wwwjd Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I don't care WHO you are, everyone is different when it comes to attraction. A gal I think is attractive, my friends might be repelled by them. And gals they've liked did nothing for me. Sometimes I just see something in her eyes. She may not be a "10" or be perfect shape or whatever and none of that matters if the ATTRACTION simply exists. Many people like green beans. Green beans taste like skunk expulsion to me. TO ME. Goes to prove EVERYONE can have different things that are ATTRACTIVE, or different tastes. In the end, it doesn't matter how you look or if you measure up to the world's cookie cutter ideas of attraction, there are still plenty of people that will be attracted to you. But I don't know if the green beans are attracted back to the people that like them. 2
WoMann Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Not attraction to big boobs or disgust of small breasts....
Author wwwjd Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 Me? Honestly? I like all breasts (except male or animal) I just stayed out of that breast thread, I'm an "Eye" man anyway. Window to the soul and all that
SJC2008 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 It is and I have been attracted to many kinds of woman although I'm starting to realize that I kinda have a type. I'm especially attracted to dark haired white women with blue eyes. For some reason there are a lot of them in the mid west?? Weird huh? But like I said there have been multiple woman of all races to "hook" me. A few weeks ago I helped a upper middle aged woman. She was from Israel and EVERYTHING about her had me going. Her look, her dress, her smell, her accent and her sincere nice personality. I could of been putty in her hands. Do a 180 and go back to the woman I just dated. She's 32, funny as hell and I was very attracted to her but par for the course the ish didn't work out:(
gotye Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Not attraction to big boobs or disgust of small breasts.... guys I dated varied in their preference last bf liked smaller breasts
somedude81 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 That is a good mindset for everybody to have. But every now and then, people can get upset over somebody else's tastes. Some women get mad when they hear a guy likes large breasts and some dudes get mad when they hear women liking tall guys. I think it's based on a feel of not being good enough for the other person because of a perceived deficiency.
verhrzn Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Yeah, guys have distinct tastes so long as the woman herself is already attractive. The "make everybody feel good" party line is getting old.
KR10N Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 lol. So many men like large breasts & short women. I guess I'm DOOMED!
tman666 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 lol. So many men like large breasts & short women. I guess I'm DOOMED! No way! Tall chicks FTW!
Author wwwjd Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 I think it's based on a feel of not being good enough for the other person because of a perceived deficiency. Exactly!! So, someone over hears someone ELSE's attraction to this or that "type", SOMEHOW feels inadequate by comparison? That shouldn't be. Do green beans long to be bananas because they are sweeter? Think of all the people that LOVE green beans that would be let down by that. Somewhere on the planet, and statistically many places in your own city, there are people that will go weak in the knees and heart no matter who you are or what you look like. I don't have massive biceps, but I can guarentee THAT is not what makes me attractive on any level. It's my smile, personality and combination of face, eyes, body etc that somehow adds up to some people but not others. I can live with that. I wish more people understood it too.
verhrzn Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Exactly!! So, someone over hears someone ELSE's attraction to this or that "type", SOMEHOW feels inadequate by comparison? That shouldn't be. Do green beans long to be bananas because they are sweeter? Think of all the people that LOVE green beans that would be let down by that. Someone on the planet, and statistically many places in your own city, there are people that will go weak in the knees and heart no matter who you are or what you look like. I don't have massive biceps, but I can guarentee THAT is not what makes me attractive on any level. It's my smile, personality and combination of face, eyes, body etc that somehow adds up to some people but not others. I can live with that. I wish more people understood it too. Yeah, that's why all those hare lips and fat women have guys lining up around the block for them. Gimme a break. There are some people out there whom no one is attracted to. That's life. Why sugar coat it?
somedude81 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 No way! Tall chicks FTW! I wish more guys would prefer tall girls. Saves the short ones for guys like me.
tman666 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 lol. Even if they're 5'9"? Especially if they're 5'9"! Long legs and a round ass = boing! 1
KR10N Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I wish more guys would prefer tall girls. Saves the short ones for guys like me.lol. Awe... Especially if they're 5'9"! Long legs and a round ass = boing!OMG!
somedude81 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Exactly!! So, someone over hears someone ELSE's attraction to this or that "type", SOMEHOW feels inadequate by comparison? That shouldn't be. Lots of things shouldn't be, but are. Do green beans long to be bananas because they are sweeter? Think of all the people that LOVE green beans that would be let down by that. Somewhere on the planet, and statistically many places in your own city, there are people that will go weak in the knees and heart no matter who you are or what you look like. Wishful thinking. There are some traits that are almost to be considered universally attractive. A very large number of women like big breasts. And a very large number of women like tall guys. That's just the way things are.
PJKino Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I dont know about that my good looking friend had basically every women in our social group throw themselves at him as do other women i dont think peoples tastes are as diverse as you claim Some of us just arent attractive to the opposite gender
FitChick Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 But every now and then, people can get upset over somebody else's tastes. Not on Loveshack! No way! 2
Kamille Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Why is it always the people who are convinced they themselves are not attractive to the other gender who defend the point of view that attraction is the same for everybody? Is that belief an excuse? A reason not to take risks? If they disqualify themselves from the competition, then they don't have to face rejection. I have a friends who get hit on more than me. That doesn't mean I'm not attractive. 1
Author wwwjd Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 But I can't stand green beans. Millions of other people are attracted to them. But I like corn. Yes, there are cookie cutter programmed traits we are drawn too.... hygene has a lot to do with that, just being CLEAN looking... but that doesn't mean there is NOBODY out there attracted to heavier people or someone with a hairlip. Yes, life is not always fair, some people are missing limbs, or have brain defects, but that doesn't mean they are unlovable, and most of the time it all depends on THIER personality (and maybe a little surgery) but there is hope, because everyone's attraction CAN BE different. I will NEVER like green beans. Some might never like corn. I've recently become attracted to a girl who's teeth are less than ideal, and I didn't think about the fact that it didn't bother me until a later day... I thought, "Is that unattractive to me? If so, why am I attracted to her? What would my friends think about that? Why do I care what my friends think if I think she is beautiful to me and her vibrant personality attracts me so much? Would I have issues kissing her? Nope. Her lips would feel wonderful as much as the next girl because of who they are attached to." To put in perspective, 3 of my last 5 girlfriends were "models" yet I am not as shallow as that might seem. I didn't know what they did - met at a dance, met at office, met at church.... but that doesn't exclude me from finding non-models attractive. I don't think anyone should give up hope if they don't fit the 10% perfection mold (or whatever it is, I just made that up). Because half of the remaining 90% are the opposite sex and could be hugely attracted to you on some cosmic level we just don't fully understand.
DjinnAgain Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I don't care WHO you are, everyone is different when it comes to attraction. A gal I think is attractive, my friends might be repelled by them. And gals they've liked did nothing for me. Sometimes I just see something in her eyes. She may not be a "10" or be perfect shape or whatever and none of that matters if the ATTRACTION simply exists. Many people like green beans. Green beans taste like skunk expulsion to me. TO ME. Goes to prove EVERYONE can have different things that are ATTRACTIVE, or different tastes. In the end, it doesn't matter how you look or if you measure up to the world's cookie cutter ideas of attraction, there are still plenty of people that will be attracted to you. But I don't know if the green beans are attracted back to the people that like them. It always amazes me the people who get offended if somebody states a preference for or against some appearance. I have heard some claim it is shallow, but everyone has what they find attractive, and everyone has people they find attractive. I am no supermodel but I have never had a shortage of men who found me attractive while single. If someone is confident, those attracted to your characteristics will not be in short supply. Not to mention, what one thinks is the perfect look has a habit of evolving into the face of the person you fall in love with by their personality and that little indescribable thing that makes them, them.
verhrzn Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Why is it always the people who are convinced they themselves are not attractive to the other gender who defend the point of view that attraction is the same for everybody? Is that belief an excuse? A reason not to take risks? If they disqualify themselves from the competition, then they don't have to face rejection. I have a friends who get hit on more than me. That doesn't mean I'm not attractive. The way I see it is, not so much that everyone is attracted to the same thing (some likes blondes, some like brunettes) but that most everyone is attracted to a specific TYPE. I think scientists mark it down as "symmetry." So, yeah, you may like tall women, but you still want a woman who is symmetrical. There is a standard of beauty in society, an ideal. The further away you are from the ideal, the less attractive you are. The less symmetrical you are, the less people will find you attractive. There's also the practical side of it. Okay, chances are, someone, SOMEWHERE, is attracted to me. But if exactly 2 people in the entire county find me attractive, that isn't very helpful as it? Why not round down to "nobody"? And don't kid yourself... even disqualifying myself from the competition doesn't mean I face rejection. It just means I'm PREPARED for the rejection. I mean, if nobody finds me attractive, then I won't be surprised when no one finds me attractive. If there are people in the world that everybody finds attractive, why does it not make sense that there would be people in the world that nobody finds beautiful?
Kamille Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 The way I see it is, not so much that everyone is attracted to the same thing (some likes blondes, some like brunettes) but that most everyone is attracted to a specific TYPE. I think scientists mark it down as "symmetry." So, yeah, you may like tall women, but you still want a woman who is symmetrical. There is a standard of beauty in society, an ideal. The further away you are from the ideal, the less attractive you are. The less symmetrical you are, the less people will find you attractive. There's also the practical side of it. Okay, chances are, someone, SOMEWHERE, is attracted to me. But if exactly 2 people in the entire county find me attractive, that isn't very helpful as it? Why not round down to "nobody"? And don't kid yourself... even disqualifying myself from the competition doesn't mean I face rejection. It just means I'm PREPARED for the rejection. I mean, if nobody finds me attractive, then I won't be surprised when no one finds me attractive. If there are people in the world that everybody finds attractive, why does it not make sense that there would be people in the world that nobody finds beautiful? The studies have never argued that there were people out there who everyone found attractive. They demonstrated babies spent, on average, more time looking at people who's faces were symmetrical. I am resistant to use this study to create a world view. Studies have shown that adults tend to be attracted to people who share some of their general traits (type of face, height, body type). Again, this is a correlation, meaning, not everyone fits the mold. But the two studies combined already suggest there is variation in who we perceive to be attractive.
verhrzn Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 The studies have never argued that there were people out there who everyone found attractive. They demonstrated babies spent, on average, more time looking at people who's faces were symmetrical. I am resistant to use this study to create a world view. Studies have shown that adults tend to be attracted to people who share some of their general traits (type of face, height, body type). Again, this is a correlation, meaning, not everyone fits the mold. But the two studies combined already suggest there is variation in who we perceive to be attractive. Again, I don't argue that there's a variation. I see it less as black and white, and more of a sliding scale, with really attractive people over here (and thus having more people wanting them) and less attractive down there (with less people wanting them.) The further down the scale you are from ideal, the less attractive you are. Again, if the practical reality is only 10 people on Earth find you attractive, yeah, sure, it means SOMEone does, but is that really useful?
Author wwwjd Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 If there are people in the world that everybody finds attractive, why does it not make sense that there would be people in the world that nobody finds beautiful? Because I am attracted to a girl with unsymetrical teeth, and it doesn't bother me in the slightest. Without knowing her history, based on observation and life experience, I'd suspect her teeth have caused her much anguish with guys in the past. Or maybe others have been easily smitten REGUARDLESS just like me. Maybe it seems like there maybe only 2 in the country that attracted to someone, but consider this: generally, one will seek companionship WITHIN THE TOWN THEY RESIDE IN. The net can change that a little, but generally, locally we look. There could be TWO in that town. Now multiply that by the number of towns you COULD live in, if you moved or simply lived elsewhere. Now, you are talking literally thousands that could exist.... two in each and every town. Plenty of possible attractants. Yeah, you can't live everywhere at once, but you don't know that maybe those two are in your town right now. And then there are some average looking people who's personalities will MAKE THEM UNATTRACTIVE to just about everyone... but that is totally different realm. I dunno, perhaps my Super Optimist Powers are ruling me (for the record, I have the confidence, semetry and hygene to consider myself being around a "7". I attract glances, don't attract random others, so my thread is not me trying to justify anything. I do fine on the women front. Just making an observation that attraction comes from more than a cookie cutter, typical media represented idea of beauty and attractiveness, and there is always hope for ANYONE)
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