eleanorhurting Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Hey Guys. I was eyeing that book from a few years back called "hes not that into you". One of the things that the book points out is that if he's not calling he's not that into you. Do you guys think that in the age of smart phones, the internet and texting that still holds through? Texting can be fun but I feel like it has become a curse. People do not call anymore! How do you avoid falling into the constant texting but hardly ever calling thing? I would appreciate a phone call every now and then! 1
oaks Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 If you recast it as "if he's not contacting you then he's not into you" then that might be a good update for the facebook generation, but I know some of you still like phone calls. 4
Author eleanorhurting Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 The guy I like contacts me all the time. And he initiates most of the time. But its usually text, email, gmail chat! We hardly ever talk on the phone and he has never called me on the phone "just to chat". If we talk on the phone it is because we had something specific to talk about (meeting up, technology related, etc). I called him earlier today because I had a technology related crisis (as usual) and he didn't pick up. He texted me like an hour later saying he was taking a nap (which is probably true because he naps at this time). But since when is it acceptable to address a missed call with a text? Did i miss something in the generation iphone/facebook/twitter guide to technology? We were friends before we sort of started liking each other and as friends we used to text/email/gchat/facebook but I thought that would change now that he has shown romantic interest. I don't know we'll see
2sunny Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I tend to believe that hearing the persons voice holds a ton of value. Texting - they can text a million times and still never ask you out! That sucks - way to waste time and energy! Call!!!!! I want to hear your voice and see your face! 3
2sunny Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I don't dig it! Hi - I'm calling because I need your help! Oh hey - I'm texting to tell you I was napping! No can do - not good enough! It doesnt help me to text to tell me you've been napping. Make effort = CALL! 1
JohnP82 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Hmm, if I really like a girl then I am going to want to talk to her and hear her voice. However that's me, and I can't say for certain what this guy is thinking.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Last guy I datef would do nothing but text and text and text. Even when.I asked him to call h'd still texted. Yoi can guess what happened - I'm no longer dating.
missyme04 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I also want the guy to call me be with me. If he's really into you, you can tell
veggirl Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 My BF is a huge texter. It bugs me sometimes. When we are at work, it's totally cool obviously we can't talk on the phone. But he'll want to spend like all of an evening texting back and forth. If I don't have company or something, I put an end to that! It drives me NUTS when people say "I am bad on the phone, I prefer texting". Like REALLY??? Your communication / social skills are THAT bad?! Perhaps you need something else to focus on than dating then I understand texting is convenient but its impersonal and it's annoying and immature when people rely solely on it. I have no problem telling my BF "hey call me instead if you wanna have a long conversation", and he will do it. If I told him that and he said "I am bad on the phone" or something, we would most likely not be dating... have you told this guy you wanna talk on the phone when he starts convos via text? 2
daphne Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 When a guy I had been out with a few times texted me to ask me out again, I was a smart ass and playfully asked him if he always asked women out by text. I got a call a couple of minutes later. If you don't take the risk and let them know what you like, how's he going to know? The younger the guy, the more likely he's going to think texting is a real form of communication. And until more girls bring up that they prefer to be called, they're going to continue texting.
Author eleanorhurting Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 he told me he does not like talking on the phone. i am not sure what to say. i dont want to cause drama or force/rush things when we have just started trying to be more than friends
daphne Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Hmm. If you told him you liked being called and his response was that he doesn't like talking on the phone, I don't believe he's that interested. Guys who are interested will do things they don't particularly love to make a girl happy. Not always, but in my experience very often. If you're afraid of rocking the boat now on an occasional phone call, what other needs are you willing to dismiss to be with a guy? 2
xpaperxcutx Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 he told me he does not like talking on the phone. i am not sure what to say. i dont want to cause drama or force/rush things when we have just started trying to be more than friends Oh please. If he likes u enough he's willing to call. My boyfriend called me the moment he got my number. There really is a difference between a guy who goes after what he wants and a guy who's lazy and uninterested. 2
Author eleanorhurting Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 you guys are right. if he does not start calling im just going to drop it.
Content Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Oh please. If he likes u enough he's willing to call. My boyfriend called me the moment he got my number. There really is a difference between a guy who goes after what he wants and a guy who's lazy and uninterested. A women can go after what she wants well it works both ways as much as youd all like to sit back like princesses while the guy stresses over wheter you like him or not 2
USMCHokie Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Technology has brought with it a generation of social...hmmm...what's the word I'm looking for...... Retards. 2
xpaperxcutx Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Hmm. If you told him you liked being called and his response was that he doesn't like talking on the phone, I don't believe he's that interested. Guys who are interested will do things they don't particularly love to make a girl happy. Not always, but in my experience very often. If you're afraid of rocking the boat now on an occasional phone call, what other needs are you willing to dismiss to be with a guy? " sorry I'm not interested in a relationship at the moment ... but I still like you OP: "YEA lets just hang out!
Ruby Slippers Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Oh please. If he likes u enough he's willing to call. My boyfriend called me the moment he got my number. There really is a difference between a guy who goes after what he wants and a guy who's lazy and uninterested. Exactly. Don't waste your time with the second kind of guy.
threebyfate Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 First world problems... Is this really such a big deal? You prefer a phone conversation and he prefers text. Isn't there any middle ground or will you create an unnecessary battleground/power struggle? 4
USMCHokie Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 First world problems... Is this really such a big deal? You prefer a phone conversation and he prefers text. Isn't there any middle ground or will you create an unnecessary battleground/power struggle? I'm just waiting for the moment when she calls him, he doesn't pick up, and seconds later, he texts her, "What's up?" :laugh: 4
prune juice Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 First world problems... Is this really such a big deal? You prefer a phone conversation and he prefers text. Isn't there any middle ground or will you create an unnecessary battleground/power struggle? voice of reason
Author eleanorhurting Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 " sorry I'm not interested in a relationship at the moment ... but I still like you OP: "YEA lets just hang out! When did i say this?
xpaperxcutx Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 A women can go after what she wants well it works both ways as much as youd all like to sit back like princesses while the guy stresses over wheter you like him or not In this day and age it is still imperative for a man to be a man not emasculate him. The op has been receptive and even asked him to call her. His indifferencetowards a more personal way of communication is the problem.and from the sounds of things it seems like he hasn't even asked her out. 1
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