insertnamehere Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Ladies? Please do not comment here. At all. I know everyone loves commenting on questions for the opposite gender, but please don't. As for the question itself . . . Guys? How often do you get approached by a woman when you're out? I get the impression from what guys I know say and what I see posted online that a lot of guys literally never get approached. I'm trying to gauge how normal my situation is. So, how often? Never ever? Once in a blue moon? Once a year? Once a month? Once a night? More? 1
John Tucker Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 the only time girls approach me, are by girls that don't attract me.
MrNate 2.0 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Between once in a blue moon and never. I never really expect them to though. After all, most girl want it the opposite way anyway. It fulfills a need deep down for them, as well as makes for a great story to tell their girlfriends. It's all gravy, baby.
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Are you talking about directly approaching? I.E. directly asking me to go on a date? I don't think that's ever happened to me. Women's idea of approaching is subtle: smiling, gentle touching, and pretending to laugh at your jokes. But guys find it extremely difficult to pick up on this. A woman's way of showing interest is so subtle a guy wonders if she's genuinely interested or just being friendly. Women don't understand guys are never sure of these hints they give. And then they wanna complain guys are clueless.
somedude81 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 The last time a woman made obvious her interest in me was about seven years ago. All other times after that were false positives.
carhill Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Guys? How often do you get approached by a woman when you're out? I can't recall the last time I was approached by a single woman. I have been approached and/or flirted with many times by married women and women who later turned out to be LTR. This includes the ten years I was married and the six or so years of LTR's prior. When I figure out the secret to this dynamic, I'll be sure to share it. Or maybe have it engraved on my tombstone
carhill Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 smiling, gentle touching, and pretending to laugh at your jokes Affirmative, plus ILY's, I want sex and those ever tortuous kisses. It's very confusing.
ThaWholigan Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I can think of about 6/7 instances off of the top of my head. It doesn't happen often.
salparadise Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 When we're completely unacquainted, it rarely happens in an overt way. What they do is send a signal that they're open to be approached. But when there is already a basis for interaction it's a whole different story. They still don't approach the same way a guy would but they'll make it obvious enough when their motor's running. As for frequency, not as much now as when I was in my 30s and 40s, but several times a year I guess. There is really a social thing that teaches girls that it's inappropriate to be forward in this regard, so they seem to be inhibited even when they don't want to be.
Author insertnamehere Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 Are you talking about directly approaching? I.E. directly asking me to go on a date? I don't think that's ever happened to me. Either approach counts. I'm well aware that women have their weird orbit around you, glance at you then look away approach. If it was clearly an approach, even an indirect approach, feel free to count it.
Freshked Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Girls don't really approach me ever. Not openly. Sometimes they come up to me and say "I like your shirt" or something. That is them approaching you telling you they like you. Other than that, rarely ever if ever does a woman approach me. 1
dasein Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Depends how you define "approach." If approach means walk up like Mae West and say "Hey Sailor," rarely. If approach means hang out near me, draw eye contact, smile, rub up against me or put their hands on me at bars, a moderate amount, not every time I go out, probably once every 3-5 times I go out.
lso802 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 3 today and 1 was staring at me while i was studying. friends say i don't look intimidating. i don't know, but girls try to talk to me all the time. not often ones i'm interested though.
Eddie Edirol Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I get subtle approaches prolly twice a month. And that is women starting conversations with me. But its situational, not completely cold. They cant risk the rejection if the came out and made it obvious.
Andy_K Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 2-3 times in the last 6 months, and that's significantly more than at any other point in my life.
Soxfaninfl Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 (edited) I've only been approached a few times in my lifetime (36 years old) and it's usually by older women that I'm not attracted to. I don't go to bars much either, so I'm not out there. I'm trying the online thing since my divorce. This will never change. Men will for the most part will be the persuers. Edited April 4, 2012 by Soxfaninfl
runner Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Guys? How often do you get approached by a woman when you're out? I get the impression from what guys I know say and what I see posted online that a lot of guys literally never get approached. I'm trying to gauge how normal my situation is. So, how often? Never ever? Once in a blue moon? Once a year? Once a month? Once a night? More? at leas a few times per month. but that's cos i'm always amongst people and i'm always open to be approached, looking for interesting conversation. sometimes i flirt back, and sometimes i pretend i didn't notice any signs; it all depends on how i feel at the moment and how attracted i am whether i flirt back or not.
oaks Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Guys? How often do you get approached by a woman when you're out? Once a year, but it might happen more times and I simply fail to recognise it as such. Online on dating sites it's about once a fortnight when I have an active profile.
phineas Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I don't go out much but i'd say i'd say 1/3 times a woman will strike up conversation with me & we will exchange numbers afterword. Though that doesn't always mean i'll get a date. For women trying to get my attention subtly i'd say about half the time. Of course some nights I might as well be invisible & other nights I'd have two women give me their number. I've also had women just ask me out however that only happens a few times a yr. But, i'd like to point out I think it's an age thing. Because when I was younger I might as well of been invisible at bars. These day's I don't have a ton of competition. i'm in shape, not a substance abuser, no criminal record, not in debt, dress well & have good hygiene....... you get the idea. 1
fucpcg Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 All the time. When I am out, I am generally smiling, clowning around, having a good time, so maybe they pickup on that. Last summer was at this outdoor event downtown, and there was a dunk tank to raise funds for whatever charity, I forget. My buddy was in the tank, so we traded a few words jokingly before I purchased some balls. Since I'm avid baller I clowned around my first few balls, tried to do a windmill pitch, throw with my left when I am a righty, etc. Then my last ball I wizzed it down and beaned the target, but the chair didn't drop. So I thought it would be funny to just run down the sidewalk and head butt the target so he would drop. I did, almost split my head open!, and he dropped, and everyone around the tank watching was laughing their butt's off. You would not believe the amount of women who approached me that night. Do something to be unique, funny, uninhibited, with a smile, and watch what happens. 1
El Brujo Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Guys? How often do you get approached by a woman when you're out? The only times I get approached by women is when they want to tell me, "wooooooow! I've never SEEN a giant before!" A-freakin'-mazing.
wwwjd Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 rarely real approached. much eye contact, "notice me", smiles, come hithers and other "I'm approaching you to approach me" looks, to which I respond accordingly. Nothing wrong with women approaching at all, and I really like it it. It is a sassy confidence that REALLY catches me there.... But men need to approach, need to learn it, need to be the man. Often when they aren't, the relationship has no real long term hope. Unless whipped and spineless is considered successful?
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