ascendotum Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 What if walking up to someone, smiling and saying "hey." leads to them just looking at you or not saying anything at all? What if it just leads to awkward silence? Do you expect the person to know what to say to you to get things going when you approach them? I doubt this'd work for me. I've had it happen, and I hate it...awkward alright. If the girl gives you you a smirk then she's making you work for her attention, but if not, then you have your answer on how she feels about you. Its not much of brain buster to respond back with a hi at the very least. You could follow up with a smartarse comment or lame comment and move on or just forge on with whatever you were going to use as your opening conversation. 1
ascendotum Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I have to admit I have a serious sauntering issue...even when attention whoring, I find it impossible to make quality eye contact...my natural instinct has always been to look "beyond" people and not pay attention to them...I might occasionally catch a glance of someone looking at me, but for the most part, I have no idea...so if I'm sauntering past people, it looks like I'm either completely ignoring them...or socially retarded... I can relate to this to a degree at various times in my life, especially when up close. If you just out looking around to see what prospects are available, then I can understand the lack of conviction in making eye contact, but when you see a girl you really fancy, you should have a hard time taking your eyes off her. I was thinking of the suation, where the girl might be lying on her towel to the side the pool, and you walk past after doing a few laps, that you look to the side straight at her as you walk along instead of looking straight ahead, and she hopefully notices and you can smile back as an ice breaker. You still need to start a convo at some stage, ideally in casual manner. It would be easier when she's in the water.
betterdeal Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I have to admit I have a serious sauntering issue...even when attention whoring, I find it impossible to make quality eye contact...my natural instinct has always been to look "beyond" people and not pay attention to them...I might occasionally catch a glance of someone looking at me, but for the most part, I have no idea...so if I'm sauntering past people, it looks like I'm either completely ignoring them...or socially retarded... If you find eye contact a bit too intense, look at their eyebrows or nose. It looks like you're making eye contact but feels less intense, and in time you are likely to find actually making eye contact more comfortable. 1
somedude81 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 No mixed groups because you can't tell if there's a brother or boyfriend among them. Girls there solo or up to a 3-person girl group would be fine. Thing is, Hokie, not to put too fine a point on it, but your body is outrageous. Given that, if you're hanging out within eyeshot for a good while, the girls will have noticed you. So, that paves the way a bit. Keep that in mind when choosing your chaise. And also before you approach. Read your Kindle with one eye, take in who's scoping you out, with the other. Any advice if you don't look like Hookie? I'm assuming things would be very difficult in a pool situation. Must be all in the way you say it because "nice day, huh?" sounds really hot fartish toooo me. I'd go with something like the great somedude once said... literaly just going off the titles to his post would be poetic "Is it a crime for non top men to not want to date fat women?" I can just imagine the response it would elicit "no sir, its not a crime please sit down and join me and my hour glass figured friends, we'd enjoy your company." LOL, it's the next evolution of Who lies more and David Bowie poster openers. Walk up to a hotty whose bits are being held up by two pieces of dental floss, "Hey there. My friend (point to some random fat guy or anybody who is obviously not a fine physical specimen) is only into real hot girls and he thinks that he should only date/sex/hook up with them and that girls with a few extra pounds aren't good enough for him." BTW, I just realized, that if a man is a non-top guy, then he must be a bottom ....... I still don't know what the hell a non-top man is... Somebody who is not considered ideal by the majority of women. No one is going to get annoyed and think that George Clooney should settle for an average girl because she has a nice personality.
gotye Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 if you don't know how to read how are you reading this forum?
Kamille Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 :laugh::laugh: I actually lolz'ed at this... I still don't know what the hell a non-top man is... Not you Hokie (), you are not a non-top man. I have to admit I have a serious sauntering issue...even when attention whoring, I find it impossible to make quality eye contact...my natural instinct has always been to look "beyond" people and not pay attention to them...I might occasionally catch a glance of someone looking at me, but for the most part, I have no idea...so if I'm sauntering past people, it looks like I'm either completely ignoring them...or socially retarded... Who are you? The boy from Ipanema? I actually get this. I also tend to look past people when out in public. I can usually only flirt if a friend is there with me, and I'm flirting as part of a game. That said, a smile, "hello", "Nice day [ or comment on the weather/water/atmosphere/chairs/drinks/anything in the environment]" are good openers. Hello is non-treatening. Studies have shown that the reason we talk about the weather and our environment so much is because it allows us to connect with people without the focus being on us or them. From the approachee's point of view, it's easier to respond to a comment about the weather than to a stranger immediately asking (general) you about yourself. And Cerri is absolutely right: put yourself in high traffic areas. When you go get a drink or food at the bar, lounge a little, nod and smile at cute girls when they walk up. These are all minor little things you can do that have the advantage of not being too taxing, confidence wise. Once you get comfortable with these, then you can perhaps move on to Dust-y techniques. (See, they're quite advanced. The man must hold a Ph.D in the Study of Women (not to be confused with Women's Studies ). If all else fails, jump out from behind a bush and fall at their feet. 1
Author USMCHokie Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 If you find eye contact a bit too intense, look at their eyebrows or nose. It looks like you're making eye contact but feels less intense, and in time you are likely to find actually making eye contact more comfortable. Well, I don't have issues with eye contact during normal conversation and I'm not at all uncomfortable with it in public or even when public speaking...it's specifically when I'm without a shirt on...whether I'm at the pool/beach or running sans shirt...I just subconsciously avoid eye contact with people...maybe I'm trying to "play it cool" or something...I find it really hard to explain...
Author USMCHokie Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 If all else fails, jump out from behind a bush and fall at their feet. You know I'd only do that for you, Kam...
Dust Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 You know I'd only do that for you, Kam... Kamille is a heart breaker. Show her no mercy in the bedroom, spank her butt raw. 3
MrNate 2.0 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Kamille is a heart breaker. Show her no mercy in the bedroom, spank her butt raw. I think we should get somedude, hokie, wholigan, cracker jack, and we should all go roam the beaches of Florida terrorizing women. We can let somedude create our pick up lines. It would be great. 1
Dust Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I think we should get somedude, hokie, wholigan, cracker jack, and we should all go roam the beaches of Florida terrorizing women. We can let somedude create our pick up lines. It would be great. Yes I was just reading through a few more Somedude classic question openers. I havn't even delved into the massive wealth of panty dropping conversation knowledge with in the threads... A few more titles which caught my eye as good ice breakers for girls on the beach are "how do I become a rebound guy?" and of course what women can resist giving advice on "Whats the best way to make nerdy girls like you?" He does have some duds though, I mean I'm not sure how well his "How do I stop bugs from biting me while I sleep?" would go over... but who am I to question it. Those Florida babes wouldn't know what hit em. You all think I'm joking Mr. Nate 2.0 knows I'm not. LETS DO IT 1
FitChick Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 How about "Do you think I should get another tattoo?" 1
Feelin Frisky Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I'm hoping he wasn't serious either...but regarding your rather simple approach...is it crazy enough to work...? I'm just trying to avoid the stigma that comes with "the douche with the body" who hits on every girl...I'd almost rather meet them with my shirt on...then take it off once rapport has been built and we decide to jump in the pool or something... My advice to you is to definitely leave the shirt on and yes, be very simple and non intrusive by saying something as mundane as "nice day". Some women really just want their own space and not to be hit on. So, it makes no sense to contrive a major line like Taxi Driver said. If she is in a socializing mood she'll respond. IF she's not she may roll over and tan the opposite butt cheek. It's very simple, If she answers positive that it's a nice day or the flowers on the tree look pretty or weird for this time of year or w/e the ef, then you pitch your name and see if a conversation proceeds. If you take your shirt off however and flash that back of yours (I hope your stomach isn't adorned as well) you will probably indeed project something along the lines of the tatted douche with the 6 pack cruising the pool for a suitable receptical for your spermatozoa. Maybe she'll be delighted with that and show you the snake she had done on her ass. But I'm old fashion--ok, hell, just old, and none of that computes with me. Good luck homey.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 I suggest you come armed with a snorkel, mask and flippers. Stealth approach from underwater.
carhill Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Reading this thread caused me to remember many scenes from classic Ian Fleming inspired flirtations by his quintessential lady's man, James Bond. from "Never Say Never", especially interesting from time index 1:42. The texture creates the mood. In the movie, of course, it's scripted. IRL, IME, it often works the same way. If it doesn't, no harm, no foul, just smile and move on. A little flattery can get you everywhere and, at worst, it can feel good, even momentarily. Life is about moments. 1
MrNate 2.0 Posted April 3, 2012 Posted April 3, 2012 Yes I was just reading through a few more Somedude classic question openers. I havn't even delved into the massive wealth of panty dropping conversation knowledge with in the threads... A few more titles which caught my eye as good ice breakers for girls on the beach are "how do I become a rebound guy?" and of course what women can resist giving advice on "Whats the best way to make nerdy girls like you?" He does have some duds though, I mean I'm not sure how well his "How do I stop bugs from biting me while I sleep?" would go over... but who am I to question it. Those Florida babes wouldn't know what hit em. You all think I'm joking Mr. Nate 2.0 knows I'm not. LETS DO IT I'm down! Let's get it.
Author USMCHokie Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 I think we should get somedude, hokie, wholigan, cracker jack, and we should all go roam the beaches of Florida terrorizing women. We can let somedude create our pick up lines. It would be great. Those Florida babes wouldn't know what hit em. You all think I'm joking Mr. Nate 2.0 knows I'm not. LETS DO IT I'm down! Let's get it. Let's do it. Though who will be the lucky SOB who gets to deliver these gems...? Or do we get to take turns...?
Necris Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I think you guys should , this is sage advice on how to approach women. Maybe I should try it as well. 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Let's do it. Though who will be the lucky SOB who gets to deliver these gems...? Or do we get to take turns...? You totally should do it. And have it all videoed. Then edit it into "lessons" and sell DVD's. Soon you'll be leading seminars and training other men, and rolling in dough.
Author USMCHokie Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 I suggest you come armed with a snorkel, mask and flippers. Stealth approach from underwater. Hmmm, the Scuba Steve approach...I like it... My advice to you is to definitely leave the shirt on and yes, be very simple and non intrusive by saying something as mundane as "nice day". Some women really just want their own space and not to be hit on. So, it makes no sense to contrive a major line like Taxi Driver said. If she is in a socializing mood she'll respond. IF she's not she may roll over and tan the opposite butt cheek. It's very simple, If she answers positive that it's a nice day or the flowers on the tree look pretty or weird for this time of year or w/e the ef, then you pitch your name and see if a conversation proceeds. If you take your shirt off however and flash that back of yours (I hope your stomach isn't adorned as well) you will probably indeed project something along the lines of the tatted douche with the 6 pack cruising the pool for a suitable receptical for your spermatozoa. Maybe she'll be delighted with that and show you the snake she had done on her ass. But I'm old fashion--ok, hell, just old, and none of that computes with me. Good luck homey. Hah, thanks, and no, nothing will ever go on the front...but I like that approach...though would it not be weird that I'm the only person at the pool who keeps his shirt on...?
Author USMCHokie Posted April 4, 2012 Author Posted April 4, 2012 I think you guys should , this is sage advice on how to approach women. Maybe I should try it as well. I think that might be as revolutionary as The Game...
MrNate 2.0 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Let's do it. Though who will be the lucky SOB who gets to deliver these gems...? Or do we get to take turns...? We have to take turns otherwise it won't be fun.
MrNate 2.0 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 I think you guys should , this is sage advice on how to approach women. Maybe I should try it as well. I approve of this video.
MrNate 2.0 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 You like? Yes. It was clear she liked the strong/silent type. My favorite part was when he stroked her hair.
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