SJC2008 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I'm a strait male and yeah I'm sure just how a woman can tell if she is better looking or worse looking than another woman men can to. What I'm saying is that there have been instances (I would never say it aloud) where I'm like "That's a good looking guy". A few weeks ago there I helped a customer at work he was from the middle east and had blue eyes and he was very good looking. I KNOW for a fact I'm not a homosexual (not that there's anything wrong with that disclaimer) as I look at every woman who crosses my path. Is this a normal thing that men just don't admit?
irin Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 yes its normal, we can all acknowledge each others beauty, as long as you dont view them Sexually. its fine.
mesmerized Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Of course it's normal! why is this even a question?
Feelsgoodman Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I think it's perfectly normal to recognize another man as being a physically attractive specimen. If you get a sudden urge to suck his d*ck...that's when you know you have a problem
TaraMaiden Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 And here's the thing; even if you do view them sexually - it doesn't necessarily make you a homosexual. no really, it doesn't. There are a lot of men who enjoy anal sex and watching gay porn - but would never actually indulge in sex with another guy.... just as there are women who are turned on by two women having sex, but would be completely reluctant to indulge themselves.... women see other women, and can declare that these women are attractive - i think Ingrid Bergman was a knock-out when younger, and Audrey Hepburn does it for me, every time - she's a unique phenomenon. My elder brother thinks Donald Sutherland is gorgeous, and is also very taken by Morgan Freeman....He likes the black actor in CSI Las Vegas, Gary Dourdan.... and yup, the blue eyes did it... so really - you're fine....
gibson Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 My elder brother thinks Donald Sutherland is gorgeous, and is also very taken by Morgan Freeman.... Wait... What? Can I point out a good looking guy? Sure. However, do I find other men gorgeous or am I taken by them, never.
Feelsgoodman Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 And here's the thing; even if you do view them sexually - it doesn't necessarily make you a homosexual. no really, it doesn't. There are a lot of men who enjoy anal sex and watching gay porn - but would never actually indulge in sex with another guy.... just as there are women who are turned on by two women having sex, but would be completely reluctant to indulge themselves.... What about people who watch kiddie porn but don't actually have sex with children? Are they pedophiles or not? The law seems to think that they are...I take it you disagree?
TaraMaiden Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Well that's you. and that's fine. my brother is perfectly comfortable with his opinions. does it help to point out we're half-Italian? Italians are a lot less shy about aesthetically-pleasing things....
ThaWholigan Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Not gay at all. Other guys just say it is to cover their own ignorance (or their own latent homosexuality ). I know several guys who I could easily say are good looking. I can appreciate that. I'm not attracted to men, but I can say a guy is good looking without fear of being thought of as homosexual. 1
Author SJC2008 Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 Yeah but I mean on a deeper level then it being obvious that he is good looking we have all covered that and know men can tell and if they say they can't they are full of it. I mean where do you draw the line? Like the guy I talked about in the op. I mean I couldn't help but notice how attracive I found him. Now did I daydream of doing any extracarricular activities with him? No, not at all. I'm just sayin every once in a GREAT WHILE I am really taken back at how I find some men to be really attractive.
missyme04 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Of course it's normal Even we straight girls get attracted to our same sex. It's just a way of admiration. Just dont get attracted too deep. hihihihi. that's a different story.
dasein Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 It's the ones who get uncomfortable or recoil at talking about men as attractive who have the issues.
Feelsgoodman Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 In America it's especially marked, every time you are to say something complimentary to a man has to be started with a "No Homo" I've noticed that the same guys who freak out at a man who wants to give them a hug are the ones who cwwwwy when their much more dominant "girlfriend" (ps, since when do men have girlfriends? Real men have women) raises her voice at them or obsess about anal "sex" or say retarded things like "women are all beautiful, men are all ugly", or better yet, throw a temper tantrum when they can't log in to World Of Warcraft. If you're not a homo, you don't have to remind people. Typical American obsession with superficial impression, instead of reality. Excellent observations; I've noticed the same thing. Many American men are trying extra hard to maintain a facade of extreme "no homo"...as part of the strategy to conceal their latent homosexual tendencies. 1
123321 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Some sort of dire strait or just a common condition?
Author SJC2008 Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 As far as Americans and homsexuality go I think most of it is maturity thing with some people never getting over it. When I was younger a gay man asked me if I was and I gave him enthusiastic HELL NO. If someone asked me that now I'd just be like no in regular tone and it wouldn't really offend me but I'd probably wonder why. Do your thing but respect me and I'm fine with that.
dasein Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Yeah, the "no homo" thing is hilarious, like a poker tell. I'm a Russian music fan, so whenever I hear "no homo" or the equivalent, I start talking ballet. The results can't be put into words, it's hard to keep a straight face and keep it going past a point while they squirm. Some friends get hit on by gay men regularly, and I don't, so understand some of the friction if it's a matter of always getting hit on. 1
Author SJC2008 Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 I listen to a lot of sports radio and in my town they refer it to a man crush lol. So if you are a really big fan of a particular player you can say you have a man crush on him but the homo phobes (sorry if I'm not being pc) aren't familiar with the term they'll flip out.
gaius Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I've read a few gay stories and found myself getting turned on, if there are ever any male visuals that all goes away though. I think it has something to do with the fact they love having definitive male / female roles and that's sexy as long as you don't have a cock staring you in the face to ruin it. I think you should ask him out and see where it goes SJC, you never know how you might feel after a long dinner staring into those eyes of his.
Author SJC2008 Posted April 9, 2012 Author Posted April 9, 2012 I've read a few gay stories and found myself getting turned on, if there are ever any male visuals that all goes away though. I think it has something to do with the fact they love having definitive male / female roles and that's sexy as long as you don't have a cock staring you in the face to ruin it. I think you should ask him out and see where it goes SJC, you never know how you might feel after a long dinner staring into those eyes of his. I'll pass on asking him out but thanks though. Was trying to gauge if other strait men have been taken back as I have (very rarely) by another mans attractiveness.
wavering_radiant Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I can go to a zoo and appreciate the beauty of a lion, a zebra, and a giraffe, but that doesn't mean I want to copulate with them. And if you are sexually attracted to men... so what? Why is that bad necessarily?
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