ditzchic Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Looking for consolation because his latest girlfriend just dumped him. Apparently, she started gaining weight so he bought tickets for a baseball game this summer and told her that if she lost 15 lbs by then he would take her away for the weekend. He had no idea she would take it so personally.... WTF is wrong with people?!?!?!
Philosoraptor Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Just be glad that you don't have to deal with him.
Author ditzchic Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 Lemme guess, he dumped you, right? Hahaha. Actually no. I dumped him. But we've stayed "friends". Friends as in, we'll talk occasionally when we aren't seeing other people. I just think it's ridiculous for him to even think it would be ok to say something like that to a woman... Jeez.
BeyondtheClouds Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Hahaha. Actually no. I dumped him. But we've stayed "friends". Friends as in, we'll talk occasionally when we aren't seeing other people. I just think it's ridiculous for him to even think it would be ok to say something like that to a woman... Jeez. You dumped him, but you "remained as friends"....so then why are you surprised that he called you. He's calling you to chit chat just like any other friend.
happiness0421 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Hahaha that is hilarious! Sorry. Guys (and girls too) can be really dumb sometimes!
carhill Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 WTF is wrong with people?!?!?! People are different. You dumped him and chose to remain his friend. If he feels likewise, then his 'sharing' with you is just like his sharing with any of his friends. Sometimes people share things we find 'inane' or 'wrong' or stronger words. Even friends. Response: 'Well I guess she dumped you so perhaps that's good information about your choice in incentives regarding her weight loss', then move on to the next topic.
RedRobin Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I do believe that the OP posted on my thread about having male friends... and that you trashed me for it for some reason. All of my male friends are true friends, and I'm happy they feel safe talking to me about their trials and tribulations. So, I'm going to say... Your post sound a tiny bit 'gleeful' at his being dumped (again). Maybe there are some unresolved issues on your part that you haven't let go of? I'm only asking because I would not be happy if my male friends (or even an ex-BF who I'm still friends with) got dumped... even if they did something silly. In fact, I'd probably be trying to coach them on how to win her back. That's just me *shrug*
kaylan Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Looking for consolation because his latest girlfriend just dumped him. Apparently, she started gaining weight so he bought tickets for a baseball game this summer and told her that if she lost 15 lbs by then he would take her away for the weekend. He had no idea she would take it so personally.... WTF is wrong with people?!?!?! I say the guy is better off. I see nothing wrong with him trying to motivate his girlfriend to be fit, sexy, and healthy. He could have done it better though. Such as suggesting she join him in the gym so they could both get sexy for a weekend beach getaway. Oh wells.
FitChick Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I just think it's ridiculous for him to even think it would be ok to say something like that to a woman... Would it be okay to say something like that to a man?
gotye Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I say the guy is better off. I see nothing wrong with him trying to motivate his girlfriend to be fit, sexy, and healthy. He could have done it better though. Such as suggesting she join him in the gym so they could both get sexy for a weekend beach getaway. Oh wells. yaaaa, dangling tickets in front of someone and being like "uuhhh, uhhh, fatty, gotta lose weight first" is effed up suggesting joining a gym and encouraging fitness is better
xpaperxcutx Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 You do not become friends with insensitive jerks. They are egotistical thus have no problem telling u **** like this.
RedRobin Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 You do not become friends with insensitive jerks. They are egotistical thus have no problem telling u **** like this. Some of my best male friends are 'insensitive jerks' (I COULD say, hey, they are men, what do you expect? ha ha, but some guy would take me WAAY too seriously and start a flame war) They are just clueless sometimes about what upsets women. Just like I'm clueless sometimes about what trips men up. That's why they need female friends. Real ones. Not frenemies that take pleasure in their missteps with the opposite gender. I don't know what other things the guy might have done. Perhaps he is the blundering wonder and does this frequently. Who knows? The OP started the thread saying he is an 'ex'... then said he is a 'friend'. So I guess I'm confused.
gaius Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I just think it's ridiculous for him to even think it would be ok to say something like that to a woman... Jeez. Not saying it's right, but it's easier than sitting down and having the whole breakup conversation. Then having her try to convince you to work it out since you're being so nice and sweet about it. Then having the follow up phone calls. This way she just gets mad and disappears, exactly what he wants. Plus he has an interesting story to tell you, a girl he obviously still wants some connection with.
gaius Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Would it be okay to say something like that to a man? If you wanted to get rid of him sure.
Author ditzchic Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 I do believe that the OP posted on my thread about having male friends... and that you trashed me for it for some reason. All of my male friends are true friends, and I'm happy they feel safe talking to me about their trials and tribulations. So, I'm going to say... Your post sound a tiny bit 'gleeful' at his being dumped (again). Maybe there are some unresolved issues on your part that you haven't let go of? I'm only asking because I would not be happy if my male friends (or even an ex-BF who I'm still friends with) got dumped... even if they did something silly. In fact, I'd probably be trying to coach them on how to win her back. That's just me *shrug* I'm pretty sure I didn't trash you. Admittedly, I don't keep a ton of male friends. But that's my life and I don't force my views on other people. If expressing a differing opinion than yours on the subject offended you, a thousand 'I'm sorry's. That being said, this guy and I aren't close. We only get in contact a couple times a year to catch up. I'm not gleeful that he got dumped. I did offer a couple suggestions on what he can do to try and fix this. But ultimately, he's my ex and it's his life. If I cared that much about what goes on in his life he probably wouldn't be my ex. I just thought the story was funny and probably fits in well here considering the huge "dumping someone for getting fat" thread.
Emilia Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 It is hilarious. I bet you he didn't even apologise to her just told her she was over-reacting or something. That would be a typical response from a guy like that. haha
Emilia Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Not saying it's right, but it's easier than sitting down and having the whole breakup conversation. Then having her try to convince you to work it out since you're being so nice and sweet about it. Then having the follow up phone calls. This way she just gets mad and disappears, exactly what he wants. Plus he has an interesting story to tell you, a girl he obviously still wants some connection with. No I really think he just screwed this up. There are better ways to incentives someone without making them feel like a fool.
Imajerk17 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 (edited) From reading ditzchic for a while, I just don't think ditzchic meant anything malicious towards her male friend or anyone. I found it to be just a funny story about how men and women are so different, and how we are sometimes clueless about it. A man wouldn't be offended if you told him he put on 15 pounds, and he would love the incentive of a ballgame to lose the weight! Edited April 4, 2012 by Imajerk17
RedRobin Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 From reading ditzchic for a while, I just don't think ditzchic meant anything malicious towards her male friend or anyone. I found it to be just a funny story about how men and women are so different, and how we are sometimes clueless about it. A man wouldn't be offended if you told him he put on 15 pounds, and he would love the incentive of a ballgame to lose the weight! That's good to know Funny how people so often get the wires crossed.
Emilia Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 A man wouldn't be offended if you told him he put on 15 pounds, and he would love the incentive of a ballgame to lose the weight! I wouldn't be so sure but there are ways to get around that.
Author ditzchic Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 I wouldn't be so sure but there are ways to get around that. Exactly. All you have to say to a man is "Hey hunny, let's go to the gym instead of watchign TV tonight and I'll blow you in the locker room." I can't imagine any guy turning that down! lol.
Emilia Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Exactly. All you have to say to a man is "Hey hunny, let's go to the gym instead of watchign TV tonight and I'll blow you in the locker room." I can't imagine any guy turning that down! lol. Except that it would be too public perhaps as most locker rooms a single sex and pretty busy
Peter Attis Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 "Hey hunny, let's go to the gym instead of watchign TV tonight and I'll blow you in the locker room." That's a pretty good way to get thrown out of a gym. And probably arrested.
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