some see me as quiet

[darkmoon]

how do I make myself more lively, without lookking fake? i think it is to do wih thinking happy so I am more bubbly but would like input

[TaraMaiden]

you don't. just carry on being the person you are.

There's nothing wrong with it....

 

Has someone made negative comment, or is this a 'flaw' you see in yourself?

[darkmoon]

jus feedback i've had in my gut (most reliable, am a psychic) am not unpoular but dating requires being good company or someone else will be

 

i think i should make friends with men and thus worry less about perfecting myself - do you?

i find dating an ordeal - the men want a screw while they might have female friends to whom they are loyaler - seen it over and over

Edited April 3, 2012 by darkmoon

[TaraMaiden]

Nobody's perfect. what is one person's ideal, will tun another off completely.

 

Just strive to be the best person you can be, and one that when you look in the mirror, makes you glad to see what you see.

 

As the French say, "be completely comfortable in your own skin."

[gaius]

You always seemed like a lot of fun to me based on your posts. Men want to have sex with you but would rather spend time with other women? You don't talk very much with guys you're interested in?

[darkmoon]

thank you, yes, look in the mirror, the best version i can be, i guess we're all nervous, well some are. won't be coming back to th thread, cuz i see what you mean

[darkmoon]

@ gaius, hello thread re-opened...

 

You always seemed like a lot of fun to me based on your posts. Men want to have sex with you but would rather spend time with other women? You don't talk very much with guys you're interested in?

 

no i'ts a pattern i have, tawdry dressing when t-shirts and jeans are safer, a differnent signal to men and a better start for me

 

my latest disaster finds me funny, but is screwing the lodger who is a freind of his, other situations are similar, it's the way they don't put me as number one that worries me

[TaraMaiden]

You teach people how to treat you.

if you don't get put as number one, look at how your tawdry dress-sense speaks to them....

 

(tawdry.... lovely word!)

[oldguy]

jus feedback i've had in my gut (most reliable, am a psychic) am not unpoular but dating requires being good company or someone else will be

 

i think i should make friends with men and thus worry less about perfecting myself - do you?

No

i find dating an ordeal - the men want a screw while they might have female friends to whom they are loyaler - seen it over and over

You need to change your venue to meet men that are better suited to you rather than trying to custom build you for them.

It's tragic when two people who are perfectly suited pass each other by because they are dressed as someone else.

[darkmoon]

well, am going to talks at th library....

i get fancied sometimes, we all do

[oldguy]

well, am going to talks at th library....

i get fancied sometimes, we all do

And how has that been working for you?

[darkmoon]

And how has that been working for you?

 

used a bit, but learning here

[oldguy]

As the French say, "be completely comfortable in your own skin."

What the French actually say is; être complètement à l'aise dans votre propre peau :laugh:

 

used a bit, but learning here

I was simply suggesting that if whatever it is your doing, irregardless of how comfortable it is, if it isn't getting you the results you desire you might want to consider something else. "the definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over and expect different results". But then I realized that was just supporting my opinion that you shouldn't change who you are but what you are willing to except from others.

[gaius]

You must just have a thing for men who are unavailable.