mtber75 Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 He's just plain immature! 29 year old for a guy is still young so he feels like he can still fool around (being lazy and all). Seriously confront him about it. Give a ultimatum either you shape up or you ship out!
Author agirlhere Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 I know it sounds like I enjoy this. I don't. I've left a relationship of 2 years. As much as it wasn't healthy, he was in my life everyday for the last 2 years. So missing him, and fighting the battle of wanting him to contact me vs not is I'm sure a normal battle that people go through after any break up...good or bad. The Internet is definately not the best therapy, and I am starting some counselling next week. With that being said, what does help me on here is just the " support" , the "you can do it and this is why", and knowing that, as much as I probably have less boundaries then alot of people, I am working on it. It's also helpful to hear a " strong woman's" opinion, because it gives me hope that I can get there too. Leaving my husband of 15 years was a decision I do not regret. We had our own issues. We now co-parent, live close by each other for the kids, and we get along well. I appreciate all of your words, and I will continue to post here, because it empowers me, and I need that right now. Thank you, to all of you who take the time, it means alot 1
Author agirlhere Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 What happened with your husband who treated you well? The way you described it, it kind of sounds like maybe you just got bored. Maybe that's because, even though you logically know how things should be, you're more comfortable with constant negativity and emotional beat-downs because that's what you grew up with. I don't know, just some thoughts. Have you spoken to your most recent ex-boyfriend at all? Is he still texting you? We lost a baby, prior to us splitting up. I won't go into that so, yes he treated me well but no I didn't get bored. My recent ex has text me a few random texts. I was clear to him that I wasn't doing this anymore. I'm sure he thinks I'll come running back eventually.....I wont
2sunny Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 What have you done today (action taken) to separate yourself from his ties?
Author agirlhere Posted April 26, 2013 Author Posted April 26, 2013 I made a counselling appointment, I start next week. He text today, I have not responded. Made plans for dinner with friends 1
crederer Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 I am 25 and moved back in with my dad a year and a half ago due to a breakup and I couldn't afford the rent alone. I have been on my own since 18 so it's a bit of an adjustment. I dated a girl for a year since then and we started looking for places to share, and then that relationship ended. I work and I'm starting to make a decent income but still at my dad's trying to regroup and get my feet back on the ground before finding my own place. It's embarassing for me to explain this to potential partners. I don't really know what his situation is, but it may be something along those lines as well. That being said I do pay board at my dad's place and do buy my own food.
FitChick Posted April 26, 2013 Posted April 26, 2013 You will never have your father's love and approval so stop trying to rewrite history with every man you date. They are NOT your dad.
ja123 Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 I made a counselling appointment, I start next week. He text today, I have not responded. Made plans for dinner with friends Bravo!!!! Good for you! One step at a time. You can do it! I was in an abusive relationship, too. I know it's hard to make the leap and step over to the other side to independence (and eventually interdependence!) but it can be done! And you'll do it!!
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