xztjohn Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 (edited) Me and my ex have been dating for a year and a half, and we had a really nasty break up where she handled herself really poorly. Its been 6 months now and every once in awhile I think about it and my blood boils. She hurt me pretty bad and I can't say a part of me wants to blast a punching bag. I tried to be really nice and be the better person after the break up, but a part of me wants to yell at her and tell her what I think of her and how she behaved so poorly. I never really spoke my mind to her. I can't say I wouldn't want Karma to come around and bite her in the ass cause she deserves it. She contacts me every once in awhile but i just straight up ignore her for the past 3 months now. Is this normal? This is my first break up btw Edited April 5, 2012 by xztjohn
budley12 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I think I remember seeing you post a very similar post. I too am experiencing my first breakup from a 3year relationship. We were each others first loves. We also had a pretty nasty breakup seeing as we started dating again 1month into the BU then as soon as we got back to school he dumped me again to be with someone else (which he lied about). There were many other variables which led to even more hurt. I am noticing that as time goes on I am going from a phase of shock/hurting to a phase of anger with my ex. I would love to do the same and really "stick it to him" but what would that prove? What would we get out of that? Our ex's are no longer apart of our lives at this point so it would be meaningless. By us not acting out it shows that we are mature and are trying to move on with our lives. I am secretly hoping that the Karma will come back and bite our ex's asses, but in end even if it doesnt our ex's are no longer apart of our lives at this moment so either way it doesnt affect us.
soreadytomoveon Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I totally get both of your experiences - I just broke up with someone 2 days ago but the first thing I felt was anger - I was so mad and then today I began to mourn the relationship and really miss him - I think everyone has their way of dealing with it but this is not my first break up and I can tell you one thing - you have to let go of the anger - that anger can stay with you and you have to let it go in order to move on.
Author xztjohn Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 Sometimes I miss her, sometimes I am indifferent towards her, and sometimes I just plain hate her. It's been 6 months now, but I can tell u that it is mainly indifferent and sometimes missing the most. I was a pretty confident and strong guy, and even tho I lost it a bit after the break up I still think I am. I'm normally don't hate people and what she did, I forgive her, but I can't ever talk to her again. I think its my best interest to ignore her forever, because i think just complete silence on my part speaks volumes. She has always been the one initiating contact with me and for the past 3 months now I have been ignoring her. What do you guys think?
jennisfora Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 keep doing what you are doing, unless you want to try again, in that case, ignore her until she says she wants to try again, but if you are angry at her, ignoring is best. you have to get past the anger, or you will say something you may regret. if you want to never talk to her again, you can block her from calling, or change your number, or just keep ignoring until she gets the point.
Philosoraptor Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 It's normal, just allow yourself to let things go when you start to feel bitter. Being angry does nothing but hurt you because the past is written in stone. Don't let her past actions take away anymore of your good feelings in the future.
Author xztjohn Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 i know, but i find it kinda hard to be truly happy. my life has changed for the better, but that was cause i made it that way. i could have crashed and burned caise of her. its unfair how she can have fun and enjoy her life without any consequences, while i have been scarred
Philosoraptor Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 i know, but i find it kinda hard to be truly happy. my life has changed for the better, but that was cause i made it that way. i could have crashed and burned caise of her. its unfair how she can have fun and enjoy her life without any consequences, while i have been scarred You assume she feels no remorse. Many go out and "live it up" to avoid pain, and only extend it. If she truly feels no pain then you've lost nothing. 1
Author xztjohn Posted April 6, 2012 Author Posted April 6, 2012 yeah true. i think she feels remorse she still contacts me but its just on deaf ears. as more time goes by i begin to hate her even more for te things shes done. its either hate very bitter. is this normal? theres times where its indifference then its dislike. this normal?
mike588 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 yeah true. i think she feels remorse she still contacts me but its just on deaf ears. as more time goes by i begin to hate her even more for te things shes done. its either hate very bitter. is this normal? theres times where its indifference then its dislike. this normal? It's normal...I hated my ex. one day then the next I didn't. I went thru that cycle of emotions many times. Now I feel sorry for her! 1
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