winebrens21 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I got out of a LDR 5 months ago that I was in for 2 yrs. I was with a man that was a compulsive liar, mainly just stupid things that no one would lie about. I think he just had a desire to be super well liked and popular. I know it was best to end the relationship since he would never change and became angry when confronted with his lies. To this day I still think about him, and have even had dreams about it. Why would I wanna be with someone who was so volitile for me? Does anyone else have the same issue?
Am313 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Yes, I have the same problem. I ended up bonding with a woman and now that I'm letting go its like pulling teeth. A woman who lied, cheated, played games, and even purposely hurt me the same day I told her I was afraid of just that. I've made a fool of myself and at times want to lash out in anger at her, but I know she'll only get satisfaction out of it, and that makes me even more hurt and angry. I think it's possible that you bonded with this person as well. It's hard to break sometimes but must be done. Are you in contact with this person or not? Are you going out and doing new things? Meeting new people? After 5 months, I'd think you're at an ok place to date casually. Hang with friends, go to the gym everyday, find something you've always wanted to do and do it, stick with it. Just keep pushing. I know if I keep pushing forward then none of what I'm feeling right now will matter once I reach the end. I think once your mind is made up that you cannot be with this person, it will become easier.
Feelin Frisky Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Do you want to really be with this guy? I doubt it. What has likely happened is that you invested a lot of emotion in him for quite some time and he is imprinted in your mind as someone important enough to have in the dreams you remember from time to time. This will lessen with time, but nothing will help speed up this process faster and better than having a new meaningful attachment to if not a relationship with someone else who shows you the difference between this ex, a habitual and perhaps pathological liar, and a trustworthy and love-worthy person. If you don't take risks because you fear betrayal and self betrayal, you'll ensure the continued preeminence with this man. Try to choose well and get busy living some batter memories.
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