Kyle787 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I'm in college and I've never been in a real (long) relationship yet as I get super picky towards commitment and who I spend my time with. However there is girl who keeps giving me a really inviting stare and I find her really cute, however I know 100% she has a boyfriend. That said, I've had (multiple) people mention something to me before to just go talk to her because many girls and guys will tend to turn to the better deal if they find it- especially at a young age (college). Is there any truth to this? I don't want to be a ******* who tries flirting and then getting caught in drama/games. But if what I said is true, it might be worth the risk. I also do realize that if she did turn to chose me over her boyfriend, I should expect it to happen down the road. Would it possibly be better to just take the time to meet her and let things happen later on if they do at all?
NeverDated Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 What can it hurt? If she's happy in her relationship, she won't let it go anywhere and you misinterpreted. If she's unhappy and interested, something could come of it. And if at any point you start feeling the "drama" level escalate, you can just remove yourself from the situation. Also, I see no reason for you to "expect" it in turn. Leaving a non-committed relationship for greener pastures (breaking up with someone before dating someone new) is a far cry from cheating (messing around with someone while still leading your partner to believe things are OK). True, in the future she could realize you're not all she thought you to be and move on, but so could you. That's how non-committed relationships work, kind of like at will employment. You could job hop a dozen times, but as soon as you find the right one you settle into it.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Sorry I would never advocate for going after someone in relationships its a morality issue for and reeks of karma coming to bite u in the back. That saidd you can be in non committed relationships where the other person feels the same without overstepping your boundaries and being a third wheel. I understand the thrill to cheat with others or go after someone's SO but that ultimately just makes you an ass. 1
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