robaday Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Went on a date a week ago - took her out to a few bars. Conversation flowed really well I thought - no awkward silences or anything. We had similar interests, although she was much more extroverted than me which I noticed. I thought overall it went well. Not much chemistry - we hardly kissed but she did invite me back to hers, but insisted she didnt sleep with someone first date. I respected that and was very laid back about it. So we went back and chatted, kissed a little, went to sleep. Next morning she woke me up so I could get to work, and cooked breakfast for me. She seemed positive. Then I texted her just thanking her for good night and asked how she was and nothing. Its really strange because she seemed quite assertive and confident. Im not after a relationship by any means but Im a little surprised she hasnt had decency to text or anything. Try again in a few days? Or leave it?
TaraMaiden Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Try again in a few days. If nothing - then leave it. If however there wasn't much chemistry there.... what do you see the prospects as being?
Author robaday Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 She seemed like a cool person and I really enjoyed hanging out with her, she is attractive as well, so thought there was potential despite lack of chemistry. Its only one date and to be honest Id be cool with being friends if shes not interested in that way - she shares some of my friends although I hadnt ever met her personally until a month and a half ago. Ill give it a few days. Thanks!
Andy_K Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 At the risk of getting my head bitten off by some female posters here, just because a girl says she doesn't sleep with someone on a first date doesn't mean she actually won't sleep with you on a first date. I'll bet there are plenty of other guys on here who have heard the line "I don't usually do this..." before So I think you should have pushed your luck and seen how far you could get. Obviously you stop if you get any sort of 'No' or 'Stop', but you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. It's not unheard of for a girl to lose interest if a guy is too passive and unassertive about this sort of thing. There are other possibilities, I'm just throwing this one out there.
TaraMaiden Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 hindsight is 20/20. It's too late with the shoulda/coulda/woulda...... the question is - what now?
Author robaday Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 Thanks guys! "What next"? Just continue enjoying myself and tryin to get numbers. I only posted because it was the first date Ive had in some time (got out of a relationship a few months back), and wondered if I had done something wrong - im inclined to agree with Andy_k about maybe she wanted me to try to sleep with her. But yeah, its a really fine line - play it cool when they say they dont sleep with people on first dates so you dont come off as insecure, or keep hitting on them.
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