joystickd Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I mean without saying there are good men/women but........ I see a some of you turn threads into all men do this or all women do this and not all men and women do anything we are all different and there are good ones and I think the failure to acknowledge this is one of the problems a lot of the users have in finding someone.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Of course I can! And many of us are "good" with flaws that can always improve. I'm fighting the good fight against "all (or MOST) women / men do (insert horrible thing here)." I think it's just as bad as racism and I can't believe it is as acceptable as it is here. 1
Philosoraptor Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Many people have been hurt and express that in their posts and judgements of the opposite sex. The truth is that each person is a unique individual and deserves a clean slate with zero negative expectations put on them. Sure you were cheated on, but that doesn't make all men or women cheaters. If you go into things feeling that "all men" or "all women" do xyz, you are just creating a self fulfilling prophecy where your insecurities will push someone away. You should always protect yourself, but don't do so at the expense of others. 1
USMCHokie Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Absolutely and without a doubt. I think there are a lot more "good" people out there than LS threads make it seem...it's just that people's few bad experiences tend to overshadow their otherwise humdrum experiences with genuinely quality people...
verhrzn Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Yeah, there are good men out there. They're just all taken or interested in near perfection.
Philosoraptor Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Yeah, there are good men out there. They're just all taken or interested in near perfection. I know many a good man and woman whom can't find a date at all.
Andy_K Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 There are lots of good women out there. I've recently been out on a few dates with one. Unfortunately it turns out that she, like many others, is looking for something other than me!
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 LOL, OP. Why would you ask this question on a dating forum? Many posters are too bitter against the opposite gender to acknowledge there are good people out there for them.
happiness0421 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 LOL, OP. Why would you ask this question on a dating forum? Many posters are too bitter against the opposite gender to acknowledge there are good people out there for them. LOL very true! The only time I frequent this forum is when someone recently screwed me over, unfortunately! I have to say, this is something I think about pretty often. And it is easy to get caught up in the idea that ALL guys (in my case) suck. However, I know that's not true for two reasons: 1. Most of my friends have great significant others that love them and treat them well. 2. More importantly, I dated one (yes, only one!) guy who was genuinely a good guy. So good, in fact, that we were together for 6 years and he asked me to marry him. I ended up leaving the relationship because I knew in my heart that we just weren't right for each other. But you know what? We are still good friends, and we have a tremendous amount of respect for one another because we were both honest with each other. THAT is how I know that good guys do exist, and it IS possible to find someone that will do anything for you and to be with you. Anything less than that is unacceptable!
carhill Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I encounter lots of 'good people' each day I happen to immerse in local society. In fact, currently rehabbing a house in a 'borderline' neighborhood, I've come to really appreciate the good people who take what an outsider like myself might call 'borderline' and make it a positive place for people to live. Such examples uplift my faith in humanity. I spend little time on pressing flesh of late so don't really have a strong opinion on the dating/mating front, though conventional wisdom would indicate a dynamic similar to what I observed above.
FrustratedStandards Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 There are plenty of beautiful and incredible people out there. The only reason so many people complain on LS is because they can't find one that suits them. 1
olivec Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Yeah, there are good men out there. They're just all taken or interested in near perfection. Well then i'm one of the good ones because i certainly want a relationship in the future. We all feel that pain which in turn leads to negative feelings towards the opposite sex. I felt that way after my last breakup that I couldn't find a good woman. The only thing is if you feel that way forever you'll also be alone forever. The biggest turn around for me was to stop taking my breakup with my gf personal. At the end of the day theres always gunna be people that hurt you or dissappoint you, but you can't put those feeling on everybody you meet or the next partner your interested in. You gotta free yourself of the anger or its just gunna be worse before it gets better.
threebyfate Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Of course there are decent people on this earth. I would even hazard over 80% of them are decent individuals, mucking and grinding their way through life, trying to do the best they can with the skill set they possess. The most extreme haters of either gender are individuals who project their own negative issues onto the other gender. If they personally are capable of such, so will the other gender, hence fear and insecurity causes fight or flight. It's much like homophobics who project their internal hatred of their sexual desires onto others who resonate same. 3
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I'm not a good man. I won't speak for anyone else. Well … I must confess, I'm not either.
Jane2011 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Yeah, I definitely know a lot of good men. And the two I've been in love with are what I consider good men.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Yes.. my uncle is a very good and respectable man. He is humble and avery honest and tenacious man. He doesn't smoke or drink. He was like a father to me. They say women tend to marry men who resemble their fathers and I suppose that is true I usually seek out my uncle's traits in men.
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