jiffy88 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Hi, I hooked up with this girl in January. Before that, my friend informally introduced us online as I was planning a vacation to the city she lived. We chatted for months before I finally arrived to her city. We hooked up and things were looking good for the time I spent in the city. Then after I left, we still had a good time with our IMs and Skype video chats. Shortly after, she accepted a new job in her family business and became extremely busy with all the work. Our conversations became really short, not much intimacy or passion... then after a couple weeks she told me she met her ex and her ex wanted to get back together. She saw him again. She is really confused on what she wants, and doubted how well we would continue if I moved there. Her work became even more busy and we rarely talk. I wanted to talk this thing out, but she misunderstood it as a way to argue and kept dodging it for two weeks. Soon I got really irritated with the whole entire situation, and told her off and end it. She apologized about it and told me if she made me upset, I could break it. I told her how I felt, then the next day she said she is fed up with the whole situation, and broke it herself. Now, I really want to give it a try with her while I move to her city, but she is fed up and broke it off. What should I do? Apologize for the long story
TMichaels Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 What should I do? Ummm... How big do the letters need to be on the wall before you can read them? The lady said her ex- is back in her life and she doesn't see how you'd fit because of that development. Your conversations before the break (but after the ex- was back in the picture) were short and lacked intimacy and passion. Instead of talking things out like adults, you both got ticked off at each other and took turns playing the "I'm dumping you; no.., I'm dumping YOU!" game which isn't exactly a sign the two of you are mature enough to handle being in a healthy relationship of any duration. She's apparently moved on with her life, witnessed by the fact *she's* not sniffing around trying to see if *you're* still holding a candle for her. Do you really need to ask the question what should you do? <shaking head> Best, TMichaels
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