starla33 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 How long after you meet someone at a bar and they get your # would they ask you out. Say they already texted you and said lets hang out soon. And you agreed. Is this also the 3 day rule?
Author starla33 Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 starla I wonder if you're real. Why do you overthink this stuf so much. There is no right or wrong answer. Obviously if some one waits to long you might lose interest or forget about them. Best bet is to caller sooner rather than later. I'm not over thinking just sick of dating. I'd assume if you say you want to hang out you would make some plans!
prune juice Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 How long after you meet someone at a bar and they get your # would they ask you out. Say they already texted you and said lets hang out soon. And you agreed. Is this also the 3 day rule? some guys call immediate, some wait 2 weeks. he's a potential but keep looking cause some don't call.
prune juice Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I'm not over thinking just sick of dating. I'd assume if you say you want to hang out you would make some plans! i'm sick of dating too. i'm going for just sex for awhile. it's easier.
Author starla33 Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 some guys call immediate, some wait 2 weeks. he's a potential but keep looking cause some don't call. Of course. He did text right after meeting but you never know these days!
prune juice Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Of course. He did text right after meeting but you never know these days! did you text back showing interest?
Star Gazer Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I met my SO at a bar in the summer of 2006. He got my number, and texted me when I was in the bathroom. We wound up on our first "date" about 30 minutes later. That date lasted over 24 hours... Moral of the story is that if a guy is really interested, he'll contact you (text or phone) sooner rather than later. 1
Author starla33 Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 did you text back showing interest? I said yes to hanging out sometime?
prune juice Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I said yes to hanging out sometime? if he took that as strong interest you did all you could. it's in his court.
SJC2008 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I remember my first and only bar #. She came and sat down next to me and asked me to hold her drink. She was tall and pretty. When we got up I didn't realize how tall she was and she put her arm around me in the parking lot lol. She lived way to far for anything to happen. Don't bank on bar numbers. But a man doesn't want to appear overzealous so I'd say start to worry after 4 days.
prune juice Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I met my SO at a bar in the summer of 2006. He got my number, and texted me when I was in the bathroom. We wound up on our first "date" about 30 minutes later. That date lasted over 24 hours... Moral of the story is that if a guy is really interested, he'll contact you (text or phone) sooner rather than later. it doesn't always work that way. a coworker met his wife in a bar and he waited a week to call.
Author starla33 Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 it doesn't always work that way. a coworker met his wife in a bar and he waited a week to call. Yeah I mean we already hung out for a few hours the night we met. So here's hoping!
nessaaa Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I don't know where you're from. But the ones down here like to chase girls...if a girl makes the first move, we come out as desperate. Stupid rules eh!
Star Gazer Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 it doesn't always work that way. a coworker met his wife in a bar and he waited a week to call. Do you believe that when people post their experiences and opinions that they are saying everything is black and white and always works the way they say it should? Of course it doesn't always work the way it worked for me. Your friend is the exception to the rule. It's the rare exceptions that prove the existence of the rule. 1
prune juice Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Do you believe that when people post their experiences and opinions that they are saying everything is black and white and always works the way they say it should? Of course it doesn't always work the way it worked for me. Your friend is the exception to the rule. It's the rare exceptions that prove the existence of the rule. how do you know your experience wasn't the rare exception? a date within 30 minutes that lasted 24 hours isn't common. guys are always guessing when to call. too soon is desperate and too late is not interested to lots of gals. hence the 3 day rule, but the 3 day rule doesn't always work. 1
prune juice Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Ok, and that doesn't mean waiting for a week some how helped him. Are you saying had he called her sooner it wouldn't have worked out ? it didn't hurt. they are married and he is a happy man.
Star Gazer Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 how do you know your experience wasn't the rare exception? a date within 30 minutes that lasted 24 hours isn't common. guys are always guessing when to call. too soon is desperate and too late is not interested to lots of gals. hence the 3 day rule, but the 3 day rule doesn't always work. Let me put it this way: texting within 30 minutes is going to be better than waiting an entire week the gross majority of the time.
snug.bunny Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Bah, you peeps are so silly. There is NO general rule. Real Life Examples: Guy emails girl, they begin corresponding and continue to for two months, he asks her out, they go out. They are now married. Another example, Guy asks out Girl, they go out once but don't see/talk for a couple months afterwards. Guy calls girl, asks her out, they are now married. Not that marriage is the "ultimate goal" for some but again, there is no golden rule here. It's different for everyone. My belief is, is that where you are/who you're with and/or end up with, is where you are meant to be at that moment in time. If he at some point calls and asks you out, and you're both available, then you go out. If not, the above still applies.
SJC2008 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Let me put it this way: texting within 30 minutes is going to be better than waiting an entire week the gross majority of the time. IFF a math term meaning if and only if. IFF you LIKE the guy, otherwise he's a creep stalker. Same goes if sexes are reversed.
prune juice Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Let me put it this way: texting within 30 minutes is going to be better than waiting an entire week the gross majority of the time. there's no general rule. if there was one i'd be using it and weeding through this muck.
prune juice Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 (edited) Bah, you peeps are so silly. There is NO general rule. Real Life Examples: Guy emails girl, they begin corresponding and continue to for two months, he asks her out, they go out. They are now married. Another example, Guy asks out Girl, they go out once but don't see/talk for a couple months afterwards. Guy calls girl, asks her out, they are now married. Not that marriage is the "ultimate goal" for some but again, there is no golden rule here. It's different for everyone. My belief is, is that where you are/who you're with and/or end up with, is where you are meant to be at that moment in time. If he at some point calls and asks you out, and you're both available, then you go out. If not, the above still applies. voice of reason Edited April 5, 2012 by prune juice
Andy_K Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 If I get a number at a bar, I'll be texting the next day. Why? - I don't want to wait three days and look like I'm using some player gamebook and so be dismissed - If she's put off by it, she wasn't really interested in the first place - I want to get my foot in the door before she meets some other guy 1
fucpcg Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 If meet a girl out, when we are finished talking for the evening (say one of us went home), I text her "it was very nice meeting you, thanks for sharing your evening with me", or something along those lines. If I met her on a Friday, I'll ask her if she has any plans that next Saturday, on that Saturday. If that doesn't work, then I ask if maybe she has time for a coffee or maybe a milkshake on the beach for sunset during the week. I'm interested, and I'm going to let her know it. Hopefully this leads to the next date. If it leads to some kind of games about when, how long, if we can meet again.... NEXT.
Imajerk17 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 How long after you meet someone at a bar and they get your # would they ask you out. Say they already texted you and said lets hang out soon. And you agreed. Is this also the 3 day rule? It depends on the guy. Some guys wait a few days to call the girl, if only because they want to plan something out. I'm a believer in contacting someone sooner rather than later. If you had a great interaction, she will be happy to hear from you; if she isn't that interested, then I can't see how waiting 3 days or a week is going to change her feelings.
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