Brandon8899 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 We "dated", or what i thought was "dating" for about a month. On all of our dates she showed more than just interest. She showed affection. She held my hand, held me close to her, she loved my touch and always reciprocated, she kissed me passionately (she went in for kisses more than I did), and we snuggled and watched movies. There was definitely alot of physical chemistry. From the First time I ever laid eyes on her I set my goal to make her mine. She has alot of "guy" friends. She told me she doesnt kiss them though. When I asked her what we were she said we were friends. I was hurt, torn up. I told her how I felt and she said that I was wanting to move way too fast and I was coming off a little clingy. She said she was not looking for a boyfriend. I knew we werent exclusive yet but she acted like there wasnt any potential for a relationship eventhough all of the physical aspects of one were clearly present. I know she likes me alot, girls dont get physically close and kiss guys that they arent attracted to. I'd like to think that she really doesnt want a boyfriend, and not ME as a boyfriend. She has alot of guy friends and Im sure some of them if not all of them are after her romantic interest. If she wanted a boyfriend she would be taken already, she could literally hand pick out of a large guy pool, so to speak. I see her at work sometimes and she said that she still wants to be friends. Platonic or friends with benefits? Im not sure.. I've heard her refer to one of her girlfriends that I was "Someone special". I think about her from the second I wake up and dream about her almost everynight that I can remember. I have never had a girl display so much affection for me, I used to be extremely insecure and shy. Since I joined the military and started going to college ive become very confident and much more sure of myself. Im 21 years old and she 19. We are both in the Army National Guard and she used the Army's fraternization policy as an excuse that we could never date. Well, I took her out to dinner, a steak place mind you.. a few times and to a live concert. I think those outing fall into the "dating" realm. I dont think we are on bad terms now, its been about two months since we last went out. The last time I saw her at work she said that she would be moving into my area for school, so there could be potential. Ive done and said all I need to say, if she comes around.. and right now I really hope she does then its all good. Its going to take me a while to get over her if not. She used to kiss my forehead after kissing me passionately on the lips-- made me feel_____.. there is not a word in the english dictionary to describe how she made me feel. She was the first girl I have ever felt completely comfortable around. Comfortable silences and all... I'd really like some outside opinions, Im venting and soapboxing more than anything else but please let me know what you think. Thanks!!
SJC2008 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Women who show affectiona are great. I know how you feel I wouldn't go as far as to say I was in love with her but it's been 6 weeks sinve I've seen her (it's over) and I still think about her a lot. I think about the potential there was but what's sad it that our ships passed in the night. I thought she wasn't interested becasue she NEVER asked questions or initiated contact. Our 1st 2 dates were great but the 3rd was lacking conversation flow as were phone calls. I don't know if I came on too strong but I was willing to give it time to see if the conversaton flow picked up because I liked her so much. What's funny is I'm a little socially shy but warm up quick, she's not socially shy but seems to be dating shy (I think she's an older V or limited in that dept) and our ships passed in the night and I just feel like we could of fallen in love for sure. I don't know what to tell you but I know how you feel and can relate brother.
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