thr1986 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I am 25, live in the city and single... I'm a pretty genuine guy...Just out of curiosity, how to girls want to be approached. I'm white, tall, handsome and have a good job...trying to attract a girl similar to myself and always looking for advice. I think many guys, myself included, feel the need to be something they are not when approaching women. Is just being straight forward and nice really something that girls are not interested in anymore? I really seems that way sometimes...
Lovely Girl Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Girls want a guy that everyone seems to want but can't have. I say be yourself when approaching a girl but don't come off desperate or clingy. Just be simple, less is always more
january2011 Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Asking for directions/out-of-town tourist in a cafe or restaurant seems to work well on me. Otherwise, I don't usually talk to random men in the street. 1
udolipixie Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I am 25, live in the city and single... I'm a pretty genuine guy...Just out of curiosity, how to girls want to be approached. From my experiences/observations it's generally pleasantly without expectation of reciprocation or how she should appreciate you approaching him and no verbal/physical abuse upon rejection. Though I don't see this occurring often as most gals I know tend to dodge and avoid interaction with guys as much as impossible when out in public due to largely having unpleasant encounters. Or when anytime they are remotely nice or even glance in a guy's general direction he takes it as as invitation that they want to have sex with him or want to converse with him usually leading to him reacting negatively at rejection/refusal. To quote a gal I know "Men kill kindness in women by taking manners to mean wanting to have sex with you" I'm white, tall, handsome and have a good job...trying to attract a girl similar to myself and always looking for advice. Probably best to fake some interest or create some question asking for help (directions) that socially obligates her to engage with you otherwise she's rude or a bitch. From my experiences few guys are engaging or interesting enough to gather a gal's interest without using the you're socially obligated to help me or indirect way of hitting on a gal by making her think it's just a conversation. I think many guys, myself included, feel the need to be something they are not when approaching women. That's most likely because guys tend to dislike rejection and as they want the gal they tend to shapeshift or force themselves to be whatever she is attracted to so she won't reject him. As well as not too many guys it seems have social or conversational skills. Is just being straight forward and nice really something that girls are not interested in anymore? I really seems that way sometimes... Straight forward and nice are qualities that many gals are interested in. Rarely do I see it's all that gals are into or the top desired qualities as many gals require more than that for attraction seeing straight forward and nice as default and expected. Even more willing to overlook a guy lacking that if they are attracted to him.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Naturally. Friendly. Sincerely. A guy can just ask "How are you doing" or find something in common to comment on depending on our surroundings.. At the grocery store: "Hey, do you make your own pizza? Do you know what the best kind of cheese to get is?" At the DMV: "Man, this line is moving fast don't you think?" I would love if more men approached in public.
yongyong Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I used to ask questions like this. Please don't listen to them. (I am not saying it's all false) You claim yourself as a very attractive person. then as long as you don't say dumb things, girls will respond. I would try everything. Make a situational comment, tell her directly she's adorable, comment on her outfit, ask some questions etc.
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