shamone222 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Hi Everyone, Feel free to read my background stories. So this has been around 1 month no contact, im in a much better place than i was after the breakup. iv even started dating and have met someone new (for fun and frolics) , cant say i want to get into another serious relationship as of yet but what i can say is that it will only be good for me. i do feel no contact is the fastest way to heal, if i was even in low contact i probably still would feel like i did after breakup. my birthday passed yesterday and never recieved a happy birthday wish. in a way its good because it would have led to false hope or maybe mixed signals. but on the other hand it means she probably has moved on or even also met someone new, and no longer has feelings or cares for me. as sad as it sounds il have to accept it and keep moving forward. im confused of what to do now because her birthday is also in a couple of days. she didnt send me her wishes, but apart of me feels i should send her a light text saying ''happy birthday, hope u have a good one!'' or someting along those lines.. it would be just to show that im a decent guy for remembering! your thoughts? so after 1 month of no contact, you will have 1 foot out of the hurt from the breakup, im estimating another month or 2 until im close to fully healed. i look forward to it! peace everyone!!
robkris8079 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I'm coming up on my 1month anniversary too! Congrats on how you are doing. I also have been NC. Except 2 text replies to her for something she was looking for. I don't even count those. I too met someone and she is waiting for me to call/text her but I'm not even sure how to approach it. I don't really want to date anyone but I do want to broaden my circle of friends. If I was you I wouldn't contact your ex on her bday or any other day. Just not worth it at this point really. No one will benefit from it. If it's just to show her your a decent guy well it doesn't even really matter what she thinks now unless your trying to be friends again. Would you text happy bday to the cashier at the grocery store? You have about as much relationship with her then your ex at this point. 1
TaraMaiden Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 1 month accomplished is the same as a year... as long as you're willing for it to work.... for those who cannot move on, 1 month might as well be a moment.... good for you.... Keep on keeping on! 1
Author shamone222 Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 i do feel like i have accomplished something! robkris8079, about the girl you are seeing, have you let her know that at this time you are not looking for something too serious? be honest with her and see if she still wants to hang out. i was honest with the one i am dating and she completely understands, we hang out at weekends and go out and have alot of fun. but im in the same boat as you i think, aslong as the ex is floating the mind you cant take that step further into another new relationship. also dont want to get the girl hurt.
robkris8079 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 We only chatted the one night so far. Didn't get into any details but I told her I'll call her sometime. I want to and most likely will. Yeah just going to be honest bout my intentions.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Hi Everyone, Feel free to read my background stories. So this has been around 1 month no contact, im in a much better place than i was after the breakup. iv even started dating and have met someone new (for fun and frolics) , cant say i want to get into another serious relationship as of yet but what i can say is that it will only be good for me. i do feel no contact is the fastest way to heal, if i was even in low contact i probably still would feel like i did after breakup. my birthday passed yesterday and never recieved a happy birthday wish. in a way its good because it would have led to false hope or maybe mixed signals. but on the other hand it means she probably has moved on or even also met someone new, and no longer has feelings or cares for me. as sad as it sounds il have to accept it and keep moving forward. im confused of what to do now because her birthday is also in a couple of days. she didnt send me her wishes, but apart of me feels i should send her a light text saying ''happy birthday, hope u have a good one!'' or someting along those lines.. it would be just to show that im a decent guy for remembering! your thoughts? so after 1 month of no contact, you will have 1 foot out of the hurt from the breakup, im estimating another month or 2 until im close to fully healed. i look forward to it! peace everyone!! No birthday wishes; she's out of your life; she didn't extend that courtesy to you. That small text could open a can of worms you don't want, or she will ignore you which will hurt. You are a decent guy anyway and a decent guy who is healing. You can't put a time limit on healing; you will heal when you heal. You have a positive attitude:)
ThatDudeXO Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 *high fives* I've just gone over a month and a bit. It feels sooo long but it makes a huuuge difference! Good luck my friend, it only gets better. 2
Author shamone222 Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 Cheers for the response! anyway i took another step, and blocked her from my email also no longer friends on fb!! so can only suggest people who are ready to let go and truely move on to do the same. i would even change my number but it seems too much hassle! good luck everyone, il post back in another month or if anything comes up! peace and love 1
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