HurtZ Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 So I just started a new relationship with a guy and it is going really well. He is very attentive and considerate to me. However, I am not sure if I should be concerned or if it just my insecurity taking over. He broke up with his longtime girlfriend (10+) years about a year ago. So he has been officially broken up with her for a year before we got together. For some reason, I can’t quit obsessing that he will try to get back with her even though he has reassured me he won’t. He told me when we first hooked up that she didn’t want to be broken up so maybe that is why I am stressing. Is she talking to him? Is she trying to get back with him still? He never talks about her, yet they are still friends on facebook. I don’t want to ask him because it will make me look insecure and he has given me NO reasons not to trust him. Thoughts?
darkmoon Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 (edited) exes are old news and in the past - you could ask him to quietly remove her from fb, as in she doesn't need to be asked permission, if he refuses then do a bit of fb friending of your own or dump the shmo for not being very nice to you Edited April 4, 2012 by darkmoon
Lauriebell82 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I have an ex boyfriend who is a fb friend who I never talk to. We are both happily married now and have not had any contact since our breakup. My husband doesn't seem bothered by it because he trusts me. There are PLENTY of people on fb who do not talk to each other but are "friends." If your boyfriend hasn't given you a reason to not trust him, then don't worry about it. Everytime you feel insecure, tell yourself that you trust him and that he is with you now. Reassure yourself that if he wanted to be with her he would be. I think SOME insecurity over exes is normal, but obsessing about it is not healthy. Don't do that to yourself.
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