catersi Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Christina (my girlfriend) started acting again about sharing, making me think that she’s either being fed **** or just getting tired of me (I dont have a job at this time), she ***en threw the beer because i asked her to share....weird because she hasn't done that in a very long time. I ain't askin her for **** ever again, not even take offers. Also she hit up G’z up (guy tryin to hit on her even while knowing she is taken) again......at 2am im guessing after she “got” mad at me.....mucho malo......she knows better...and she knows i don't want her/like her to talk to him....and she actually stopped for a while....hmm I guess im not getting through to her about the whole communication thing cause i've already brought it up many times before...its getting old and i don't feel like bringing **** up anymore not even serious issues...its like im talking to a wall.....idk sometimes i feel like right now where we're at is the pinnacle of our relationship and its gonna start to go to ****, im so frustrated..everything in our relationship was great up until this week.....Also that whole making fun of my dick n the “limp” incident really affected my sex today.....its ***en with my head.....i went limp again just from thinking about them making fun of me....****.... I don't think she is ready to make a serious commitment to our relationship just yet....she does seem to be serious about us but not commited..commitment means doing whatever it takes to make things better or work...maybe its me but idk what else to think cause i guess maybe its just that shes too young for me (19) (im 27), this is the type of **** that happens to someone who doesnt know what the **** is going through the other person’s head!......being serious maybe isnt in her nature, i don't mind the jokes and playing around but not so much or all of the time (she horses around a lot including playfighting constantly on a daily basis) (which i dont like or feel like its a healthy relationship behaviour), she needs to learn to step back and kick back a little once in awhile. I mean ****...im already thinking about detaching myself sentimentally just so that it wont hit me so bad when she decides to leave me for whatever reason, i think i would fall into the worst depression ever if that was to happen cause i never loved someone so much in my life......I dont know if i could ever recover from such a loss....i might just fall into a deep depression...makes me depressed just thinking about it. U know what sucks more?...that i feel i could never have this conversation with her or even get to the second sentence before she cuts me off and starts interrupting me or busting jokes....I see myself with her for a very long time....its just that one thing...comunication that she needs to work on or else...idk
TaraMaiden Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 there were so many asterisks i gave up after the second sentence. "communication deficit" indeed. Really though - try improving your own language skills - it just isn't nice to be 'assaulted' with that kind of speech. Here or anywhere else. 1
FitChick Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Don't they teach people how to write in paragraphs any more? There are a lot of posters on this forum who have that problem. I don't bother reading anything they write as a result.
Philosoraptor Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 It really seems like you both need to grow up a lot and get out of this "gangster" type life you are living. Your G'z? You both seem to need a good lesson on communication and realize neither of you seem ready for a long term relationship. Much growing needs to be done here on both ends, for both of your sakes. Sounds like another case of fully grown children who have not fostered themselves enough to mature in a positive way.
SJC2008 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Don't worry about the format this isn't an ENGLISH writing forum. I got the jest of what you're trying to say. The fact that you value communication is great because it's the foundation of a relationship. I'm not saying to the point of where there is no romance or spontenaity, but it is the foundation. Yes commitment means that both parties should be willing to do, within reason and their comfort zones to meet the others needs. She is very young and I'm not trying to rain on your parade but if you want a serious relationship I wouldn't go below the age of 24. Yes their are exceptions but it's a good fail safe age because many women reach who they are and what they want by this age and like I said there are exceptions. It all boils down to her age dude. I'm no shrink but her being with a 27 yr old tells me she either had no, or a bad father figure in her life. I'd say have a sincere talk with her, don't scold her or blame her or give her an ultimadum. Ask her how she feels about communication in a relationship and tell her how important it is. Be supportive, tell her you want it to work and tell her you want to meet her needs and what your needs are. I hope it works out but you REALLY need to think hard about the elephant in the room, HER AGE.
SJC2008 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Just because someone uses slang doesn't mean thy are thugs or immature and aren't allowed to have feelings and be in relationships. Would't America be so boaring if everyone wore the same clothes or listened to the same music or spoke the same?? If your not breaking the law how you talk or anyting about your lifestyle is NOBODY'S BUSINESS.
TaraMaiden Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Well sorry, but we all have our preferences - and this one isn't mine. I'm all for helping someone out, but if I can't for the life of me follow what on earth they're talking about, i can't do that. Kudos to you for persevering. But sometimes, in order to get your point across, clarity is the preferable route. And just to add - this site is not used exclusively by Americans.
SJC2008 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 (edited) Well sorry, but we all have our preferences - and this one isn't mine. I'm all for helping someone out, but if I can't for the life of me follow what on earth they're talking about, i can't do that. Kudos to you for persevering. But sometimes, in order to get your point across, clarity is the preferable route. And just to add - this site is not used exclusively by Americans. No apology neccessary and good point about the site not only being used by Americans. Why waste your time responding at all then if you can't understand what they were saying?? If you really wanted to help hem Try this next time: Catseri I'd like to help you but not everyone on this board understands the dialect used in your part of the world so don't take this the wrong way but try to use proper grammar so we can help you out ok? Edited April 4, 2012 by SJC2008 left something out
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