sid3 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I would never date a multi-dater. They tend to lie about their activities and are at high risk for being unfaithful. Right, did you read that here on LS? I doubt you've actually experienced this first hand. I give women making this claim far more credibility than I do a man. Yeah I just don't buy it from a guy. You seem pretty sure of what you speak, do you realize people have varying perceptions about what a date and dating is. You swing a very broad brush with your statement. Its a tired argument, but go ahead if it makes you happy. I wonder why you choose an iconic ladies man for your avatar. Do you look like James Bond? There isn't another character in the world more recognizable as being The Multidater, least I can't think of one.
RedRobin Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I wonder why you choose an iconic ladies man for your avatar. Do you look like James Bond? There isn't another character in the world more recognizable as being The Multidater, least I can't think of one. That has occurred to me as well. I still think what he has to say is true though. I've granted to others that it may be possible to multidate openly, honestly, and respectfully... but frankly, I've never personally witnessed it. I've also never seen a full eclipse of the sun (but I know it exists). I'm betting both are equally as rare.
sid3 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I've granted to others that it may be possible to multidate openly, honestly, and respectfully... but frankly, I've never personally witnessed it. I've also never seen a full eclipse of the sun (but I know it exists). I'm betting both are equally as rare. You're probably right. Not being a mutlidater I can't say for sure. I can only speculate.
RedRobin Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 You're probably right. Not being a mutlidater I can't say for sure. I can only speculate. Really? Not even the cute latina in your other thread? Waiting for the outcome of Friday night?
Pierre Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Right, did you read that here on LS? I doubt you've actually experienced this first hand. I give women making this claim far more credibility than I do a man. Yeah I just don't buy it from a guy. I don't think it is a guy or gal thing. Some folks do not multidate; it is that simple. If you are OK with dating a woman that is seeing several men besides you that is your preference, but I don't enjoy that sort of thing. You seem pretty sure of what you speak, do you realize people have varying perceptions about what a date and dating is. You swing a very broad brush with your statement. Multidating is one of those situations with little ambiguity. You either do it or not. Its a tired argument, but go ahead if it makes you happy. I wonder why you choose an iconic ladies man for your avatar. Do you look like James Bond? There isn't another character in the world more recognizable as being The Multidater, least I can't think of one. The avatar has nothing to do with the point of view I present.
sid3 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Really? Not even the cute latina in your other thread? Waiting for the outcome of Friday night? Yes Really! Ok, kinda:rolleyes: She is really really cute. Besides Friday night isn't really a "date" date, its just a "get together" If I was going out with the Cop, that would be a date.
RedRobin Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Yes Really! Ok, kinda:rolleyes: She is really really cute. Besides Friday night isn't really a "date" date, its just a "get together" If I was going out with the Cop, that would be a date. uuuuh, huhhhh... I see how 'ya are. I think you did call it a 'date' on your thread, hot stuff.
sid3 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I don't think it is a guy or gal thing. Some folks do not multidate; it is that simple. If you are OK with dating a woman that is seeing several men besides you that is your preference, but I don't enjoy that sort of thing. Multidating is one of those situations with little ambiguity. You either do it or not. The avatar has nothing to do with the point of view I present. What was your point again, oh yeah defining dating for everyone else. Yes the avatar does have something to do with the point you attempted to make. Its very contradicting and that image represents the complete opposite of what you're saying.
sid3 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 uuuuh, huhhhh... I see how 'ya are. I think you did call it a 'date' on your thread, hot stuff. Ooops! Haha.....hot stuff, maybe in another life. I've just learned that it really is a zoo out there, and I love feeding the animals
LexiB Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 (edited) Let me put to you this way: If I ever asked you for a date it means I am not dating anyone else. If I was dating someone (even if it was only one date with one pending; or if I have a first date already scheduled) then I would never ask you on a date. I only date one at a time. I would never date two or three at a time. If would feel uncomfortable and I could not give my best effort on the dates. Ok. Can’t say I agree with your dating style in practice, but I respect what you’ve written here. It’s certainly the most clear and non hypocritical view against multi-dating I’ve seen articulated in these discussions. I asked the question because I haven’t seen a consensus here on the definition of multi-dating -- or rather, on what constitutes non-multidating. Posters have claimed they’re disgusted with the concept of dating more than one person, only to later - unintentionally - out themselves as being guilty of it. These posters say they don’t multidate when in reality they just stop dating other people earlier than traditional multi-daters. They’ll stop after they’ve been on, say, 3 dates with the same person as opposed to waiting for exclusivity.() It’s hypocritical garbage. Edited April 10, 2012 by LexiB
phineas Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Let me put to you this way: If I ever asked you for a date it means I am not dating anyone else. If I was dating someone (even if it was only one date with one pending; or if I have a first date already scheduled) then I would never ask you on a date. I only date one at a time. I would never date two or three at a time. If would feel uncomfortable and I could not give my best effort on the dates. And how do you know their not dating other's? Do you ask? Fact is I have yet to meet a woman who doesn't have 3 or 4 wangs trained on her & who isn't txting, talking to, or hanging out with multiple men she considers options. And to top it off, they all try to make it seem like if it wasn't for me asking them out they would be sitting at home alone and don't want me talking to other women. Then 3 days before our date I run into them while their on a date with some other guy. So, for me to try & concentrate on one woman is simply foolish. Until their sleeping with me I assume at all times that they are still shopping around and or seeing other men. And my assumptions have never been wrong.
phineas Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Ok. Can’t say I agree with your dating style in practice, but I respect what you’ve written here. It’s certainly the most clear and non hypocritical view against multi-dating I’ve seen articulated in these discussions. I asked the question because I haven’t seen a consensus here on the definition of multi-dating -- or rather, on what constitutes non-multidating. Posters have claimed they’re disgusted with the concept of dating more than one person, only to later - unintentionally - out themselves as being guilty of it. These posters say they don’t multidate when in reality they just stop dating other people earlier than traditional multi-daters. They’ll stop after they’ve been on, say, 3 dates with the same person as opposed to waiting for exclusivity.() It’s hypocritical garbage. I think someone needs to define "date". Every woman i've ever gone out with defines "dating" as sleeping with someone & exclusive. Going on a "date" doesn't mean anything to anyone that I know. A date is a date is a date. It's a non-committal meeting of two people showing romantic interest in each other. It doesn't mean jack squat until a 2nd or 3rd date happens.
Pierre Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Ok. Can’t say I agree with your dating style in practice, but I respect what you’ve written here. It’s certainly the most clear and non hypocritical view against multi-dating I’ve seen articulated in these discussions. I asked the question because I haven’t seen a consensus here on the definition of multi-dating -- or rather, on what constitutes non-multidating. Posters have claimed they’re disgusted with the concept of dating more than one person, only to later - unintentionally - out themselves as being guilty of it. These posters say they don’t multidate when in reality they just stop dating other people earlier than traditional multi-daters. They’ll stop after they’ve been on, say, 3 dates with the same person as opposed to waiting for exclusivity.() It’s hypocritical garbage. I don't date strangers. I don't date for the sake of dating. In fact, I don't date that much. I generally find a GF and I am happy. i have no interest in juggling many women at once or trying to get as much sex as possible with women I hardly know. I have a new GF and I am happy. If by any chance I am single and have no prospects I just don't date and live as I normally do. In my line of work there is always a pool of women that are available to have a relationship with me. Maybe it has to do with having a high income profession (I am not trying to boast), but I can always find someone even when I am not looking. I like having a steady GF a thousand times more than dating multiple women. 1
Pierre Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 And how do you know their not dating other's? Do you ask? Yes, I ask. I simply say I am not dating anyone and then ask the question. Fact is I have yet to meet a woman who doesn't have 3 or 4 wangs trained on her & who isn't txting, talking to, or hanging out with multiple men she considers options. Perhaps some women have lied and they were seeing someone when I asked them out, however, I would hope they stop shortly after i sart seeing them. I am generally interested before the first date and if everything goes well I will want to see her regularly, so I wouold assume at this point they will become exclusive. I make it very clear that I only date one at a time. I would not like to be around women that jug several men at a time. I find it in very poor taste. And to top it off, they all try to make it seem like if it wasn't for me asking them out they would be sitting at home alone and don't want me talking to other women. Then 3 days before our date I run into them while their on a date with some other guy. I know what you are saying. If I detect that sort of thing I fade away and don't see them. So, for me to try & concentrate on one woman is simply foolish. You want to treat them as they treat you. I rather walk away. Until their sleeping with me I assume at all times that they are still shopping around and or seeing other men. And my assumptions have never been wrong. Sad:(. 1
Feelsgoodman Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 I don't date strangers. I don't date for the sake of dating. In fact, I don't date that much. I generally find a GF and I am happy. i have no interest in juggling many women at once or trying to get as much sex as possible with women I hardly know. I have a new GF and I am happy. If by any chance I am single and have no prospects I just don't date and live as I normally do. In my line of work there is always a pool of women that are available to have a relationship with me. Maybe it has to do with having a high income profession (I am not trying to boast), but I can always find someone even when I am not looking. I like having a steady GF a thousand times more than dating multiple women. I kind fo agree with Peirre...dating multiple women at once is a pain in the butt. While I don't have a problem with a person going on several first dates and then picking the one man or woman they like best, I don't like the concept of going on multiple dates with multiple people. And who has the time for that anyway? The way I see it, after the frist date, you should have some idea as to whether you want to continue dating that particular guy/gal. If you are in a position to pick from several eligible candidates, pick the one you like the best and focus on that person. On a side note, multi-dating is nothing but an unfortunate side-effect of our dysfunctional post-modern society. It goes along with feminism, gluttony/obesity, degenerate pop culture and glamorization of homosexuality.
LexiB Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 I think someone needs to define "date". Every woman i've ever gone out with defines "dating" as sleeping with someone & exclusive. Well personally, the "dating" aspect of multidating for me is literally nothing more than going out on dates...as in no sex (kissing yes). I have a feeling this is true for most people (women anyway) as well. Perhaps, the term multi-seeing is more appropriate? I don't date strangers. I don't date for the sake of dating. In fact, I don't date that much. I generally find a GF and I am happy. i have no interest in juggling many women at once or trying to get as much sex as possible with women I hardly know. I have a new GF and I am happy. If by any chance I am single and have no prospects I just don't date and live as I normally do. In my line of work there is always a pool of women that are available to have a relationship with me. Maybe it has to do with having a high income profession (I am not trying to boast), but I can always find someone even when I am not looking. I like having a steady GF a thousand times more than dating multiple women. As do I. *And I think that's a common misconception about multidaters (aside from the idea that we're all screwing 20 people at the same time). *Some people may do it simply because they like the game of dating. *But others, like myself, just want to give ourselves the best chance possible of finding someone that we can enter a relationship with. *Seriously. You may not agree with the method, or it seems, even be able to understand it, but trust me, the goal is the same. *
sid3 Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 I kind fo agree with Peirre...dating multiple women at once is a pain in the butt. While I don't have a problem with a person going on several first dates and then picking the one man or woman they like best, I don't like the concept of going on multiple dates with multiple people. And who has the time for that anyway? The way I see it, after the frist date, you should have some idea as to whether you want to continue dating that particular guy/gal. If you are in a position to pick from several eligible candidates, pick the one you like the best and focus on that person. On a side note, multi-dating is nothing but an unfortunate side-effect of our dysfunctional post-modern society. It goes along with feminism, gluttony/obesity, degenerate pop culture and glamorization of homosexuality. Fair enough, but how is it you can assign a limit of one date per person before a choice has to be made. Why is it only one date before you choose, can you honestly say you know someone well enough after one date. Yeah I didn't think so. The real unfortunate side effect of our dysfunctional post modern society is the rampant divorce rate. It's really sad. I'll stick to my harmless multi "dating" before I'll ever jump into that pool of failure. Maybe they should have done a little more dating before tying the knot. It's pretty obvious they weren't the best judge of character.
Feelsgoodman Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Fair enough, but how is it you can assign a limit of one date per person before a choice has to be made. Why is it only one date before you choose, can you honestly say you know someone well enough after one date. Yeah I didn't think so. I didn't say you have to decide that you're going to spend the rest of your life with a person you've only been on one date with. I said you should focus on that one person...and see if it works out. If it doesn't, it's back to the drawing board. Multi-dating is inherently disrespectful to the person on the other end, especially if that person is not your top pick. Are you going to tell a girl that you are presently dating 5 others and that she's your #3 choice? ("You know, you really are a great girl and everything but I'm just keeping you around in case things don't work with Jen and Marry. Hope you don't mind!") 1
sid3 Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 In my line of work there is always a pool of women that are available to have a relationship with me. Maybe it has to do with having a high income profession (I am not trying to boast), but I can always find someone even when I am not looking. Yes, you were boasting Pierre. On an anonymous internet forum no less. The first sentence was more than enough to articulate your point. Adding your high income position was not only irrelevant, it was peacocking, more commonly know as dick measuring. Putting your ego aside, I'm curious how you can always find someone while you're not even looking, that is an irrational statement, is it not?
Pierre Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Yes, you were boasting Pierre. On an anonymous internet forum no less. The first sentence was more than enough to articulate your point. Adding your high income position was not only irrelevant, it was peacocking, more commonly know as dick measuring. Putting your ego aside, I'm curious how you can always find someone while you're not even looking, that is an irrational statement, is it not? Sorry about the income statement. When I am not looking I have no expectation and somehow it is not stressful. I usually happens in unexpected places where folks don't expect to pickup women. However, I could go weeks without a date.
sid3 Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Sorry about the income statement. When I am not looking I have no expectation and somehow it is not stressful. I usually happens in unexpected places where folks don't expect to pickup women. However, I could go weeks without a date. I was just breaking your balls Pierre. Sounds like you have a great job, big bucks and plenty of ladies. Awesome. I've also seen it can happen in unexpected places, when there are no expectations, the lack of stress is definitely why.
sid3 Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 (edited) .................. Edited April 11, 2012 by sid3 duplicate post
phineas Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Yes, I ask. I simply say I am not dating anyone and then ask the question. Perhaps some women have lied and they were seeing someone when I asked them out, however, I would hope they stop shortly after i sart seeing them. I am generally interested before the first date and if everything goes well I will want to see her regularly, so I wouold assume at this point they will become exclusive. I make it very clear that I only date one at a time. I would not like to be around women that jug several men at a time. I find it in very poor taste. I know what you are saying. If I detect that sort of thing I fade away and don't see them. You want to treat them as they treat you. I rather walk away. Sad:(. It is sad because I can go out with a woman once a week for a month & then they *poof*. Talking to other guys my age it's quite common. So if more than one woman is showing interest i'll see them both until it's time to make a decision. But chances are one will just *poof* on me anyways.
phineas Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Well personally, the "dating" aspect of multidating for me is literally nothing more than going out on dates...as in no sex (kissing yes). I have a feeling this is true for most people (women anyway) as well. Perhaps, the term multi-seeing is more appropriate? As do I. *And I think that's a common misconception about multidaters (aside from the idea that we're all screwing 20 people at the same time). *Some people may do it simply because they like the game of dating. *But others, like myself, just want to give ourselves the best chance possible of finding someone that we can enter a relationship with. *Seriously. You may not agree with the method, or it seems, even be able to understand it, but trust me, the goal is the same. * Maybe multi-seeing or talking to multiple women is more appropriate. I'm not out there hooking up with multiple women. I have just learned to keep my options open because a woman can *poof* at any time.
LexiB Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Maybe multi-seeing or talking to multiple women is more appropriate. I'm not out there hooking up with multiple women. I have just learned to keep my options open because a woman can *poof* at any time. Agreed. The Poof Phenomenon is common among men as well.
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