and I knew I was interested in. We worked together every day, but he was always very shy and kept to himself with everybody. Over time, we began to speak more. His English was not amazing but passable. As soon as I told him I was going home, he asked me to stay in Thailand and not to go. He asked me to come back, and I am going back in August to the same part of Thailand, which means I will see him again. Shortly after we spent about an hour kissing. I gave him my number and email and he again reiterated that he wanted me to come back and see him. Now since i've been which has been about three weeks, I have initiated every call. He has text me 2-3 times. Now I know WHY he doesn't call, or at least I think I do. He doesn't have the area code for my phone number. I initially couldn't get through to his number until I found the Thai code. So i've been calling him once a week just to see how he is etc etc. But i'm starting to get a bit aggg that he isn't the one calling me and he also hasn't text in a while. I still maintain we had strong chemistry and I believe he was interested or he wouldn't have bothered asking me to go back and see him, or asking if I had a boyfriend etc. I believe the behaviour of an uninterested man would be to not care/bother to ask you back and to have no interest in whether or not you're seeing anyone. Of course, people can say things they don't mean but I don't want to be cynical about that. Part of me wonders if any cultural differences can be factored in. Baring in mind this guy is quite poor and probably not amazingly educated. Nonetheless I do like him a lot as he seems a good and kind person. Part of me is aware that I need to be careful due to my financial advantages in life, but when I go back, it's not like i'm going to spend money on him and be his suga mumma. Do you think: * He isn't interested and it was just some fun * He can't really afford texting/calling (he is not financially well off and has a family to support) I still think a guy that's really into you would text a bit more, though maybe the language barrier prevents that too. I'm going back to see him in August anyway so I can size up the situation then, but i'm feeling a bit apprehensive now and just wanted some opinions from the LS guys and girls! Long distance texting can be expensive, and calling can too. Maybe it's just so expensive? Maybe he gets his satisfaction just talking to you once a week, and doesn't need constant calling or texting? My best advice, listen to what he has done/said and not what you think he's not saying/doing. In other words, just because he doesn't call or text you doesn't mean that he didn't mean everything he said... doesn't mean he doesn't like you and want to see you again. 1
Author Nikki Sahagin Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 Thank you That was a really lovely response and also very positive. I tend to be very cynical naturally about relationships and so made a conscious effort not to be. I think that might mean I might swing too far into the 'idealist' camp from time to time. What I need to do is be more realistic. Do you think I should continue to call once a week?
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