dsw31 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 (edited) Hi guys, Curious to know your thoughts on this.I feel kinda of silly right now. I see this really nice, attractive guy around my neighborhood all the time.We both do the same kind of work so,we stop & talk about our jobs & have little chit chat.I have told him once,long ago,that his accent is cute.I could tell that he got a little embarassed, blushed,said "thank you". He was kind of akward, for a couple of days, after that.Then he warmed up again & we had our usual everyday little pleasantries... Well I had not seen him in a couple of weeks,until yesterday.I asked why he's not around anymore.He said his job made him move to another area in the city & he was upset about it.Then he said "why don't you give me your card, incase I get any new clients that I can pass onto you" I told him I was out of cards but, I'll give you my phone number now.He said "ok,call me so I have yours & you'll have mine."Then he said"listen to my voicemail,it's my cute neice on the message".I got so excited & over eager,I called right away & left his a message.I said"your neice sounds adorable!Well now you have my number & I have yours,if you ever want to have lunch,or just need a friend,feel free to call me".That was yesterday. Today,I texted him.I said "I just have to tell you, you looked so handsome today!Wait a minute...everyday! ;)" He replied an hour later saying "Thank you! You are so sweet!" I won't be texting him first anymore but,I think I just got rejected.I did not get a reciprocation of attraction from his text.Am I being rational?Is he not interested? Edited April 4, 2012 by dsw31
gaius Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I think he likes you as a person since he made effort to keep you around. Affection from you makes him uncomfortable though, if he can't even handle a nice accent compliment just imagine what would happen if you took your clothes off in front of him. So yeah, he's probably not looking for anything more.
dasein Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Way too soon to tell, doesn't sound like a rejection. Try a thought experiment, how would you reply to such a text from a relative stranger, "I must have you NOW!" or "Can I see you tonight?" Probably not. If he doesn't ask you out in the next couple of weeks, he probably isn't interested. 2
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 You put yourself out there and now you've just got to wait to see If he reciprocates and takes you up on your offer and wants to meet up. I wouldn't take it as a rejection just yet, at least he took the initiative to get your contact info so that he could follow up with you in the future...just relax, he may be taking his time, shy, unsure, and see where it goes from here. 2
Leigh 87 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 You were most likely rejected. Don't worry, you sound nice:) you will find men who adore you and will flirt right back!! So, do not waste anymore efforts on a guy who is not interested. Hey - he thinks your nice enough, to respond at all, he obviously sees you as harmless and nice. NOw, do not turn into a psycho and keep texting:) Most guys who like you, will respond back to flirt with something along the lines off " thanks, you look pretty good yourself;)" Almost all guys who are interested will flirt back by giving YOU a compliment in return:)
Leigh 87 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Although I must say - well done for putting yourself out there!!!!!!! You totally have the rihgt attitude!!! You NEED to put yourself out there, in order to find the RIGHT men!! Not ALL great men who are into you, will let on easily enough.... SO, please keep on with your great attidude! Put yourself out their girl! KNow you WILL Be rejected, but that you will also meet more ment his way ( seeing as a lot of men do not go for it even when THEY like you!)
Author dsw31 Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 Thanks for the replies so far guys! I pretty much figured that, if he was interested,he would have atleast gave me a little compliment back.I guess it just wasn't meant to be!I won't let it get me down,thanks again guys. If anyone else has any input on this,feel free to let me have it! Thanks!!
Author dsw31 Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 UPDATE- 2 DAYS LATER......... I didn't see him yesterday but we bumped into each other this morning.I am 31 years old but I feel like a school girl asking you guys to interpret this for me.Lol! I have a feeling he is super shy & has never had a girl hit on him before(atleast not so blatently) He said -"That text message you sent me was the nicest text I have ever recieved in my life" I said "well I really meant what I said" He said "I was in school when you sent it" (I'm psychoanalizing but, I take this to mean-that is why I took an hour to respond) I should have said something more clever but,we then talked about the weather & other small stuff & carried on about our way. I know he does not have a GF. I wonder what's gonna happen next? Stay tuned to my highschool story,if you care to... Do you guys think he is just shy? Or still not interested? He smiled at me again when he drove past a few minutes later
lso802 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I wouldn't rule the guy out yet. There doesn't seem to be a sure sign that he's not interested. Give it some more time.
mortensorchid Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Nothing wrong with sending those texts that you did, but I would wait it out and see if he tries to initiate some further contact, be in a conversational text / chat or if he actually asks you to do something. Otherwise you might come off as too pushy.
mtber75 Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 UPDATE- 2 DAYS LATER......... I didn't see him yesterday but we bumped into each other this morning.I am 31 years old but I feel like a school girl asking you guys to interpret this for me.Lol! I have a feeling he is super shy & has never had a girl hit on him before(atleast not so blatently) He said -"That text message you sent me was the nicest text I have ever recieved in my life" I said "well I really meant what I said" He said "I was in school when you sent it" (I'm psychoanalizing but, I take this to mean-that is why I took an hour to respond) I should have said something more clever but,we then talked about the weather & other small stuff & carried on about our way. I know he does not have a GF. I wonder what's gonna happen next? Stay tuned to my highschool story,if you care to... Do you guys think he is just shy? Or still not interested? He smiled at me again when he drove past a few minutes later He's just dumb shy due to inexperience or introvert attitude. I had it happen in college where I was so clueless that the girl was actually asking me out on a date! You just probably have to give it time.
Author dsw31 Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 He's just dumb shy due to inexperience or introvert attitude. I had it happen in college where I was so clueless that the girl was actually asking me out on a date! You just probably have to give it time. Thanks guys! I hope I don't have to de-virginize his ass! That will be a whole other can of worms because I like an extremely dominant man in the bedroom (most of the time)
veggirl Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 Well I def think he is interested since he brought it up the next time you saw him! That's a great sign I think If he thought it was weird / awkward, he wouldn't have mentioned it. 1
Author dsw31 Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 UPDATE-3 DAYS LATER.................. So this morning I recieved a "happy Easter text" Responded with a "thank you & happy Easter to you too" Asked if he was working today & he said no. Then I asked if maybe he'd like to do something later, (like play tennis or get something to eat)He said"that sounds great but,I won't be around all day since it's Easter" So-now what do you guys think? I believe him,when he said he is busy cause of the holiday but, do you think he likes me?I mean,he did text me first this time. BTW-that's the last time I ask him out,I'll wait to see if he asks me to do anything now Just curious to know if you guys think I have a chance at a date?Thanks to anyone who is reading this nonsense! Lol. :-)
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