SighRising Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I do not know where to start with this. Other than Before my current Girlfriend I had horrible luck with women. And it all made me insecure. However I met my current GF who also suffered from insecurity at the time. We were able to help each other out and strengthen each other. We have now been dating for almost 2 years and she is still as beautiful inside and out as ever. I do love her to death and I know she loves me...but...I think my insecurity is coming back. Lately I feel like her and I are growing apart and that maybe she is bored with me. I hate this feeling but it is stuck in my gut and I am sure it is true. We talk about it and she swears we are just fine but we are just not the same. Anyway last night made it all worse. Warning: Facebook drama ahead. Yes I know the worst kind. I live in a smaller town and there is this guy who I think is THE player in town. He has been since college. A few years ago when I was 3rd year at college he was a freshman and playing with women on the regular. And yes at the time I was insecure and quite jealous of him. Anyways long story short last night he had one of those dumb statuses telling girls to like his status so he can rate them from 1-10. And he had over 90 damn likes. Yes 90 women wanting him to judge their looks for their self esteem. And he gives a bunch of 6 and 7s. It was ridiculous enough but I gf was one of the people. She is a beautiful girl and he rated her just a 7 and she liked his post on her. It all just pissed me off. Like why is she going to this guy of all people about something like this. I know it is all kind of stupid but I cannot help but feel the way I do. I have not talked to her yet today. She texted me earlier and I ignored it. I just want to know if I am over reacting and should stay quiet or ask her about it and probably blow up at her?
Feelsgoodman Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Women crave attention and validation from desirable men. Being seen as a 7 by a guy who is a 9 is much more pleasing to their ego than being seen as a 10 by a guy who is a 6.
ariadne999 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I know it is all kind of stupid but I cannot help but feel the way I do. I have not talked to her yet today. She texted me earlier and I ignored it. I just want to know if I am over reacting and should stay quiet or ask her about it and probably blow up at her? I read your whole post and I'm saddened that 90 women would buy into such bull****. I'd be pissed at an SO for such behavior because it shows a huge lack of maturity. Male or female. please please please for the sake of humanity tell me you and everyone involved are under 21. If you are any where near 30 good god, tell me where you live so I can know to never visit a place populated with such pathetic people.
Stellar Wench Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I do not know if you are insecure, but your GF and her friends are very shallow. Most likely too shallow to be your type and that is why you're growing apart.
Author SighRising Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 Women crave attention and validation from desirable men. Being seen as a 7 by a guy who is a 9 is much more pleasing to their ego than being seen as a 10 by a guy who is a 6. Makes sense I guess :-/
baguette Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Don't even worry about it. Show more confidence in yourself (and around her) and you'll have nothing to worry about. Don't tell her about any of your momentary insecurities.
Author SighRising Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 I read your whole post and I'm saddened that 90 women would buy into such bull****. I'd be pissed at an SO for such behavior because it shows a huge lack of maturity. Male or female. please please please for the sake of humanity tell me you and everyone involved are under 21. If you are any where near 30 good god, tell me where you live so I can know to never visit a place populated with such pathetic people. Well he is one of those people who has 100s of facebook friends and doesnt know most of them probably. But yes still it was really way too many girls to be doing that stuff I thought too. Well I am 26 and she is 24. He is 23 I think.
Author SighRising Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 Well we talked on the phone and I didn't bring it up. It is still bothering me though. I guess I have to try and suck it up.
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