attraction is different for EVERYBODY

[ThaWholigan]

What? It sounds like you're saying men are attracted to all kinds women? What a radical idea!

 

There is a South American girl who works in the shop near where I live. She's definitely chubby, got that little bit of puppy fat under the chin too. But I think she's GORGEOUS . I love seeing her in there every weekend. Beautiful smile and eyes.

 

To emphasize the point. Men attracted to ALL kinds of women

[ThaWholigan]

If only the opposite were true.

Depends on how you carry yourself to be honest......

[mesmerized]

Why? Short girls are very hot too

 

I had a major major crush on a girl for the best part of 5 years, and she can't have been more than 5 foot 3. Having said that, there were other things I liked about her. I especially loved her crazy, curly hair

 

Was that girl me by any chance?

[ThaWholigan]

Was that girl me by any chance?

Maybe

 

I love the curls, always have . The curlier and crazier, the cuter the girl is .

[GoodOnPaper]

How often have you flipped the coin GOP?

 

Enough . . . or one too many, depending on how you look at it.

 

 

And there are ways to play without going all in.

 

That's never been my style. Even if I could have attracted women for casual flings, I probably couldn't have pulled them off. That's just not how I want to connect with a woman . . . but as a guy if you're not desirable for the casual stuff it makes it that much more of an uphill battle even for relationships.

[KR10N]

If only the opposite were true.

I'm attracted to a wide range of men.

[Imported]

I don't care WHO you are, everyone is different when it comes to attraction. A gal I think is attractive, my friends might be repelled by them.

And gals they've liked did nothing for me.

 

Sometimes I just see something in her eyes.

 

She may not be a "10" or be perfect shape or whatever and none of that matters if the ATTRACTION simply exists.

 

Many people like green beans. Green beans taste like skunk expulsion to me. TO ME. Goes to prove EVERYONE can have different things that are ATTRACTIVE, or different tastes.

 

In the end, it doesn't matter how you look or if you measure up to the world's cookie cutter ideas of attraction, there are still plenty of people that will be attracted to you.

 

But I don't know if the green beans are attracted back to the people that like them.

 

While many people might like certain things that you don't, there are still things that most people like and can agree on and things that most people don't like and can agree it sucks.

 

Like chocolate ice cream. Lots of people, if not most people, like it. They might say it's not their favorite, but they like it. However, very few people like Octopus ice cream.

 

It is best to be like the chocolate ice cream in attractiveness than it is to be the dreaded Ocotpus ice cream.

 

If there were a hundred rooms, each room filled with 10 people, you are very likely to find 5+ people per room that will say they like chocolate ice cream. While it is quite possible you'll only find 5 people in all the rooms put together that will like Octopus ice cream.

 

So in conclusion, there might be somebody for everybody, but if you're like ocotpus ice cream, those somebodies (or literally somebody) is a very short list. If you're like chocolate ice cream, than you'll be tripping over people that find you attractive.

[wwwjd]

wow, a lot to digest here.

 

this girl I spaketh of... she's not a model, I'd say more on the average side than anything - according to MY perspective of attractions averaging along with the world's perspective. I think she has some small facial blemishes (zits), darker hair sort of red or brown, didn't even notice breast size so apparently that wasn't important nor were they IN YER FACE large or anything...

 

the thing that drew me to her immediately was her positive attitude, self presentation, smile, conversation skills... and looking back, if I weren't so freaking slow and oblivious, I might guess she may have been trying to get me to "approach" her. I'm usually slow to that vibe until they hit me in the head a couple times, then I know for sure....

 

but yeah, she seemed like a great person, ok looking but not "SPECTACULAR", and maybe her parents could not afford to get her teeth straitened. But I bet we'd have a wonderful time if we went out.

Thing that personally bugs me about women with bad teeth is often they will keep their lips covering them as much as possible... where as this girl seems to have gotten past it, and just smiles and enjoys life to the hilt.

 

To those that think they are too ugly or keep doing the same thing over and over with no change... that means it is time to change something. Are you a homely small town wallflower in a complex bright and competative city? maybe step out and do the whole make-up and hair thing in a whole new way. Maybe break out of the mold of the colothes you ALWAYS buy and get something completely new and too hip for you normally. Try faking confidence and just start talking to people.... teh best trick there is learn the art of LISTENING: ask a question, listen, ask a followup question about what you just heard and keep going - and NEVER insert something about YOU, just keep it about them. That makes them feel great and you suddenly mouch more attractive to them: being a good listener.

So, don't keep doing the same thing over and over expecting different results... CHANGE something to GET different results.

[wwwjd]

you know I read a futurist prediction somewhere that in the future blondes may be bred out? from all the brunettes that have died their hair blonde to mate procreating more than real blondes, thus their line slowly fades and dies off.

 

Interesting, huh?

[somedude81]

Women who say they're attracted to a wide range of men will say "See! Look at my ex boyfriends: this one had sandy blonde hair, this one had platinum blonde hair, this one was a blondish light brown, I don't have a TYPE"

And of course she forgot to mention that they all were at least 5'10

[Necris]

And of course she forgot to mention that they all were at least 5'10

 

I don't think being taller actually helps I'm 6 foot 3 and I still have never had a girlfriend.

[somedude81]

I don't think being taller actually helps I'm 6 foot 3 and I still have never had a girlfriend.

If you're that tall and having no luck, there's got to be something really off about you.

 

How old are you BTW?

[Necris]

Being tall on its own merit is not going to help if you are a god awful catch. The good news is that if you are 6'3, you can get chicks even if your looks and personality are mediocre. Just try your best to be average, instead of fantasizing about raping your dog or committing suicide, and you'll be rolling in chicks in no time.

 

Raping your dog? That sounds pretty messed up, really messed up.

 

Anyway I seriously doubt women care much for height I see alot of seriously short guys with women. Though then again I don't see too many tall women with short men, but most women don't seem to care. I think to attract a girl you need that personality gift that attracts women, I don't have it, and I don't know what it is.

[Necris]

I think Woody Allen is known for his dark humor so enjoy that.

 

You are seriously wrong if you don't see how much an advantage height could be to you. Women will literaly want to like you if you just stand up tall near them. To them a tall man is as close as our gender will ever get to the power of big boobs.

 

With your height you just need to ask girls out and not start talking about ))<>(( or mages

 

No, I think I shall describe to them the joys of back and forth ))<>((:lmao: (that movie was pretty hilarious, that kid got a date with a woman with that insane pickup line "I'll poop into your butthole and then you will poop back into my butt and we will keep doing it back and forth. forever.":lmao:) Also what girl doesn't want to know about my lvl80 warlock and my ancient daemonic cubes?

 

 

Height maybe a slight advantage but the other things like physical fitness, facial symmetry, etc. are probably alot more important for most women. Would most women turn down a physically fit shorter man for the tall goofy unhealthy looking guy? And then even more important than that is the personality can he talk to a girl in such a manner that she feels sexually attracted to him? Even if good-looking if the guy has no social skills or anything else to back it up it will be hard to get a date, if failing in both looks and social skills the guy can always fall back on money failing that I don't know. Then again everything I just wrote was conjecture, what I was trying to say is that if you feel you can't get women because of your height then that's certainly not the case something else is up.

 

For myself I may not be good looking/stylish/whatever to start that initial attraction. Then I'm terrible at speaking to people in general and it gets worse talking to girls, I'm shy so I'm always nervous in social situations, I can't relate to or have a connection with most people it seems, I don't understand the whole flirting, dating courting thing, people are complicated creatures to understand especially women, and there is probably something else wrong maybe I give off wierd energies or something perhaps low confidence (its difficult to have confidence when you fail everytime).

Edited April 5, 2012 by Necris

[somedude81]

 

 

Height maybe a slight advantage but the other things like physical fitness, facial symmetry, etc. are probably alot more important for most women. Would most women turn down a physically fit shorter man for the tall goofy unhealthy looking guy? And then even more important than that is the personality can he talk to a girl in such a manner that she feels sexually attracted to him? Even if good-looking if the guy has no social skills or anything else to back it up it will be hard to get a date, if failing in both looks and social skills the guy can always fall back on money failing that I don't know. Then again everything I just wrote was conjecture, what I was trying to say is that if you feel you can't get women because of your height then that's certainly not the case something else is up.

 

For myself I may not be good looking/stylish/whatever to start that initial attraction. Then I'm terrible at speaking to people in general and it gets worse talking to girls, I'm shy so I'm always nervous in social situations, I can't relate to or have a connection with most people it seems, I don't understand the whole flirting, dating courting thing, people are complicated creatures to understand especially women, and there is probably something else wrong maybe I give off wierd energies or something perhaps low confidence (its difficult to have confidence when you fail everytime).

All you need to do is focus on looking and acting normal and you would do fine. Heck I'm pretty sure that the shy thing is whats holding you back the most. Get over that and you'll do very well.

 

Because of your height, women will automatically give you a chance. All you have to do is not screw it up.

 

Shorter guys aren't given that chance, and have to prove themselves worthy. And it's much harder than it seems.

[tman666]

Short guys with small penises and no cars should just go to the moon base build by Gingrich and start a new colony with fat women, who have "A" cups...

 

Sounds like an interesting screenplay. You could make millions!

[verhrzn]

Height maybe a slight advantage but the other things like physical fitness, facial symmetry, etc. are probably alot more important for most women. Would most women turn down a physically fit shorter man for the tall goofy unhealthy looking guy? And then even more important than that is the personality can he talk to a girl in such a manner that she feels sexually attracted to him? Even if good-looking if the guy has no social skills or anything else to back it up it will be hard to get a date, if failing in both looks and social skills the guy can always fall back on money failing that I don't know. Then again everything I just wrote was conjecture, what I was trying to say is that if you feel you can't get women because of your height then that's certainly not the case something else is up.

 

For myself I may not be good looking/stylish/whatever to start that initial attraction. Then I'm terrible at speaking to people in general and it gets worse talking to girls, I'm shy so I'm always nervous in social situations, I can't relate to or have a connection with most people it seems, I don't understand the whole flirting, dating courting thing, people are complicated creatures to understand especially women, and there is probably something else wrong maybe I give off wierd energies or something perhaps low confidence (its difficult to have confidence when you fail everytime).

 

Did the Dr. Nerdlove articles help you out at all?

 

Also, some sunshine for you: I know a wide circle of nerdy guys, a lot of them programmers. I also work at an IT company. We have about 30 guys around my age (27) in the company, most of them doing some sort of development work, and not a one of them is single. 28 of them are married or engaged. And I've seen their wives/girlfriends. Two words: hot.damn.

 

Trust me, making a programmer's money and having just *enough* social skills, you're gonna be crawling with girls. Stick with school, get a good job, boost up your confidence a little. You're still very young; you're gonna do just fine.

[prune juice]

Did the Dr. Nerdlove articles help you out at all?

 

Also, some sunshine for you: I know a wide circle of nerdy guys, a lot of them programmers. I also work at an IT company. We have about 30 guys around my age (27) in the company, most of them doing some sort of development work, and not a one of them is single. 28 of them are married or engaged. And I've seen their wives/girlfriends. Two words: hot.damn.

 

Trust me, making a programmer's money and having just *enough* social skills, you're gonna be crawling with girls. Stick with school, get a good job, boost up your confidence a little. You're still very young; you're gonna do just fine.

 

seriously? damn. most of the programmers in my company couldn't get laid if their life depended on it. some of them make 6 figures yet get quashed by when they ask gals out, even obese ones.

[verhrzn]

seriously? damn. most of the programmers in my company couldn't get laid if their life depended on it. some of them make 6 figures yet get quashed by when they ask gals out, even obese ones.

 

Well I said money *and* some slight confidence, with a decent social circle. You don't have to be Mr. Cocky, but you do need to have some basic social skills. That, WITH the nice salary, will land you Hot Wife.

 

Most of the nerdy guys I know who can't get laid have two issues.

1) very low social ineptness. They inadvertently insult girls, chase girls off with their intensity, or never meet girls... the product of spending all of their time in a very isolated social group, or spending time only with themselves.

2) They are very picky. I have a nerd male friend who is in DAMN good shape, is a pretty decent guy and makes good money. He has a lot of girls interested in him, but the girls don't meet his criteria because he wants a smoking hot, very in shape, nerdy girl. Yeeeeeah... that one might take a while to find.

[prune juice]

Well I said money *and* some slight confidence, with a decent social circle. You don't have to be Mr. Cocky, but you do need to have some basic social skills. That, WITH the nice salary, will land you Hot Wife.

 

Most of the nerdy guys I know who can't get laid have two issues.

1) very low social ineptness. They inadvertently insult girls, chase girls off with their intensity, or never meet girls... the product of spending all of their time in a very isolated social group, or spending time only with themselves.

2) They are very picky. I have a nerd male friend who is in DAMN good shape, is a pretty decent guy and makes good money. He has a lot of girls interested in him, but the girls don't meet his criteria because he wants a smoking hot, very in shape, nerdy girl. Yeeeeeah... that one might take a while to find.

 

a lot of these programmers are socially inept or close to that and don't have a whole lot of friends, but mostly they are good guys when you get to know them. they'd make good husbands and fathers. but you put them in a dating or relationship situation and they can't read the nonverbal cues and inevitable they muck things up. theyll need a patient gal, but there's not enough of them to go around. it's comedic and sad all in one. btw i love your girl geeks avatar.

[verhrzn]

a lot of these programmers are socially inept or close to that and don't have a whole lot of friends, but mostly they are good guys when you get to know them. they'd make good husbands and fathers. but you put them in a dating or relationship situation and they can't read the nonverbal cues and inevitable they muck things up. theyll need a patient gal, but there's not enough of them to go around. it's comedic and sad all in one. btw i love your girl geeks avatar.

 

Well the patient girls are usually the ones who relate to the guys' struggles, because they have flaws of their own... This usually means they're kind of socially undesirable themselves in some way. Like, I consider myself a very patient (potential) gf who would love to teach the nerd boys-but they won't have me because I don't meet their standards.

 

*Shrugs* One of life's jokes, I guess.

[prune juice]

Well the patient girls are usually the ones who relate to the guys' struggles, because they have flaws of their own... This usually means they're kind of socially undesirable themselves in some way. Like, I consider myself a very patient (potential) gf who would love to teach the nerd boys-but they won't have me because I don't meet their standards.

 

*Shrugs* One of life's jokes, I guess.

 

you've got to move to my city. you'd have your pick here. don't know where you live, but it must be one of those cities where single gals outnumber single guys. in my area, there's more single guys by far.

[verhrzn]

you've got to move to my city. you'd have your pick here. don't know where you live, but it must be one of those cities where single gals outnumber single guys. in my area, there's more single guys by far.

 

Weird thing is, my city is supposedly that way too, at least according to most of the articles I pulled up. (I'm in a big Midwestern city that isn't Chicago. There, you can figure it out.)

 

I've heard the West Coast has a lot of single guys, but then you run into the "Hollywood/Hipster" problem, where West Coast guys prefer a certain "type" of girl (Hipster in Seattle, Hippie in San Francisco, impossibly gorgeous anywhere else in CA.)

 

Where's your city?

[KR10N]

Women who say they're attracted to a wide range of men will say "See! Look at my ex boyfriends: this one had sandy blonde hair, this one had platinum blonde hair, this one was a blondish light brown, I don't have a TYPE"

There's only been two men w/ blonde hair that I've found attractive. Your statement is irrelevant, as you really don't know me, nor have you known any of the men I've had contact with.

 

It doesn't go w/ out saying that I prefer darker hair. But that doesn't mean I like blondes any less.

Edited April 6, 2012 by KR10N