Meg717 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 So I was so excited to post later that today would be 2 weeks with no contact and then he calls. Obviously I answer. I wish I hadn't. He wants to come pick up his mail tomorrow and that's why he called. He started asking about my family and how i'm doing. Then he asked if I had gone out with the guy I had mentioned when we spoke 2 weeks ago. I told him, no, that the plans got messed up. He asked if we rescheduled and I said not yet. I asked about his love life and he says "it's private." Are you kidding me?!?! I was like how is that even fair? So eventually he told me that he is seeing someone and it was very unexpected. I told him I already knew it was his co-worker and he eventually told me I was correct. I just don't know what to believe from him anymore. I feel most of our relationship was him apologizing for lying about something so how I am I supposed to believe what he's saying now. He's being so selfish! I am so glad to be done with him! Any thought or hope of us ever getting back together is gone. I'm moving on! He doesn't deserve me. I deserve someone who will respect me to tell me the truth. Not pretend to be happy and in love for who knows how long just to say "it was a lie." And the Oscar goes to.... bc it was a really good act! He actually thinks that I want to be the type of couple that discusses our new relationships. Are you serious?? All of his stuff is at my house still. I told him he has until the end of the month or it goes in the trash. Did he sense my happiness?? Sorry if this is a rant and all over the place. I'm just all out of sorts right now.
Philosoraptor Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 He just wanted to make sure he was doing "better" than you and that he was "winning" the breakup. Do not answer next time as you do not need to deal with such immaturity. Just take care of yourself. 3
threebyfate Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Right after a break up, exes hate being considered invisible so they agitate for attention. Instead of threatening to get rid of his stuff, just pack it up into a box and ship it to him. If you can make it COD, even better. But the small amount of money this will cost you, is worth it for your peace of mind.
Chi townD Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Beautiful things phones have these days. It's called "voice mail".
TaraMaiden Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Be out tomorrow. Leave his mail by the front door, with a note: "This is the last time you get to pick up your mail. I'm not keeping it for you any longer. It's been *xx* weeks now, you should have a redirect in place, or have advised all important contacts of your move. Collect the remainder of your belongings by *date* or as i have already said, it all goes in the trash." And that's it. don't sign it, don't say anything else. that's more than sufficient. He doesn't live with you any more - so living rent-free in your head, is not an option. 2
Author Meg717 Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 thanks everybody!! next time, it will def go to voicemail! i would totally mail him his stuff but i have no idea where he lives. i know it's on someone's couch and i know the town, but that's about it.
mike588 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 My ex. dumped me 8 months ago....about 6 weeks ago she contacts me telling me shes sorry and has regrets for hurting me and the way she ended it. She did'nt mention anything about wanting to get back together and even though I was pretty much over her and had moved on I think we all hold out just a tiny bit of hope that they want to try it again. It was an ego boost for her to contact me...for her to reconize how good I was to her but not mentioning anything about wanting to try it again set me back...not only did it bring back all the hurt from the b/u but it was like losing her again....I so wanted to have to make the decision...to have the final word.
Author Meg717 Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 My ex. dumped me 8 months ago....about 6 weeks ago she contacts me telling me shes sorry and has regrets for hurting me and the way she ended it. She did'nt mention anything about wanting to get back together and even though I was pretty much over her and had moved on I think we all hold out just a tiny bit of hope that they want to try it again. It was an ego boost for her to contact me...for her to reconize how good I was to her but not mentioning anything about wanting to try it again set me back...not only did it bring back all the hurt from the b/u but it was like losing her again....I so wanted to have to make the decision...to have the final word. I agree with everything you said. I think he knew the last time we talked was 2 weeks ago. He knew the exact date.. he said "oh yea, that was the 20th, before my birthday." My friends think he likes the attention he gets from it and feels a form of control when I lose my cool and get emotional. And I def agree about having a little bit of hope. Even though after I hung up with him and as I wrote this I said I can't wait to move on, I'm still in love with him. But I would much rather him come back so I can say "sorry I'm seeing someone else" or "no thanks i'm in a better place now."
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