Francoise Posted June 15, 2004 Posted June 15, 2004 Here is my story: I met a guy a week ago, and we hit it off right away. We have very common backgrounds and very similar interests. He knows I am working 2 jobs and therefore I cannot really see him very often. He demanded at the beginning of the dating that he has to see me more than 2 hours a weekend, because he wants to get to know me. He has been very respectful, asking me permission to touch me or to kiss me. He said he never had been like this before. He called me very often, and he returned my phone calls right away (next minute or the most 10 minutes). I told him from the beginning, that my night job is as a stripper. He seemed ok with it. After being with him on 5 dates,( everyday I saw him, since we met), in one day he called me saying that he is very busy and he will not be able to see me. I said ok.The next day, he calls me at 7 o’clock in the morning, and than at 8 and than at 9, asking me to call him back. When I called him he said he did not want to lie to me, but he is been dating other women and he wants to keep his options open, and he cannot be my exclusive boy-friend. I said Ok. I am pretty easy going, and I do not have a problem going with the flow. I called him back and I said, in this situation is better to be just friends, since we do go out to the same places in the night, to not feel awkward if we bumped into each other. I went last week out and he knows exactly which is the place where I hang out, because is 3 minutes from my home. I know he usually does not go there.There he was, not with one but with 2 women; he came in my circle, I was with 3 guys, and he gave me a big hug and kissed me on the cheeks; than he is staying right across me making out with those women. I completely ignored him. Than, his best friend comes and hangs out with me, asking me stupid questions such as, with whom I came in the club, and with whom I am. I left the club much earlier than usually, because I felt stupid. Since than, I have not talk to him, he has not been calling me at all. I try to figure what was he doing?? Why would he tell me every day how beautiful, smart , perfect I am , how much he likes me and he respects me…and all that , being so admin about seeing me every day, asking me permission to kiss me or to touch me, all those ridiculous things, when he does not have a problem making out in the front of me with other women…Something is missing in the picture. He was lying all the way? I did not ask him to call me every day and I did not ask him to see me every day. These were his requests. This is just crazy….I dated a lot of men, but this never happen to me, to feel that everything is perfect, and actually it was not. Can you explain me what was all about? As a last remark, we did not sleep together, we just kissed.
krbshappy71 Posted June 15, 2004 Posted June 15, 2004 Eh, I wouldn't spend anymore time on this guy. He's fishing around, obviously. Praises to you for not sleeping with him right off the bat. Hopefully he will go away and you can find someone that will be good to you AND wont play games. Best of luck!
disguy Posted June 16, 2004 Posted June 16, 2004 I agree with krbshappy71. Lose the loser because he's not worth your time. It is obvious that he wants to keep his options open (i.e find someone better). I wouldn't bother with it unless your ready for some drama in your life.
Author Francoise Posted June 16, 2004 Author Posted June 16, 2004 Ok, great advices, Thank You.This is exactly what I thought. He is out the door already. Wouldn;t be easier to say it from the beginning? Instead trying to impress me for a week? This is crazy. Why do some people try so hard to be who they are really not?Uhhh, crazy world out there I guess. Thanks, one more time.
faux Posted June 16, 2004 Posted June 16, 2004 Originally posted by Francoise Ok, great advices, Thank You.This is exactly what I thought. He is out the door already. Wouldn;t be easier to say it from the beginning? Instead trying to impress me for a week? This is crazy. Why do some people try so hard to be who they are really not?Uhhh, crazy world out there I guess. Thanks, one more time. I am really uncertain as to why people do these sorts of things. I believe you handled the situation well, however, as you are not stressing out over it. I would wonder about his behavior as well if I were in your position. I think that I would have just shrugged and said to myself, "He's an odd one. Pretty confused. Oh well. Good thing I did not invest that much in this person."
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