prune juice Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 This issue of 'to multi-date or not to multi-date' is very thought provoking. I think in general men are more territorial and get more bent out of shape more quickly with the concept of a little friendly competition on the dating scene, and thus don't like the concept. But, if there hasn't been a talk of exclusivity (and there shouldn't be, prior to the first half dozen dates - since you really don't even know the person yet), then all is fair in my book. so you're banging a guy while i'm trying to get to know. no to that. thats why i don't date anymore. i go for sex and let it be known thats all i'm going for.
phineas Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Interesting. Might say something about the female friends you tend to acquire? I don't think knowing someone beforehand is the key to anything --- you never know when you really know someone, unless you REALLY know them, spend most of your time together, etc. Even then, who knows, right? Generally, I think the idea is that having similar social circles is enough to make people act at least somewhat honorable, though, since they don't want their friends to hate them for f-ing over their other friends or gossip about them or whatnot. Certainly there are times that can not work out. Most men I successfully dated were also relative strangers when we met, fwiw, so I'm not a proponent necessarily of dating within your social circle. But I think your experiences are outside of the norm, from what I've heard from people I know who dated within their circles. However, I think it would depend on the circle -- if the women in your circle are generally not hanging out with the men in your circle, I would say that'd be a different story. I don't have a circle. LOL! It's more of a squiggle. I actually blame myself partly. When I thought they weren't interested in me I was myself & wasn't too concerned about how I acted. When they became interested In me I would be more reserved for fear of ruining it. I'm at a point in my life where if a woman doesn't like me for who I am, oh well. there is one out there who will. The weight loss led to both mental & physical improvements in me. Like I said, once I got in shape the screwed up situations for the most part never happened. We either dated or we did not. 1
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