missyme04 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Hi! I am having trouble meeting new guys. I was thinking of trying online dating. Does anyone have any advice on the best sites to use or any other tips I should keep in mind when looking for someone?
Eddie Edirol Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Dont bother with online dating, it takes to long to make sure that the guys that are messaging you arent creeps, or just looking for sex. Go to bars, clubs, supermarkets, parks, just start chatting men up. You can tell their intentions just by talking to them in person. 1
Author missyme04 Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 Thank you Ahmmmm. What's a good place to go on a first date?
ascendotum Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Thank you Ahmmmm. What's a good place to go on a first date? Leave it up to the guy to sort that out. I thought you were already doing online dating, and getting lots of msgs from guys along with lot of d**k pics. Have you not gone on any dates with any of the guys showing interest with you online? Don't any guys that cross your path during the week, flirt or show interest in you...and do you engage in conversations with them or get all shy?
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 You're having trouble meeting men in New York and New Jersey? Wow. That's like saying you are having trouble getting a tan in the Sahara Desert. 1
Author missyme04 Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 Leave it up to the guy to sort that out. I thought you were already doing online dating, and getting lots of msgs from guys along with lot of d**k pics. Have you not gone on any dates with any of the guys showing interest with you online? Don't any guys that cross your path during the week, flirt or show interest in you...and do you engage in conversations with them or get all shy? Yeah! Doing online dating but I cant see serious guys there. They always find ways to say "Go to my place, let's talk there and have a little drink" etc. Then I stop communicating with them. Eeerrrrrr
Author missyme04 Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 You're having trouble meeting men in New York and New Jersey? Wow. That's like saying you are having trouble getting a tan in the Sahara Desert. I dont have trouble on guys saying "Let's go out and have some date", "Let's drink and go to some parties", etc. But after how many messages they end up sending pictures their ******* (you know). It gets me offended
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I dont have trouble on guys saying "Let's go out and have some date", "Let's drink and go to some parties", etc. But after how many messages they end up sending pictures their ******* (you know). It gets me offended Are you saying all guys you meet do this?
Fondue Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I have a feeling we live in the same general area. I don't think you should be having any trouble finding dudes, especially that it appears you're an attractive individual. I never tried online dating, but from what I gather, for those who are looking in the 20-30yo range, it is mostly a cesspool of degenerates. 1
fucpcg Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Online dating works just fine, if you stay away from the free sites. Volunteering, like say at animal shelters. Play sports leagues. Join a gym. Find an Outdoors Club, or in bigger cities sometimes Singles Outdoor Club. Cycling, rollerblading clubs. Young Professionals clubs. It's endless, if you think outside the bar. 1
Lobouspo Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Hey Missy, have you met anyone online yet? I cant believe all the messages you get are from the creepers! Why not try meetups, if you're in school get involved with extra curricular activities, or pick a volunteer organization for a cause you care about. You're a pretty girl, i cant believe you're having difficulty meeting a decent guy.
Andy_K Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I dont have trouble on guys saying "Let's go out and have some date", "Let's drink and go to some parties", etc. But after how many messages they end up sending pictures their ******* (you know). It gets me offended You're being very naive. If a guy writes to you and is saying 'lets drink and go to parties', he's blatantly just after a good time, wants to bang you, and it is not the least bit surprising that he later sends you c*ck pictures. Try responding to the guys who seem to be making an effort to actually find out stuff about you and get to know you. The ones who ask you what you do in your spare time, what kind of guy you're looking for, what your ideal relationship would be like, how long you've lived in the area, that sort of thing.
Author missyme04 Posted April 5, 2012 Author Posted April 5, 2012 I think the problem is I'm on the FREE dating site. I still havent seen a guy who had some effort, I mean *GREAT* effort for me to like him. I'm the one who even suggests for meet-ups but they refuse. Eeeee
kaylan Posted April 5, 2012 Posted April 5, 2012 I think the problem is I'm on the FREE dating site. I still havent seen a guy who had some effort, I mean *GREAT* effort for me to like him. I'm the one who even suggests for meet-ups but they refuse. Eeeee Youre doing it wrong imo. A lot of guys dont wanna feel this big pressure on them to put on a show for a girl. Why must he put forth huge effort for you to like him? Either you dig him, or you dont. Things should move slowly, but steadily, and you both should be relaxed about the whole thing. You should both put your best foots forward, but to need someoen to show great effort? That doesnt sound appealing to me...and if a girl put in way too much effort early on, itd seem needy, clingly, or moving too fast for me. It should all be organic. Dont have too many expectations. Take things for what they are and just meet a few nice guys and take it from there. Its rare for someones online persona to truly match their offline one....so just because they dont know your socks off online does not mean they cant do it in person. 1
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