tlamb93 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 (edited) My and my first real love in my life broke up a few months ago, and we tried to stay together for months....However the last month or so we had both agreed to trying to move on. We would both go to bed crying, and we were both hurting so bad. But now she's dating somebody else, and all the things that she said about me she is now saying about him. We go to the same school, and we are in one of the same classes. She's ****ing happy and awesome again while I'm still miserable and looking for someone else....I've talked to multiple girls, but I just keep finding too many faults with them. Nobody matches up to her, and I can't be with someone unless they do...It's awful and I hate how I feel this way. I have to see them together at school...I want to scream every single day of my life knowing that some other guy is getting what I deserve to get from the girl I love so dearly. She, however, doesn't give a **** about me anymore and obviously doesn't love me anymore, all she cares about now is her new boyfriend. She could care less about the memories we shared. She's a ****ing player. It's not fair that I feel so crazy about her still and can't move on, and she found it so easy to move on to another guy, and now she's happy. Edited April 4, 2012 by tlamb93
Philosoraptor Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Being upset at her won't make you feel any better. Did she really move on? Who knows? Many people rebound to avoid the pain because it is too hard being alone. All you can do right now is take care of yourself and try to stop focusing on her. 2
Nohbody Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Yes, what Philosoraptor said and this: It's normal to get territorial about our mates. When a mate leaves us for someone else we feel that our territory has been impugned by outsiders. In old days, this usually meant that you were going to die - you now had no mate, no territory, and thus no resources or food. But here's the thing... you don't deserve anything from anyone. A relationship is a mutual give and take that two people agree to enter into. Is this love, or possessiveness of your territory? Please think hard about that, and I don't want to denigrate your feelings in any way. Good luck
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